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cube
04-23-2003, 02:05 PM
It was night and I was almost done with my costume. My parents told me it's time to turn off that sewing machine. Okay fair enough it's late and people have to go to work tomorrow. I tried on my costume to see how it looks and my parents *not at all pleased* , "You do know that in some parts of this country people get shot for wearing something like that!".

me: It's called crossplay and there's other people who do it also.

parents: That's disgusting and hanging around sick people doesn't make you normal. Why can't you be like your sister and put your time into something more meaningful. You do know she's now been promoted to a project manager and has passed her *pm?* test.

me: Hey I have a decent job and I pay my taxes so that makes me a productive citizen:D As long as I "pull my own weight" what I do in my free time should not be an issue.

parents: your free time would be better spent doing something that could help your career. If not that then at least a normal hobby.

me: :rolleyes: you sound like such typical asian parents

parents: that's because we are. and one other thing if you want to get dressed up for a convention do it there and not here. I don't want the neighbors to see you like this. They'll think we're all weird. You look absolutely ridiculous. If you keep this up you're going to get messed up in the head.

kris
04-23-2003, 02:11 PM
^-^; my parents dont think normal cosplay is normal. But since I am the only son, I am tolerate-- as long as I use a fake name and NEVER tell my family name at a event ^-^;;;;;; And my dad said: "Please never wear a dress."

I dont think I would any way but, I comply to his request ^-^; My poor father is allready stress.

khamryn
04-23-2003, 02:24 PM
o.O;

Eep.. ::Offers a hug.:: I wish there were more parents like mine.. they -help- me make my costumes (all of which are crossplay)

cube
04-23-2003, 03:30 PM
Originally posted by kris
^-^; my parents dont think normal cosplay is normal. But since I am the only son, I am tolerate-- as long as I use a fake name and NEVER tell my family name at a event ^-^;;;;;; And my dad said: "Please never wear a dress."

I dont think I would any way but, I comply to his request ^-^; My poor father is allready stress. wow not even normal cosplay? I guess my plight doesn't seem so rough now. As for using the family name I use my real name on convention badges.

And no my parents would never help me make my own costumes. they can barely stand watching me make'em myself. And besides I can sew better then them:D

Menchi
04-23-2003, 03:47 PM
atleast i am not the only one with weird parents...my mother once said to me "no son of mine is going to wear womens clothes..." an seemed rahter serious about it. i know my granma woudl totally disown me for my costumes too. so what if i think it is amusing to dress like a girl, wear make up, an so on. like you said cube..what you do on your own time shuldnt be an issue. but my family doesnt seem to think that way...my dad woudl give me a "man to man talk" about the fact i wear dresses an rather short ones at that in public but i am old enough to make my own decisions an they should jus accept the fact that i dont wanna be jus like everyone else. but for now they dont know an i wanna keep it that way...till they can accept the fact i woudl do such a "weird thing" *shrugs*

khamryn
04-23-2003, 03:55 PM
cube- XD ^^

c.c;

on the subject of grandparents if my grandma ever knew she would have a heart attack and disown me. ::laugh:: ^_^;;;;;

domestik
04-23-2003, 04:21 PM
M'mum's main problem with the entire thing is... well... money. o_O; We're not exactly financially booming or stable so she gets worried quite a bit, since it IS an expensive hobby. ^^;

Another minor problem she has with cosplaying in general is: what's the point in it??

The whole issue of crossplay and cosplay hasn't bugged her. Even when I run around the house in full makeup and half-dressed in my costumes. She just stares at me for a bit and then goes on with her business, or she ignores it entirely and considers it normal insane behavior for me. o_O

I guess I'm rather lucky that she only complains about me going away for short periods of time and not having enough money... and is willing to help me or have my aunt help me whenever I have to make stuff. ^^; She even suggested I go into fashion design because I seem so into the whole costume and clothes making....

Yanno... if I started doing commissions maybe she won't mind as much since I'll be making money and developing designing and sewing skills. @_@

M'mum is a strange blend of a typical/untypical Asian parent.

Lainish Kuma
04-23-2003, 05:40 PM
^^;; My grandma helps me make patterns.

XD

Karisu-sama
04-23-2003, 05:51 PM
Originally posted by khamryn
o.O;

Eep.. ::Offers a hug.:: I wish there were more parents like mine.. they -help- me make my costumes (all of which are crossplay)
*HUGS* too.....

I wish more parents were like ME. ;) I crossplay, my daughters crossplay, my husband does not, but he puts up with us, LOL...

My mom never had any trouble with my costuming when I was growing up (I didn't do crossplay back then), and now that I'm actually "grown up" (hah!) and out on my own and married with kids (like a nice, dutiful daughter), she just shrugs her shoulders at the crossplay... (I think she's reassured by us being so conventional and boring IRL, so Big Deal what we do for cons...)

megumibish
04-23-2003, 07:55 PM
My mom is soo understanding of me. I told her recently I wanna crossplay as Sesshomaru and she's like whatever. Doesn't seem to bother her in the slightest. Added thing is she doesn't even mind that I'm a yaoi comic artist either. My group has been together forever and she's cool and even reads some of my stuff. Lol, I'm lucky. That and she totally knows I'm a fashion wh*re and puts up with me. When I think about it I love her more. ^_^ Dad says this, "Do whatever floats your boat." But he is a bit cautious about my spending. Typical asian dad thing, as said before...heh but I'm only half asian. =P

khamryn
04-23-2003, 11:39 PM
Karisu- XD Yeah... you rock. ^_^ ::Grins.::

Miroku
04-24-2003, 05:58 AM
It was night and I was almost done with my costume. My parents told me it's time to turn off that sewing machine. Okay fair enough it's late and people have to go to work tomorrow. I tried on my costume to see how it looks and my parents *not at all pleased* , "You do know that in some parts of this country people get shot for wearing something like that!".

Hmm, I think I would have avoided them if I was going to be doing something like that. I try to avoid my parents with costumes in general. Not because of the costume itself, but because I know it would take me thirty minutes of questions to explain what cosplay is, and then what anime is, and why dressing up as a "cartoon character" is fun...etc.

digikoomi
04-24-2003, 08:54 AM
My parents don't like me to do cosplay either, but if I don't over done it they are OK with me.

Hikaruchan
04-24-2003, 09:47 AM
My mom is okay with my crossplay and other females. She just finds guys crossplaying weird. And any pics that my grandmother sees have had male crossplayers or skimpy outfit shots removed on recommendation of my mom.

Menchi
04-24-2003, 11:11 AM
its kinda annoying how old stereotypes die hard...my granma always labels the ppl (girls dressing as girls/guys an guys as guys/girls) as a "bunch of queers, an weirdos" it jus makes me glad i wasnt born a long time ago. with such generalizations like that from her i spend most my time away from her...even a plushy isnt able to dodge her comments. she feels i "could be puttin my enerygy to better things". as is its better she doesnt know i like to go as female chars...b.c woooo she would dis-own me so fast!

Taisei
04-24-2003, 04:31 PM
Time to de-lurk; I have to add my input to this.

It's almost sad that parents seperate themselves from their children's hobbies just because they don't understand them. I know that most of my true "quality time" with my mom is spent in front of the sewing machine, or in the garage-turned-workshop making props for crossplay. Even my grandma has been helping me out, which is both amusing and awesome at the same time. I wouldn't get far without their combined efforts. It's too bad not everyone recieves the same support.

Agrias
04-25-2003, 11:24 AM
Sorry to pry.... but what costume exactly WAS it that you were making and tried on that caused your parents to get uppity, cube? o.o

Sundance Kid
04-26-2003, 09:49 AM
Hey, mymom, grandpa, grandma etc... all support me and help me do my costumes. I do wish there were more families out there like mine. My mom even likes to dress up as well. We have fun together. My family's the coolest! This year I'm crossplaying as Vash the Stampede from Trigun and my mom and grandma can't wait to get my costume together. I send you lots of sympathy to those who are not fortunate enough to have a family equally as weird, if not weirder, as I am.

Sundance Kid

Kikoro
04-27-2003, 06:38 PM
My parents have no problem with cosplaying or crossplaying. actually they think its neat. they thought my first costume was cool and they took pics of me. note to self get those developed.

Zeki
04-27-2003, 10:37 PM
That really sucks cube (and others in the same situation *is too lazy to type out names*)

I'm lucky my mom thinks cosplay is really neat and my grandma made my costume I wore to s-c '03 ^^ And my dad dosen't care hehe. but then I'm not asian so I don't have typical asian parents hehe.

yasafusa
04-28-2003, 12:41 AM
On a grandparent scale... if they found out... well; ones really old fashioned,"Gawl darnit boi, you bes' nawt be wearin' eny in that frilly stuff 'round me!" (HE REALLY TALKS LIKE THIS... I THINK HE USED TO EAT LUNCH WITH WYATT EARP!! He's like a hundred years old... When he was a kid; cosplay would've resulted in being burnt at the stake) And the other grampa would probably grab his left arm and quote old man Sampson, he's a real card sometimes. '

My parents are still on a "need to know" basis about my cosplay/crossplay... I told them that I'm taking a small vacation to SanDiego for the comic con.......... and thats about it...

Michi
04-28-2003, 12:50 AM
I don't think girls crossplaying guys is such a problem to parents.. At least from what I've seen. But it's like that in society anyway, since girls are wearing pants and so forth. ^_^;

I applaud any parent that doesn't look down on a son's crossplay. >_> It's the son's life, not theirs.

Xx Lulu xX
04-28-2003, 01:23 AM
My mom kinda just goes with the flow....but my aunt LOVES teh idea that i'm a crossplayer, not to mention my spanish teacher, who is my number 1 supporter...lmao she helps me come up with ways to look more femenine....but i have yet to tell my mother about Naga....x.o

Chosuke
04-28-2003, 08:08 AM
I wish I had a mum like Karisu,Or parent's like Kham does. x.x;

My mom absolutely cannot stand the fact that I cosplay,and refuses to help me with it in any way. Either Financially,physically or just plain emotionally when I ask her an opinion on a finished piece.
She thinks that I'm a freak,all cosplayers are freaks and that must make conventions a place for freaks too.

If I didn't have my step dad who likes anime <well,used to be my stepdad,they be seperated> then i would have no way of getting to any convention or having any support.

Luckily now I have a semi-sponsor who is willing to pay for all my cosplay needs and help me,it sort of takes the edge off of trying to make money in a country where you can't legally work for a year x.x;

<she wouldn't give me allowance for Cosplay either, so I pretty much don't tell her what I use it for.>

Surprisingly,my dad and grandpa <both asian> don't care.Which I thought they would.. though while I'm trying to explain to a 60 yr old japanese man about why I need to buy Ace bandages to flatten my chest I do get at least ONE weird look ^^;

cube
04-28-2003, 03:43 PM
Originally posted by Agrias
Sorry to pry.... but what costume exactly WAS it that you were making and tried on that caused your parents to get uppity, cube? o.o Selphie in her SeeD uniform from FF8

No it wasn't a costume from "Cool Devices" or anything like that. I may be open to experimentation but I have my limits:D

Ali-kun
04-29-2003, 02:35 AM
Originally posted by Xx Lulu xX
My mom kinda just goes with the flow....but my aunt LOVES teh idea that i'm a crossplayer, not to mention my spanish teacher, who is my number 1 supporter...lmao she helps me come up with ways to look more femenine....but i have yet to tell my mother about Naga....x.o

@___@

I...thought you were a girl XD

It was probably the username + the avatar looking like one of the girls on my floor in my dorm + me being confused because there are so many darn people and thinking you had both male and female costumes (or mebbe you just didn't have pics up at cosplay.com)

...I suppose that means you get cookies ^_^v

Menchi
04-29-2003, 01:18 PM
Originally posted by Chobrat
I wish I had a mum like Karisu,Or parent's like Kham does. x.x;

My mom absolutely cannot stand the fact that I cosplay,and refuses to help me with it in any way. Either Financially,physically or just plain emotionally when I ask her an opinion on a finished piece.
She thinks that I'm a freak,all cosplayers are freaks and that must make conventions a place for freaks too.

ironicly..that is exactly what my granmda says...i know my mother woudl be sooooo against my dressing like a girl 100%. but i look at it shiway i am old enough to do about anything i want and what i do on my free time is none of their buisness.

Michi
04-29-2003, 07:45 PM
Originally posted by Ali-kun
@___@

I...thought you were a girl XD

It was probably the username + the avatar looking like one of the girls on my floor in my dorm + me being confused because there are so many darn people and thinking you had both male and female costumes (or mebbe you just didn't have pics up at cosplay.com)

...I suppose that means you get cookies ^_^v

I thought the same thing til I saw his post. ^_^;;; Wheeee! :thumbsup:

haru
04-30-2003, 05:30 AM
my parents thinks cosplay is wasting time and money~ _-

every time i create my costume cloth, i wont let my parents know. and of course, i dont dare to wear costume cloth in-front of them.. or they will think i m mad.

sakura yuna
04-30-2003, 12:44 PM
Hey,
Guess, I am lucky? My mom she thinks it cool and everything and offers to help in certain areas of the costumes...my grandma went balistic (in a good way) when she saw yuna's costume and she said, "Awww, you would look so good in that! Are you going to make it?" I told here eventually. My cousin absolutely loves cosplay to death! He says he wants a costume but is too lazy to make one... So I could make one for him but he would have to promise to wear it a lot. My dad and my step-mom love it to death! They think it is a creative way of showing off your effort and ability...not to mention creativity.....pretty cool ne? They even LOVE to see the photos when I come back from a convention and other events. Cube: Duuuuude, I am soo sorry that your parents have to act like that! Wow....selphie's seed uniform! Awesomeness!!!Karisu: Yah, I wish I had a mom that crossplays!! khyam: lucky!

Link Arroway
04-30-2003, 12:54 PM
You are lucky, my parents don't understand much, including cosplay stuff and anime.

haru
05-01-2003, 08:59 AM
haha.. me too ! karisu ! adopt me as your child.. haha

Nyoko
05-01-2003, 11:11 PM
Oh wow! Im sorry all of you, Im kinda glad I have my parents, a conversation with my parents about crossplay always ends in "thats nice dear, and thats a guy right? O...K.... just as long as I dont have to say we are related, and I dont have to stand anywere around you, were good..." then agen my whole famly is very strange.... o.O

Link Arroway
05-01-2003, 11:56 PM
my family would act like there okay with it, then i'd come home to counceling or something weird like that...
that or they'd just act weird, but they do that plenty enough already

Karisu-sama
05-02-2003, 02:37 AM
If I adopt all the cosplayers older than my own kids who want me as their mom, how do I maintain the illusion that I am just a nice li'l 22-year-old? :p :p It'll put a cramp in my outrageous tendency to flirt. :p :p

sakura yuna
05-02-2003, 08:41 AM
Well, Karisu,
I am not that old...if you say your a nice 22 year old then subtract 4 years from that and you get my age...plus I am pretty independent...so you won't have to do much. ^,~

But in anycase yeah guess I am lucky to have parents that would not total disown me or would say anything negative about me dressing up (crossplay).

bah. I already have a mom...but you just seem cooler....cuz your crossplay with your kids....

vyrax778
05-05-2003, 01:06 AM
I guess im one of the lucky ones my Mom noticed my Fuku hanging in my closet that I had just gotten and all she did was ask me what it was for then when I told her "Its my costume for anime Expo" shes was then asked if I needed any help making props and such.

Nine
05-05-2003, 01:24 AM
My parents know I crossplay.. my dad goes "Why do you allways choose the women with the large breasts" and my mom just says "Is (insert apart of a costume i just did) suppost to be like that?" lol

Hitori
05-05-2003, 04:00 PM
*sighs* You lucky peoples with understanding parents. Mine don't mind the cosplaying, but I'd be disowned for sure for crossplaying. The good thing is, I generally do rather feminine males and if I leave a picture out or something they think it's a girl. They can't tell.....

Pendrell
05-05-2003, 09:26 PM
With my parents, it's less about the crossplay and more about... the money. x_x; My mom even saw fit to provide me with a roll of vintage 4" Ace bandages out of her random-stuff closet for my Subaru costume. They're probably from the 70s.. they sure look like it.. o_0 but hey, it's nice to know she cares, I guess. *lol* ^^ However, I'm generally not allowed to mention the word 'costume' anywhere within fifty feet of my mother... she doesn't give a flip WHAT I wear, as long as I keep quiet about it. v_v; And she'll only help me out on costumes if I've severely bungled it somehow.
Makes me sad that I have to uphold the vow of cosplay/crossplay silence, but it must be *so* much worse when your parents hate the concept itself.. ;_;

meiluy
05-07-2003, 06:36 AM
I've cosplayed a few times in my life, and have only crossplayed once. Last year, at Comic Convention International, I cosplayed as Ranma-kun and Xelloss, while on Sunday I assisted some friends by going as Ranma-chan. My mother had seen the costumes for several previous cosplays as well as the Ranma-kun and Xelloss, and had been very annoyed that I had spent time making them, much less dressing up for them. Since I had spent the night at a friends hous Saturday night, she had no idea about Sunday's sudden change in costume.

The costume for the Ranma-chan (She had gotten sick and couldn't attend Con that day) was different than the one I had for Ranma-kun (Ranma-kun red shirt made of Thick Cotton while the Ranma-chan red shirt was made of silk), and my friends just used a bra and socks for the breasts. I had a red wig, and after numerous attempts, we finally got me to look somewhat feminine.

On Sunday, about 1:00 PM, I get a call from my mother saying she'd pick me up, since her work was sponsering something in the Con. I didn't hear what it was, so imagine my surprise about hald an hour later when I see her at a one of the booths (I forget which booth...) Of course, my freinds and I have been in this line for ten minutes, and didn't want to leave. We end up at the front, and my mother doesn't even recognise me, until I say when she hands me the freebie of the table, "Thank you, Mom."

I kept laughing with my friends when her face got red as she realized it was me. That night led to a very odd conversation, where my mother said that as much as she hated me dressing in costumes, and even more so as a girl, she said I did it very well.

Ever since then she hasn't complaied about a single costume.

I'm currently thinking of going as that one girl from Hellsing, Victoria.

Link Arroway
05-07-2003, 01:37 PM
Great story, lol. More along the lines of what i'd hope would happen to me if I was caught by my parents..
My dad has been bugging me about the convention, he's like are you going to dress up? And I tell him maybe.. Keeping from him the fact that i'm planning to. He has a way at being weird and poking fun, but I guess this is different from the marbles he played out in the middle of nowhere where he grew up I guess o_O

EKYO
05-07-2003, 06:28 PM
Well... my mom doesn't really do much except give me dirty looks and she calls me a lesbian and a bunch of nasty names. -_-;

My dad's perfectly fine with it as long as it's only 'costume' and I don't do it all the time, like when I'm out at the movies with friends. He also says that I should get out of this hobby when I get a job, because he can see costuming is going to eat up my paycheck. XD;;

megumibish
05-07-2003, 08:42 PM
Ack, I feel really bad for you peeps... I'm such a loud mouth at my home and I don't care if my parents know I crossplay. I actually yell like a 10 year old that I'm gonna crossplay Sesshomaru in the future and tell my mom I'm gonna be one hot b*tch. My dad would probably think crossplay as an improvement on my fashion sense thou. Being one time I went out with pigtails, pastel blue shirt, satin green skirt, white bike shorts, the *doozy* white flared legwarmers with blue fur trim made to look like flames, and white platform sneakers. *grins* I go out with legwarmers on a regular basis now.

AlphaNinn
05-08-2003, 06:09 PM
I told my mom I was thinking of crossplaying at Otakon this year.

Her response, "Are you sure you're not a man?" and then she offered to help bind me.:D

yasafusa
05-08-2003, 11:11 PM
I was wearing the Rally Vincent leather pants that I got at a thrift store to see how well they fit. I walked into the living room and my mother was like, "Wow cool pants, where did ya get those.... Aren't those girl pants?!?!" After explaining to her why I bought them, she said, "Your worrying me; my question is: how WORRIED should I be?" I just laughed and walked away *Glad I didn't tell her I'll be wearing falsies to complete this outfit!*

Rei2Rei
05-12-2003, 03:12 PM
My Mom's cool with Crossplay/Cosplay or anything like that in general!! She helps me with costume and supports me all the way (unless it's a hard costume to make :thumbsup: ). Heck..Most of the times she even dresses up with me!! :p

I don't think my Dad would understand even if I tried to tell him...and I'm not really sure I want to find out what he thinks about crossplaying! Heehee..I'm almost done with my first crossplaying costume (Dilandau!) so I wont have to show him for a while.. :sulk:

Karisu-sama
05-12-2003, 03:22 PM
YAY! Another Dilandau! ^___^

Rei2Rei
05-12-2003, 03:54 PM
Originally posted by Karisu-sama
YAY! Another Dilandau! ^___^

:D :D The more Dilly's...the better!! :D :D

Menchi
05-13-2003, 01:59 AM
yasa: w00t gota get pics of that up, btw love the story XD

chibi_kitsune
05-22-2003, 10:11 PM
my family don't really care if i cosplay or not, i'm learning how to sew and so if i can get help i'll be able to make costumes, no one in my family sews so they can't really help much^_^;, they will help me pay for matrial and help me pay for lessons for sewing, my family is kind of werid though. I don't know if i'll ever crossplay or not, even if i do, since i'm a girl i don't think they'll make a big deal about it.

vash_humanoid
05-24-2003, 12:18 AM
i had crossplayed many times but my parents dont know. my dad especially! my mom hads caught me crossdressing when i was younger, i think im over it now..., and she siad she didnt want me doing it anymore. i think idf i tell her she will think i am weird and maybe even gay...*rolls eyes*. i dread the moment i will tell her but thdere is a percent chance she wont mind. i honestly think its kind of a risk and u either take it or dont.....ether way thay'll prolly find out anyway........they're very neaky *quikly looks around the room with suspicion*.

zor
05-24-2003, 01:25 PM
I find it amazing that if a girl does crossplay it's just a costume... but if a guy does it (regardless of whether it involves a dress/skirt or not) ppl start wondering if he's gay or something.

I hate these double standards in our society that make men better than women so that it's ok for a girl to look like a guy, but not the other way around. Haven't we been fighting that ignorant notion that girls aren't as good for too long now to think bad of a guy that chooses to look less "manly" (using that term VERY Loosely) and be comfortable in whatever they want to be... I think that society needs to get a swift kick in the rear!


~ Z o r ~

DigitalShin
05-24-2003, 03:42 PM
I'm with Zor on this. Society dictates the uneducated what to belive. "Can't knock it til you try it."

zor
05-24-2003, 08:03 PM
and it's only clothing... it doesn't make the person...

~ Z o r ~

Yggdrasil Pie
05-24-2003, 11:50 PM
I guess it's just that alot of people are closed-minded. ^^;

Nyaa, that's why some people can't just accept it, without thinking it's something else. Those people drive me crazy...X_X

Karisu-sama
05-25-2003, 05:29 AM
Originally posted by WaterEmperess
I guess it's just that alot of people are closed-minded. ^^;

Nyaa, that's why some people can't just accept it, without thinking it's something else. Those people drive me crazy...X_X
That's why I looooove the San Francisco Bay Area... ^^ There will be at least SOME people who are cool with it.

Goth Kitty 22
05-25-2003, 09:59 PM
Well my parents were born in the early 50's. My dad is a very conservative person and my mom is more cool but so so. My mom does try to let me see the world but then she is bound by her notions of what is proper.

I've tried to buy feminine outfits before, but it always ended in disaster. I've wanted to express myself in many ways and then my parents yell at me and tell me to do what everyone else is doing. They say what I do is pointless and a waste of time and money. But to me it feels like a part of me dies. I lose my creativity and will to do anything. I don't want to do what everyone else is doing just to keep up appearances. Trends and fads change wildly, sometimes change in the opposite direction or just fold in upon themselves. I already wasted too much time in elementary school and early high school trying to fit into a crowd. It doesn't work. You don't have to lead, but following is not an option for me.

I probably don't even categorize as goth anymore. You have to fit into this theme now for some reason. I'm not really depressed. I realized that I should just be myself and I'll find the right people and places in the future.

The feminine thing. I see people as human. If you're a person you can do what people do. It's not important that you have to act like a man or a woman or some certain ethnicity. You can take some from all of this. What fits your unique personality. I'm not gay but I don't like to be really macho. It's like you go out ready to fight with someone. I don't see why you would have to go around like that. Men sometimes just seem awkward and stiff. But if it makes you a better target, then I can see that. You have to be able to shift your attitude in certain situations. And it wouldn't hurt to carry some form of defense. But you shouldn't go somewhere dangerous in the first place.

Men's clothes are boring. REALLY boring. And the selection is small and unchanging. I'll admit that that not all men look good in women's clothing, and that wearing certain garments in public would just be wrong. But if you have the aura of mojo I say you should flaunt it.

My first costume last year was Lain in her bear pajamas. But I guess it couldn't really be considered crossplay. I was covered from head to toe in a mass of computer parts and glowing wire! This year however I managed to walk around the con a bit while out of costume in a black nurse's dress. My mom actually let me. She said it was ok because it was a con. My dad luckily wasn't around. I heard that he was furious afterwards when he saw it in the washer, but my mom talked him down.

My best bet is to keep low and wait until I move out of the house for college. Then I'll finally feel alive!

Michela
05-26-2003, 12:23 PM
Awww! :::Huggles to all the misunderstood crossplayers:::
My family doesn't understand cosplay, either... (My mom HATES the fact that I even want to *sew!*) Every time my mom sees me working on another costume, she screams at me... it's not a nice feeling o.O At the very least, my dad and sister are tolerant of my anime and cosplay interests, and, at certain times, my mom seems like she's willing to learn.
Honestly, I don't believe crossplayers are "a bunch of queers" (I mean, I'm in the Gay-Straight Alliance of my school, so of *course* I would understand to a certain level ;)) Crossplay is just for those who enjoy wearing a wide variety of costumes! ^^

meiluy
06-23-2003, 06:42 AM
As I mentioned in my previous post, my Mother didn't agree with me cosplaying in general at first. I still love the fact that she changed her opinion after seeing me crossplay. Anyways, sometimes you just have to surprise your parents in costume and have people with you they trust for them to alter their mind.

In other news, sadly my Mother and I are headed to West Virginia in a few weeks and I'm gonna miss Comic Con... so no cosplaying there this year. But that gives me more time for Comic Con next year plus my first attendance to Otakon. I have to finish my Tsukasa, Kira Yamato, Naruto, and Kakashi-sensei costumes... plus possibly my first hand made crossplay (BT from .Hack).

Scortia
06-23-2003, 08:34 AM
*snickers* My mother thinks I am a closet lesbian or something... just because I think women look good when they wear male clothing or have short hair... and I like most guys with long hair. Yes, I'm strange. She was really freaked out when I was so happy that I was glomped by a few dozen girls when dressed as Hatsuharu. "You wanted girls to hug you?.. O.o"

FujiHonda
07-06-2003, 05:39 PM
My mom thinks the same thing about me, that I'm a lesbian. ^^; I've only crossplayed so far, and she HATES it. >_<

Both of my parents hate the idea of cosplay, let ALONE crossplay. They say it's a waste of money and discourage me against it. I mean, my brother spends CRAP LOADS of money on his STUPID car, but my parents don't care. I tried explaining cosplay to them by saying that it's a hobby (which it is) and that it takes time and money just like any other hobby. Why do I do it? Because it's fun and I enjoy the challenge. Yet they still think it's stupid and don't want me doing it anymore. XP

My Dad is a lot better about it than my mom, though...He's a custom builder who loves challenges, so he'll help me with props if I need it. He helped me make a KICK ARSE set of armour out of bondo, once. ^____^ My Grandmother is a crafter who will help me with tiny accessories, which is great.

But last time I was at a con, my friends and I won "Best Skit" and were so happy, but when I told my mom we won she said "Oh...did you get a prize?" I said that all we won was bookmarks and a 2 month membership to an anime thing, so she said "...That's it? What a waste...Don't dress up as anymore boy characters either....and wash your hair..." (I had a lot of gel in my hair ^^; )

*wants a new mom* U_U

ReddAlice
07-07-2003, 04:00 AM
My friend's and I are starting a cosplay group... mostly with Crossplayers called the Koohii Mahii. We'll be at a convention later this month in BC, Canada.

Some of us actually are lesbians who just dig dressing up as our favorite androgynous anime characters. Two of my friends, girlfriends, dressed up as Heero & and Duo, boyfriends, at Sakura Con 03. LoL. OH THE COMMENTS!!!

AS for our parents, we're minors, they vary. My mom always accuses me of being a dyke, or a queer, but I don't let it get to me. She snarls: You had those lesbians in ur bed last night! and I reply: They're my best friends, chicks do that ya know! Or when I am feeling nasty: Oh yeah, we had a nasty lesbian orgy... YOU SHOULD HAVE SEEN us dressed as sexy femme men at Sakura con. Four chicks... one bed... Mm. LoL. I'm just mean I guess.

ANYHOW! Don't let it get to you guys if they don't understand, just remember... there are A HELL OF A LOT OF US crossplayers out here who do. That's what matters.

katrinastrife
07-07-2003, 09:54 AM
=/ I didn't really think people's parents got so critical of there kids' hobbies. I dunno--both my mom and grandma are understanding about it, but they just try and talk me out of spending lots of money on fabric and stuff (ie: "Don't you think that you could just use the stuff we saw at Wal-Mart?").

But, still, I told them I wanted to cosplay Kuja. They both found it a little funny "Isn't Kuja a girl?!" But, they're still behind me on it, at least until I have to start spending money on it--I'm sure they're going to FLIP when they find out how much the wig is going to cost... The only downfall I have with them, is that they think I should study more than I cosplay, but that's understandable, ne?

For those of you who have misunderstanding parents, just try to stick it out. In a few years (maybe less), you'll be able to do what you'd like, since you'll be of legal age. Just try to get along with your parents, and maybe you could get them to realize it's not a phase, but something you really like to do, and not just to piss them off! Eventually, hopefully, they'll accept you for who you really are!

Lynch
07-08-2003, 02:07 AM
Ah, the long, winding road that is crossplay and parental units. I remember back when i did my first crossplay, which was followed by a few others, I got "the talk" from my mum. Actually, I just think most parental's problems with the whole crossplay thing is they worried that their child is not gonig to be normal when compared to all society. But then again. I don't really know, cause I'm only 19 >.> But I think in reality my mother was just worried about my sexual preferences and getting into the 'wrong crowd'. ;;; She's over half a century old, so I'm not really suprised, seeing as how she was raised in one of those traditional southern homes. However, as the months went on, she mellowed out, got into the flow and now a days is very supportive of my little hobby. I've actually heard her talking to her friends and family about how amazed she is that i can make all this stuff from scratch. She's quite proud of me now. And my father, well he's also over half a century old and a police officer for 30 some ought years, again raised in a very traditional southern home. But the great thing is, that he likes the whole anime community, and actually likes coming to cons with me and watching new shows and such (Esca is one of his favorites, I snagged the DVD of the movie for him which i got a prize in a contest =^^=) He's actually considering cosplaying with me sometime next year, just, I have to make the costume ;;;;

But then again, everyone's parentals are different. I'm sorry for those of you who's parents don't really accept your hobby. And Karisu, you're one of those damn cool rents I'm sure everyone wishes their parents were like. I love your family and your costumes as well, so great, its' good to see sights like that. Hopefully, those of you who's parents don't understand, meybe one day they will see how much of a good time you have doing what you do. Casue your happiness should be what is important to them. But now I'm just ravin on.

Eh, I give you all my support as well. And virtual hugs of support if ya ever need them. Hell, if you want someone to show a costume to, send them my way, I love seeing different costumes from all over. Some of your talents amaze me so much!

RHIshida
07-08-2003, 10:20 AM
My mom will help me with my crossplay costumes, but my dad is -completely- against it. He's one of those Macho-type Baby Boomers that is in a mid-life crisis. He's always asking me to cut my hair, and is trying to convince me to start lifting-weights to build muscle, which I refuse because big bulk muscles are nasty looking IMO. My mom helped me make my costume this year, but my dad just ridiculed me about the whole thing, but gave compliments on my little sister's costume. I'd go into like more detail but y'know, I have like IRL friends on this forum and anything I say would have a negative effect on my reality so I think I should stop it here 'for I say something stupid. ¨.¨ </rant>

EDIT: When it comes to this sort of thing, siblings can be a pain too. My sister is trying to use this as blackmail so she can try to manipulate me to her will. Pardon me whilst I show her the ancient art of Screaming and Fussing. *poof*

Burrito
07-09-2003, 04:45 PM
*huggle* Guess what? XD MY PARENTS ARE THE SAME WAY! Go us! Only I'm not Asian. They hate it, thus why I've made all my costumes on my own so far, thus the crappiness...I'm still learning how to sew. ^^ Oh, my stepsister does help. But blarg, doesn't it just suck? -_-; They don't understand the whole point of it. XD My dad is pretty much okay with it, but he's a wee bit uneasy. As for my mom? She doesn't care if I dress like a boy, but the fact that I have to act like one too to pull of the costume sometimes, that bugs her. *sigh* Not that I avoid girl costumes all together, but they're so...meah. x_x; I have this thing against skirts and dresses, even though I have to wear one for school. I know not all anime girls wear dresses, but there are very few girl costumes I'd want to dress up in. *shrugs* I'm not very girly anyway. Guy costumes just look so much cooler to me. ^^

-__-; My mom was convinced I was a lesbian for a LONG time, even though I'm young. Mostly because I only wore a skirt when forced (like school) and hung out with a ton of guys but never dated any. Meah. But I've convinced her that I'm not...it took over a year of arguing and explaining, but it paid off.

I guess it's hard to explain to some people why you crossplay. *shrugs* I can't even get my best friends to understand it! Ragh. XD Oh well, I'm happy, therefore I don't care about their opinions. WHEEE!

Underscore
07-09-2003, 05:53 PM
..hmm.. well.. My parents don't know about my sexuality.. at least I don't think they do.. but I don't want to share my idea for wearing a pink nurse's outfit with them.. i think i'll make it in secrecy and only try it on when they're not around..

I just don't want to add anymore stress to my family's life.. what with my brother the way he is and my parents separating.. I think I'll wait for a whiel before I let them know about me.

Karisu-sama
07-09-2003, 07:11 PM
Lynch: Thanks! ^^ And *BIG HUGS* to all of you with less-than-supportive family, by the way. You can always use us as an example - IRL we're just a boring average family and we blend into our local community... I'm a software geek and a PTA mom... :p BUT we are also anime fans, and creative / theatrical types. ^^ So WHY can't we do something cool and different to bust loose from hectic / boring everyday life every now and then??

As far as sexuality (which crossplay of course does NOT necessarily indicate), since we have lots of friends & family of many different identifications / orientation, it's a big plus to be able to live in the San Francisco Bay Area. So much less of a "big deal" here.

My 12-year-old brought 3 official costumes to AX '03 - all crossplay. (Kenshin, Chesta the DragonSlayer, and Youji from Weiss. ) The only costume she wore that wasn't crossplay was "insta-Urd", which she actually came up with from stuff we had on hand in the hotel room.

Underscore
07-10-2003, 12:32 PM
WEll, I'd probably wear the costume anyway. you're right. Crossplaying doesn't indicate sexuality. I just mean that I don't want them to even really think about it right now.

You seem like a really cool person, Karisu. I love my family and wouldn't give them up for anything; I'm sure your kids think the same of you. Its awesome taht you have this kind of thing to do as a family every once in a while. A lot of families don't hve those family activities anymore. So Kudos to you!

RHIshida
07-11-2003, 07:56 AM
heh, my family cannot do family activities. We're likely to rip each other's throats out.

mochihead
07-11-2003, 12:54 PM
My family doesn't really care what I do, but then again I'm old and married enough to do whatever I want. hee hee. But luckily, they never took the conservative/stereotypical Asian route with me growing up and didn't force me into being a doctor/dentist/lawyer, either.

I do wish more of your familys could be as supportive as Karisu is with hers, but if not, at least you have all of us here to support you. *waves to everyone*

Karisu-sama: Insta-Urd? Do you just add water and pop it in the microwave?

Karisu-sama
07-11-2003, 06:50 PM
Insta-Urd =
1) White wig she brought along for fun
2) Mom's blue eye pencil for face markings
3) Mom's blue sport bra tank top
4) Black leggings
5) Her loose blue jacket
6) Kenshin's thong sandals
7) Roll of brass wire from costume repair kit cut in half to make "bracelets"

I wore that costume (or a variant) too, early Friday afternoon, but she makes a much better Urd.

mochihead
07-12-2003, 06:29 PM
ROFL - wow! How cute is that! Karisu-sama, I bow down before your insta-greatness.

May everyone have parents as insta-awesome & insta-inspiring as you! :)

yasafusa
07-13-2003, 12:41 AM
Hey, guys check out my photo gallery... got my pics developed, but dont have the wig; Karaoke Kate is going to send it next week!

Ritley
07-13-2003, 03:03 AM
Over time your parents should ease up a bit on you.

My parents were not pleased when I did "off the wall" things.
But my extent was painting my nails black or blue, and once putting on makeup looking like a girl. Long story short, my friend's girlfriend did that when I was sitting down, and because I didn't stop her she kept going.

Meh, but statistics are that 75% (or was it higher) of "crossdressers" are actually heterosexual males.

There's always going to be the double standard that girls can wear pants, but guys can't wear skirts/dresses.

allyunion
07-13-2003, 03:48 AM
I think crossplay is funny in certain ways, when it's done right... or wrong, however you want to make it look like. At Fanime this year, I ran into a Kenshin who looked like a guy but was really a crossplayer. She was with a Sano [her boyfriend] and they had fun performing what appeared to be a Yaoi scene all over the con ;) [An example of funny-wrong is the Man Faye at Anime Expo that no one can't keep their mind off... I admit, he's famous for doing the costume, and having a lot of um, mixed reviews.]

Anyway... my parents are Asian, if I decided to crossplay... I think I rather not tell them... although, I don't they have a problem with it... just the cost involved. [I'm considering to do a Sakura from Naruto just for the fun of it... maybe.]

Karisu-sama
07-13-2003, 04:20 AM
Originally posted by allyunion
At Fanime this year, I ran into a Kenshin who looked like a guy but was really a crossplayer. She was with a Sano [her boyfriend] and they had fun performing what appeared to be a Yaoi scene all over the con ;)
Oh, I saw that... :D My husband and I sometimes do our own version, as attached from AX03 (the pic doesn't show it well, but I also happen to be about 4.5 inches taller than him, so sometimes people do a doubletake...) :p

Kira_Yamato
07-13-2003, 05:18 AM
My parents were sort of hippies in the '60s, so I don't think they'd oppose me crossplaying. Especially not my mom. In fact, she's always lamenting the fact that she had two boys and missed out on being able to buy or (help) make "girl clothes". But I know that if I did crossplay, I'd never be the same in their eyes. My dad is quite uptight, so he'd especially be a problem. And while my mother would not say anything, I know, to her, I'd be some kind of freak, or even worse, she might think I was homosexual. So I'm planning to resist the temptation to crossplay until i'm out of their house.

Neko_Kaolla
07-14-2003, 08:25 AM
I actually made my sister a Ranma costume and when she showed a picture of it to my dad he says, "You look like a boy." She replies, "That's the point." His response, "Why?..."

Some parents don't understand. My mom just thinks it's funny. Scary sometimes, but quite funny.

tinechan
07-23-2003, 12:31 PM
Bwah, I have cool parents. Thumbs up for me. Or rather, I have a cool mom, who thinks it's just insanely funny and doesn't do anything to stop it. My dad, who's somewhat of an uptight Asian parent, doesn't understand the whole concept of 'Anime Expo', neverless 'Cosplay/Crossplay', so in a way it doesn't matter. The only thing that my mom's a bit sad of is cutting off my long hair. @@;

RoxyDirKaoru
07-24-2003, 10:29 AM
My mom hate`s me when I cosplay Mana. She don`t understand that Mana is so cute. And she thinks Mana and Malice Mizer are perverted cause they look like girls. So I have given up on trying to make her understand. She said can`t you get a normal hobby, but I don`t wanna get a normal hobby. Cause cosplayng/crossplaying is so much fun!

Susumari
07-24-2003, 11:46 AM
my parents really don't notice if i cross. like i'm doing yoji from WK for afo. they don't even know. they just see me working on something and think "oh ok" they really have no clue what's going on.


but also another think. yea what's up with parents when they say..why don't u be with the normal crowd or something. well there really is no normal crowd. the anime con environment is i think the best to go.

NoLable721
07-24-2003, 01:07 PM
Haha, my pop doesn't give a crap of to how I cosplay, unless it's something like really weird!! or showy. Since my parents are divoced it's kinda funny when I'm cosplaying. It's like when I'm over at my dad's and working on a costuem he's all like "errr..." and walks away. My mom is kidna different, she would be like "Making another one?" and I 'll be like "yea..." and she'll be like "don't make it all showy!" I was all like "I'm not like that..." so yea.

Sellafine
07-27-2003, 01:09 AM
Same as me..... :( ...I live in South East Asia....
Not just my parents...but so much people think that I'm a crazy freak....and it's make my parents so ashamed on me......
My Mom say it's so teribble to have a psycho daughter like me and ask me to quit cosplaying.... :(
So.....I choose to quit after I've done my Lu Xun costume....
It's so hard but...I don't have any other choice.....
Anyway,Good luck to U all !!

duck
07-27-2003, 01:26 AM
Well, it's probably because I'm female, but my parents don't bat an eye at the idea of me dressing "male".

They figure that me crossplaying leaves me less likely do do a "whorish" outfit.

Karisu-sama
07-27-2003, 03:43 AM
Both my daughters crossplay. In fact, at this point, every one of my older daughter's "active" costumes is crossplay (except "insta-Urd". ) If I had a son, I'd certainly let him crossplay too if he wanted, although I'd probably caution him more about it getting out at school that he does so...

My husband is pretty tolerant. I don't know if he would be quite so comfortable if we had a son who wanted to crossplay, but I think if the kid only did it at cons and also had "boy costumes", he might be reasonable.

Megumi-san
07-27-2003, 08:26 AM
Hmmm... I haven't quite to crossplaying yet. But I don't think my parents would mind- but then again, my aunt went a con with me and saw hundreds of girls dressed as guys, but only Sailor Bubba as a girl. ^_^;;
But I think guys are kinda at a disadvantage for crossplaying, as far as the parent factor go. I mean, half the males we women crossplay as look girly enough that if worse came to worse, we could fib about their gender (at least, for all my crossplay ideas I could...) but guys would have a harder time making an excuse for wearing a dress, ya know?
I don't come from an Asian family, so I can't relate at all on that level, but I hope everything works out for you! ^_^

SynVanSiWes
07-27-2003, 02:59 PM
Thank you Ritley for mentioning that. I was about to. Yes most crossdressing guys actually are hetero, which makes it rather frustrating to hear about parents complain that crossplay denotes homosexuality.

The problem is that our society leaves males so few ways to express themselves. Females can be ornamental or not as they so choose, and for us the struggle was to get the right to not be ornamental. Now guys are finding themselves stuck in a new box, they aren't allowed to be decorative. Hopefully guys will win thier sexual equality battles as well. I support my boyfriend when he wears frilly girl clothes, heck I think it's sexy.

Although concerning crossplay my b.f. played Anthy, which amused his mother to no end. Utena being one of her favorite series. She took a whole role of film of us (I was Utena). My mother, who helped us with the costumes sort of gave us a funny look when we expained that the dress was for him and the shorts were for me. But she still helped.

My mom's been a real good sport about my cosplay habit in general. I think she likes to help me because it gives us an opportunity to spend time together and helps us relate to each other. I've been growing further from her since I left home as I develop a world view that is less like hers.

I think it's really sad about the parents who push thier kids away because of cosplay or crossplay. I wish they'd realize that rather than controlling thier kids or being overprotective it might be more important to have a working relationship, and someone who cares enough to visit when they reach the nursing home.

Hitori
07-27-2003, 08:30 PM
I feel for guys who crossplay and have to deal with their parents. Like.. um, someone up there said, if it comes to it, us girls can always say that we're doing girls since they're... girly looking(I often do). For guys it's so hard. And outside of cosplaying, guys clothes are so limited!
And I don't see what's so wrong with a guy wearing a skirt, or why it makes people think he's homosexual... it's so unfair.

Sellafine
07-28-2003, 06:10 AM
Karisu-sama......how lucky your daughters to have a beautiful and very tolerant mother like you ....... :)
Hope my mom can be like that too....................though its highly imposibble... :(

Alisa
07-28-2003, 08:20 AM
I wish my parents were more tolerant also. Ah well, the typical asian parents there are. They don't even let me shop in Hot Topic, because "it is a store for lesbians".

Omi
07-28-2003, 12:27 PM
Aww....My dad is the only thing I have and he doesn't get Cosplay either but he says if I enjoy it then he does too^.^Love ya Daddy!

Epiphany
07-28-2003, 02:06 PM
I don't know why parents find it a big deal when people crossplay. In Shakesperian time, men always played a woman's part in a play, it was unheard of for a woman to be on stage. And wasn't it in China where the men dress up as the performing women? (i'm not exactly sure if that's true or what, i just remembering hearing it somewhere)

Solo
07-28-2003, 07:39 PM
I think the reaction is different depending on the person's gender. Parents are more likly to be understanding of a daughter who cross-cosplays than a son. Women are given more freedom in creative things such as cosplay (cross or otherwise) but men are often regarded as freaks if they dress as anything other than a mecha or vid game character, the reaction being even more sever when they dress as a women. Plus there is the added bonus that females can regularly wear "cross gender" clothing without appearing strange.

Cicatrice
08-06-2003, 11:32 AM
I know how that is myself really. My parents are the same way. They are always asking why I never really cosplay a girl, But I just come back and tell them that im not interested. And ofcorse they come back with 32154312 questions. e.e;

But yeah! Don't give up! Crossplay pride!!! xp

Hibiki-chan
08-06-2003, 11:44 AM
If my parents find out that I crossplay, they'd immediately think that I'm gay or I'm a crossdresser.

I will probably never tell them that I'm crossplaying and I definitely don't need to describe my sexual relationships with the opposite sex in detail in order to prove myself to them. I don't have to prove anything to them or anyone else as long as I know who I am.

One of the reasons that I don't tell them is its excitement value... it's somewhat adventurous to indulge yourself in something that only a few people know you do (well, save for the people on these forums of course :)).

But if I did tell them, they would completely misconstrue it. Typical asian parents indeed...

Pendrell
08-06-2003, 11:44 AM
I figured it out... the trick is to have ONE token female costume. :P
My mother is well-sated because of my .hack costume. So she doesn't care if.. pretty much all the rest of my costumes are male. ^^; I think she's realized that nothing short of her actually attending cons with me would stunt my crossplaying.. and she'd NEVER set foot in a con. So I'm safe. Her only requirement is that I wear .hack Subaru for more than two hours before I rip it off in favor of my many boy-costumes.
Thank you, .hack Subaru costume. *l* ^_^

neko_trin
08-08-2003, 04:03 AM
;_; *givers hugz*

i'm sorry they are like that to you. its not right. =( they should love you no matter what... do you plan on moving out? o_o cause i wouldn't want to be around stuff like that... but that's just me

for me.. my dad doesn't know about the stuff but he'd just laugh and say he was okay with it.. my mom, would think crossplaying was odd but really wouldn't care because she knows its all in fun.. and my aunt would help me make the costumes ^_^ but i don't live near ANY of my family...

Tainted Donut
08-12-2003, 05:01 AM
that whole convo is hilarious man, omg dude, everything was funny. hahaha. you said all the right things.

Tainted Donut
08-12-2003, 05:02 AM
oh and my parents would think its cool, cuz theyd probably see it as a way of me expressing my creative side ;)

Decibella
08-22-2003, 03:00 PM
My parents would not understand my crossplaying, being stuck in a time warp since the early fifties...
So i don't flaunt it in front of them. I think they know but no one ever discusses it... Just remember, you won't always be living in your parents house!!

ACXchan
08-22-2003, 09:55 PM
I crossplayed in highschool and still crossplay now in college but my dad doesn't seem to care heh. He can't always tell the difference between a pretty boy and a handsome woman in anime anyway. He's come to the point where he believes it's just beyond his comprehension, so he has no problems other than it's nutty XD

Alexia Ikyu
08-23-2003, 12:03 AM
Move to its own topic.

BattousaiHimura
08-23-2003, 02:24 AM
My first costume was a crossplay-costume (Fireball / Saber Rider). My mom doesn't care if I wear a female or a male-costume. She thinks I sew nice costumes and it doesn't matter what kind of costume it is (m/f). Okay, sometimes she's a bit like "do you really have to wear that ?" when she thinks a costume is "too sexy" (like my Alexiel-costume because of the corsage or my BesuBesu-costume) but we both can live with that ;o)

My father sometimes shakes his head when he sees all my costumes or notices that I sew a new one or he says I'm too old for that whole anime-stuff but actually I don't care what he thinks.


Miaka

Nightfire
08-23-2004, 07:39 AM
Eh, I'm in the same boat at most people, in that i think i'd be disowned by my uncle (who i live with now) for crossplaying. That won't stop me from doing Summoner Yuna for Halloween, though. =D

AngelicSorrow
08-23-2004, 07:47 AM
My parents aren't understanding crossplaynig either because the costume that I'm doing is a guy bare-chested so I'm going to use white bandages to cover the bare-chested area...They think that it's not lady like to run around a convention center without a top on...But I'm still going to go and make my Anji Mito costume even if they hate me for it because I just love his costume. I'm making him for Katsu and Otakon next year.

Sephiroth-chan
08-23-2004, 08:31 AM
My parents were very worried when they realized I only do guy costumes...though, I don't think it suprised them too much.

I think they were relieved that the only late night hours are spent in work on a project...and the only drugs I'll ever do is the kind that can be put on a hanger or worn.

What can I say? It's a fond addiction.

But, Dad sees that I can actually turn a profit on this...and I'm VERY good at selling my ideas to people in conversation. I'm lucky my parent's are too tired to argue and love me enough to give a hand along the way.

Sixshot
08-23-2004, 09:15 AM
Wow, sorry to hear that. Mine wouldn't understand either, I crossdress in clothing I buy from hot topic regularly (not skirts or anything, but a lot of girls shirts and pants) and it really bothers my parents. They keep saying "you look gay (literal meaning)" and "I don't want my son becoming a transexual". Honestly I think how I dress is my own damn business as it is yours. Some parents make peculiar insinuations when it comes to their own flesh and blood so I just pay them no heed and continue dressing as I see fit.

Nancyboynoire
08-23-2004, 10:06 PM
Aw ouch. I kinda know your pain. *huggles you tightly* It's not really my parents. They don't care that I'm all binded down, thought my brother did have a heart attack when I walked downstaires one day when his friends were over and they all came up to me started asking " hey chantal how are ya? ... where did they go!? O_O " (ah, gotta love curious thirteen year olds.) then I left my brother alone to explain what I was doing.

The only person in my family that gives me any real problems is my grandpa, he kinda mean about it whenever the subject comes up saying I want to be a " god damned boy " my mom has talked to him a few times but he just doesn't get it.

william22378
08-25-2004, 07:56 PM
My Mom's cool with Crossplay/Cosplay or anything like that in general!! And She is helpping me with my costume and supports me all the way. :jjacks:

exerda
08-25-2004, 09:21 PM
My parents have always looked at my costumes from the past and said, "Your grandmother would be proud," about my sewing... although I think this year she might raise an eyebrow or two when I'm done with my Sandy Magus. Of course, there's something good to say about (1) living on your own and (2) having a real job. My sister and my fiancee (who are going to be Mindy and Cindy, respectively) have no problems with my first-time crossplay, although they both know I do pretty much as I please--and are probably waiting to giggle at my try at wearing heels.

I do wish other people's parents would be more understanding. I may think some things are weird myself (particularly amongst the crowd that's half my age), but hey, *I* don't have to do them if I find them weird, after all.

inu-chan00
08-25-2004, 10:13 PM
bleh...my parents think i was born to play the roles of men....--" i feel sooo supported

Shinigami_Mimi
08-27-2004, 10:20 AM
My mom hates it. >< I always get into arguements with her because most of the cosplay I want to do is crossplay. And she gets all mad about it. I don't see why parents are so dumb.

aguynamedgoo
08-27-2004, 11:24 AM
My father doesn't know about my cosplay habit. Or anything else about me, for that matter. (He's in Iraq until next summer and I refuse to let my mother contribute to his stress.) My mother, on the otherhand, thinks I am pretty much a complete freak with no chance of ever surviving in "normal" society anyway, and the fact that I cosplay (even if it's just for cons and I use parts of my costumes for regular clothes so it's not like I'm wasting time and money) pisses her off to no end. The fact that my brother wants to cosplay now, too, makes her insist I am some horrible influence, but she doesn't seem to think my "crossplay" (see other crossplay forums for that story on that) is the serious infraction. (My first "crossplay" was when I was about 10 years old for Halloween, and she found it amusing. I guess she didn't expect anything to come from it.) Just cosplay in general. (She thinks it's a waste of time, money, and effort. I think it's just a fun hobby and much-needed escapism.) But then, there's a lot of things about me that make my mother a hair's breath from disowning me, and I'm honestly surprised she hasn't yet. I guess she needs someone to yell at to amuse herself. There's a very good reason I don't live with her anymore, though. Now, to go "waste" $20 at the Goodwill looking for a suit...

Ami
08-27-2004, 01:11 PM
hmm sounds like my first story only both parents were on the exact same boat first off Id like to inquire: "theres a good reason I don't live with her anymore" does this mean they are divorced and if so does your mom have visitation rights? sorry if that sounds personal and to nosy I just need to know a little more before I can formulate you a couple ideas to get around this problem of yours

aguynamedgoo
08-27-2004, 04:14 PM
I am over 18. I am living with my grandmother by choice until I can get my own place, because I couldn't stand living with my mother anymore (for many reasons not involving cosplay). My parents are divorced, though, but that happened when I was 11 and my mother always had sole custody with my father getting visitation whenever he felt like it (it was an amicable break up). As I said at the beginning of my post, though, my father is currently stationed in Iraq and I absolutely can't stand his wife (and she knows it) so staying at his place is out of the question.

SilverWolfBecca
08-27-2004, 04:40 PM
Awwh, OMGz, that sucks x_x. I hope my parents have some understanding of crossplaying cause I'm going to wear three different costumes next otakon and all three of them will be guys. Inuyasha, Tetsu (1999 Grand Cross Conclusion), and Hiro from Gravitation.

ExtremeRPG
08-27-2004, 07:01 PM
Well because I pranked my sis, by stealing her undies the night before a cosplay, therefore making her go commando in a yuna gunner outfit, my mom is making me go crossplay just because she thinks its adequate punishment and it makes me look "real cute"

aguynamedgoo
08-27-2004, 07:29 PM
Well because I pranked my sis, by stealing her undies the night before a cosplay, therefore making her go commando in a yuna gunner outfit, my mom is making me go crossplay just because she thinks its adequate punishment and it makes me look "real cute"

As a psychology student (and a person who tends to overdramatize) I have to say that is really cruel and unusual punishment for something like this. I could see ganking your underwear being adequate punishment, but your mother making you go as a girl because she also thinks it looks cute? There's something really, really wrong with that.

Furthermore, this sounds like the kind of plots you'd find on crossdress/transgender fetish writing sites like FictionMania (http://www.fictionmania.com) (note: possibly NSFW. No images, but a lot of the stories are inappropriate). I'm not insinuating anything, just an observation.

ExtremeRPG
08-27-2004, 07:37 PM
I know how you could come to that conclusion but my mom doesn't believe that ground works and always comes up with really strange ways to give punishment out.

aguynamedgoo
08-27-2004, 07:56 PM
I know how you could come to that conclusion but my mom doesn't believe that ground works and always comes up with really strange ways to give punishment out.

It still disturbs me quite a bit. That's technically abuse, you know, not to mention cruel and unusual punishment. Even if she doesn't believe in grounding, it's no excuse.

Ami
08-27-2004, 08:56 PM
ok my advice: being over 18 saves you right there, your parents or in this case your mom can't tell you what not to do or what to do, my parents did a very similar thing when I first started crossplaying and now that im 18 they have no say, I love them still but they have no say in my life unless I want them to, as for the whole influce thing it might have had a small part to do with you but it was your brothers choice, for example theres alot of my older friends that I know smoke and they try to get me to do it also, they are trying to influence me but I chose not to, your brother wouldn't have done it if he hadent found at least a little interest, as for your mother its just one of those things, if she's that bad then maybe disowning isnt that big of a thing, my advice your over 18, your a strong person trying to find your place in socity don't let it bother who you are, be yourself not what others want to be, and if your worried about your mother, have a serious chat lay down your reasons, listen to hers and if all else fails just ignore her, just because you disagree you can still love\hate each other... so yeah sorry if I offend you in anyway aguynamedgoo i'm just tryin to offer some help from whats happened to me and what I know of people.........

aguynamedgoo
08-28-2004, 06:20 AM
ok my advice: being over 18 saves you right there, your parents or in this case your mom can't tell you what not to do or what to do, my parents did a very similar thing when I first started crossplaying and now that im 18 they have no say, I love them still but they have no say in my life unless I want them to, as for the whole influce thing it might have had a small part to do with you but it was your brothers choice, for example theres alot of my older friends that I know smoke and they try to get me to do it also, they are trying to influence me but I chose not to, your brother wouldn't have done it if he hadent found at least a little interest, as for your mother its just one of those things, if she's that bad then maybe disowning isnt that big of a thing, my advice your over 18, your a strong person trying to find your place in socity don't let it bother who you are, be yourself not what others want to be, and if your worried about your mother, have a serious chat lay down your reasons, listen to hers and if all else fails just ignore her, just because you disagree you can still love\hate each other... so yeah sorry if I offend you in anyway aguynamedgoo i'm just tryin to offer some help from whats happened to me and what I know of people.........


I already did the whole "I'm over 18 so screw this, I'm outta here" thing. I still stop by on the weekends, though, because otherwise I'd be homeless on the weekends. I laid down the ground rules to her when I turned 18, which is basically I respect her and any input she has in my life, but I refuse to let her flat-out rule how I live anymore and I am not going to let her tell me what I am going to do when. (It's not normal teen rebellion like "I'm going to wear this and shave and dye my hair and you can't stop me". It was more like "I am going to the college I want and getting the major and the classes I want and I am not going to let you sit beside me and tell them what I supposedly can and can't do when I beg to differ." Yes, that's an example of our situation.) But this isn't a "let's bitch about how rotten our parents are" thread. I have issues with my mother, and as they extend far beyond cosplay and I already have a way of dealing with them then this isn't the time or the place to discuss them. Feel free to IM or PM me if you want to keep talking about it.

However, on the topic at hand my brother doesn't want to actually crossplay, just plain cosplay. And not even that elaborate cosplay: Wolfwood from Trigun, Spike from Cowboy Bebop, the costumes all teenage guys try at least once when they first cosplay. His greatest cosplay aspiration is to someday put together a costume of Cloud from FFVII. Think about what this entails: I got my cosplay suit for $10 at the Goodwill and it's plain enough that I can wear it outside of cosplay. If he got a similar suit in his size (I'd let him borrow mine but he's about half a foot taller and 30 pounds lighter than I am) then for ten bucks he'd have some formal wear of some sort. My mother still insists that it's a waste of money (and not even her money) because, no matter what we do with the suits in the meantime, the end purpose is for a costume. I told my bro when I get a job I'd let him go crazy at the Goodwill and local thrift stores to put together a costume. The wig for Spike would be what soaked him the most, and if he went as Wolfwood he could use his own hair and the Punisher really isn't all that hard to make.

Here's another way to put this in perspective: last weekend my brother went to Hempstock with his best friend to help his best friend's dad sell CDs by his band. He came home higher than a kite (like no one saw that coming). So last weekend it's drugs, this weekend it's costumes. Which is the worst habit? The drugs, of course. Which is the one my mother is actually chewing him out for? The costumes. Oh well. My brother's 17 and capable of making an informed decision about his life, anyway. If he wants to watch anime, come with me to cons, and wear costumes then he's welcome to it if he has the money and the means. (He mostly wants to go because of the game room. He spends 90% of his time parked in front of some game or another.) Pretty soon he's going to be 18 and my mother's going to get the "stop running my life" speech all over again. She might as well give a little now so he won't be as bitter later.

Aino_Akki
08-28-2004, 07:14 AM
about original whole parents and crossplay thing - *shrugs* My parents gave up on me years ago. Sometimes my mom will see me making an outfit of some sort and will ask what it is. When I tell her she just shakes her head and glances at my sister who she doubts will make it to 21 without getting pregnant and says "Well, at least you're not spending your money on drugs." and walks away looking confused. ^-^ I'm the good kid in the family, so oddities like crossplaying are tolerated.

Sonoda Aki

Ami
08-28-2004, 11:59 AM
ah ok, I was just tryin to help glad you took care of all of it, and thanks for posting your story, perhaps some people will be able to relate and take the approporate course of action.....

Saucy
09-13-2004, 11:16 PM
i think the reason why family or friends have such a huge problem with guys crossplaying is theres this thing its almost like a law that all guys are must live by and that is that all guys MUST be macho and never show any sign of feminin and if you do you are automatically labled as being gay and thats why friends and family mainly guys have such a huge problem with it but as far as parents go i think its just more shocking to them that there little boy wants to dress up as a girl

Saucy
09-13-2004, 11:20 PM
i dont mind it at all

Guilty Neko
09-14-2004, 12:31 AM
Hm, thatís a tough sort of situation, but thatís what saving up money and moving out to start your own life is for. My family was a lot like that tooÖ actually they still are and even harped on things such as hair color, but donít be discouraged by other people or what is considered normal. You are the only one that has to be there throughout all of your life (every day, for every second) and you are the only one that truly has to live with you so in the end just do the things that make you happy. Anything else is just a waste of time and effort.

Dai
09-14-2004, 07:16 AM
That's terrible... Jeez... I feel so sorry for you... as for my mom, she won't help me on my costumes, but at least she supports my hobby.

mariksgrl
09-14-2004, 11:19 AM
ok so why dont your parents support crossplay mine do and im goin to do it alot they actually dont care what i do ( they wouldnt care if i jumped off a cliff and broke my arm) but hey if i were u i would crossplay anyway i mean it doesnt mean your goin to do it all the time like a crossdresser right so why should they worry its not a bad thing(then again i could careless on what my parents say about how i dress ^-^)welll good luck on trying to crossplay !!!! >0< u can do it~~!!!

Shaman Soul
09-15-2004, 08:47 PM
my mom would never, NEVER let me crossplay, im not sure if i would want to, but ,y mom wouldnt let me anyways, sometimes i think my mom thinks im gay becuase i make costumes and sew... o.O WAY OFF ! lol

CopyCattVII
09-15-2004, 09:03 PM
This is very moving...

Igniz
09-16-2004, 06:46 AM
my mom would never, NEVER let me crossplay, im not sure if i would want to, but ,y mom wouldnt let me anyways, sometimes i think my mom thinks im gay becuase i make costumes and sew... o.O WAY OFF ! lol

I think it's stupid to say that: you're gay because you sew and make costume.



But my parent didn't know I'm preparing a Voldo cosplay. I know it's a crazy one :jjacks:

mariksgrl
09-16-2004, 10:30 AM
>.< oo scary scary i dont like valdo hes a pian but yeah just because you crossplay doesn tmean that your gay 0-o;;; god wht is wrong with your parents???

Kirin-Riki
09-16-2004, 01:38 PM
I understand what neko says, my parents go as far as not letting me use hair gel. we have a very tight dress code too. i cant wear pants that are "baggy" which is anything looser than proper dress pants (not that i wear them everyday) so im used to alot of "wierd" things. ill just wait till i move out...

KittenJay
09-26-2004, 11:07 PM
My dad completely doesn't understand crossplay.
He says it is bad enough that I wear black nail polish and hang out with my "weirdo freak friends". He said he would rather pick me up from the county jail for doing drugs than pick me up at an anime convention while I am wearing a seifuku.

Some people are just completely oblivious to why cosplay is fun only to uphold the same social double-standards that they have been upholding for the past couple dozen years. :hafha: :lost:

So sad. I really wanted to dress up like Rikku.... :waaaah: :waaaah: :sulk:

Blue Sasarai
09-26-2004, 11:15 PM
my family prob thinks im weird for what i wear, but i dont care, never have.
ever since i was young ive been creative in my own fashion etc, so why not.
people will look at u weird no matter what right? might as well enjoy what u wear in conventions and not, crossplaying is a fav for me and its all good ^^

lol my fam so would love me to wear what everyone else does lol, to baddddd!

SilverFox
09-27-2004, 02:42 AM
Bahhhhh... Geez I feel sorry for you guys and girls who get crap from your parents about crossplaying. >_< *shares Pocky with all of you*

Bloody stupid double standards. What the hell is so important about gender anyhow? Anyway...

I've always been more or less a tomboy so me choosing to dress up as a male for costumes didn't come as much of a surprise, or any, to my parents.

They DID question WHY I chose to and sometimes, the answer of "Because I want to" wasn't enough and I finally sat them down and gave them "Gender Studies 101 - What IS Gender?" lecture and it sort of stopped the questions.

But that doesn't mean they don't ask or question sometimes, still.

Like my mother has an annoying habit of wanting me to buy something more... girly. Like, shirts with flowery patterns and the like. She also doesn't like it when I wear men's jeans because they are loose fitting and she says they look bad on me, but whatever.

My clothes are now comprised of 99.99% unisex clothing - like military fatigues/BDUs, plain tank tops, non-formfitting long sleeves, band T-shirts, and generic sweaters or hoodies. I do have the rare formal dress in my closet, but it's not the frilly sort at all - very black and very elegant - and I think it helps to reassure her that I didn't lose complete touch with myself. The feminine self, that is. At least, in her eyes. :P

She likes to check in with the girly side of me to see if it's still there and honestly, I don't HAVE A girly side of me - only the pissed-as-hell attitude that comes every month from being female.

So I guess they don't support me and cosplaying OR crossplaying, but they don't really look down on it either. They see it as an expensive habit of sorts, which it is, and they get upset at me for spending so much money sometimes, but that's really it.

We'll just see about later on though... Heh... ^^;;;

TornTsukasa
10-11-2004, 08:30 AM
Its scary. I cosplay. My dad laughs at it. My mom thinks its interesting. My sisters like "Be normal so my friends can think you're hot"(shes 4 or 5 years younger =/) My mom will help me if I will fund the costume due to my lack of intiative to sew(rolls a d20 and a 1 appears) case in point XD

I tried to get my mom to help me do Shuichi from gravitation and as soon as she saw pink hair shes like "NO!"

Unbeknownest to my mother I have a friend whos giving me some help making a crossplay, lets just say those pictures will be in my safety deposit box till both my parents are dead >.<

Not Quite Sane
10-25-2004, 05:31 PM
My parents know who I am going to be, which is a guy (Vash the Stampede). My mom even payed for all of it. She doesn't know who I am, so I don't think she cares much. XD

Vanity Fading
10-29-2004, 09:33 PM
my parents think *I'm* weird and abnormal just for cosplay (as girls even)! lots of parents are just worried usually... sometimes on how your "image" is reflected onto them or something >_>;

Kamatari.Honjo
10-30-2004, 03:12 AM
lol i am jelous >< i am not even allowed to make an outfit. ofcourse i want to do kamatari... ooo i am getting really frustrated to...

Anja
10-31-2004, 10:00 AM
my parents dont know about the crossplay.... i think it's better ^^

Miracle Beam!!!
11-02-2004, 10:45 PM
*points up*

What Anja said!

ZakuKitty
11-02-2004, 11:08 PM
My mom used to be a bit off...asking me why I don't go as female characters o_O (unless you want to count Natasha Radinov who looked enough like a guy...>_>) I think that she must have warmed up to it and my dad never really cared...he cared more about the cost. ^^

I think that it takes some time with some parents to understand. :P

Ethereal
11-03-2004, 06:57 AM
Or they can just remain stubborn and not understand it at all. My parents never turned to the idea, they used to confiscate my stuff or throw it out and such. So yeah, I kinda didn't bother with it that much - really depressed me and I ended up comfort eating a lot - still trying to burn off the consequence of that now ;_;

But hey, I live away from home now thanks to University ^o^ so once I get my financial situation sorted it'd be something I'll look into again

Scoti
11-03-2004, 08:44 AM
Parents can be stubborn but it only bothered my mother the one year she went to a con with me for an hour so that she can "better understand me". As a result it confused her even more because I had girls following me and tell her "your son is hot!" lol. It was amusing.

Tajha
11-03-2004, 10:02 AM
Cube, if I was a guy (I don't know if you are or not o.o;) in that position, I would have told my parents I <i>was</i> trying to be more like my sister lol I've always thought it would be interesting to dress up as a guy, but I think I'd have trouble hiding my D chest >.< I've got a friend who has an original character who is a female rogue who makes so great an effort to disguise herself as a guy and has been doing it for so long that most people can't tell she's not.

I don't live with my parents any more, thank the gods, so they don't need to know what I do for fun ^.^ I really don't know what they would say... *big hugs* I'm sorry your parents are all weird about it though!

punkykitty
11-03-2004, 03:42 PM
Hee. I feel really lucky now. My mom actually helped me with my first costume and now I am making them on my own. She thought it wierd at first, but then she noticed me smiling a lot more, especially when talking about the different costumes I want to make. So, she is fine with it. In fact, she just shakes her head and laughs most the time.

I have also warped my fiances mind!!! He won't be a girl character, but that's okies!!! I myself will be Crossplaying as Youko this year and he will be cosplaying Karasu. Mwhahahaha!!! Yaoi fans, be on the look out!!! ((And yes, I AM a girl, so it's okies!!!))
=P Anyways, I hope things get better for those of you out there who are having a hard time with stereotypes and such!

Anja
11-03-2004, 03:53 PM
girl -> boy... parents say... "hmmmmm its okay"
boy -> girl... parents shocked... "hmmm its okay?!?"

i think its harder for boys to tell it the parents ^^

(my mum kill me when i show her the picture) xD

Gothic_Catboy
11-04-2004, 02:14 AM
Do not show it to her for quite some time then. It isn't anything major, so it is up to you if you think this is really something that she would need to see.

ani_cat_candy
11-14-2004, 01:47 PM
gee, I read all this & don't feel so bad any more... =^___^=

My mom & brother cosplay with me sometimes and my dad just stands to the side with the camera
I've crossplayed as Inuyasha once & they were cool with it (not all that revealing) but I'm not too sure how they're gonna' react to me dressing as Yoko Kurama. his shirt's a bit open & my mom especially is against binding... "you spent all thoes years growing them & now you just want to squish them?!?"
agh!

I can feel the headach now... *sigh*

ZakuKitty
11-14-2004, 01:54 PM
girl -> boy... parents say... "hmmmmm its okay"
boy -> girl... parents shocked... "hmmm its okay?!?"

i think its harder for boys to tell it the parents ^^

(my mum kill me when i show her the picture) xD

Sometimes it's just as bad for girls but yes I agree. It's this whole homophobic fear which I don't understand myself. o_o

My mom used to care for awhile but she likes my costumes now. My parents even got up the nerve to go to a con recently. o_0 It was weird having them around.

ani_cat_candy
11-14-2004, 02:01 PM
heh
atleast they don't follow u arround 24-7
my parents- "Noooo! You might get kidnaped! What if some weard-o pulls u into another hotell room!?! ect. ect."

sad thing is, they do this on crusis too IN THE MIDDLE OF THE @#%$&#% OCEAN!!!
geah! *passes out due to exaustion from trying to ditch parents*

ZakuKitty
11-14-2004, 02:42 PM
What's odd is that they never realize how many other people crossplay as well. o_0 I think that my parents finally got over it when they realized that other friends all do it too. XD

As far as being protective, some parents are just like that. It's better to have ones that care where you are than to not care at all....so long as it doesn't put a damper on your fun. :)

tabbybunhead
12-07-2004, 08:45 PM
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an independent,fundamentalist baptist preacher as a dad,being disabled and unable to support yourself and transgendered.I am interested in crossplay becuase when dad caught me wearing a dress he threatened to kick me out of his house,but relented as long as I don't do it at home and only at cons.To dress as a lady to go out with my friends,bad and evil,to go out of town and dress up as a female character I admire at a con,tolerable.

I feel for all of you who have close minded parents.Just a ponit I thought I would make,I am a bi women(in soul anyway) and out of all my gay and lesbian friends who are into cosplay and costuming I am the only one who does not costume according to my biological gender.Most gays(remember most)do not crossplay.

Tabby

*Lola*
12-08-2004, 11:18 AM
My parents are totally cool with it. I am gonna crossplay and the only thing that "worries" my mom is that I'm going to make the costume.(hahaha)

Mom: Where are you gonna buy it?
Me: Um... I'm gonna make it...
Mom: What?! No!! You want it to look all pretty, not half-assed!
Me: Oh wow thanks for being so nice! :sulk: :blubber:

:toothy:

Lily-chan
12-11-2004, 06:33 PM
Well, my dad's rarely home, so ya know, but he has threatened my anime expo and cosplaying f I don't get my grades up. Like I wasn't going to do that in the first place! My mum's main problem is that I mainly crossplay. So I mainly hide my cosplaying ways. ^^0 My Grandma would probably love to see my interest in sewing.

Blackrose666
12-18-2004, 06:12 PM
Wow, my parents are completely fine with Cosplay. And fine with Crossplay too. I'm a girl so tis easier on me. But some people seem to find it wierd when guys crossplay as girl. They're meaniefaces. :p

RoronoaZoro
12-18-2004, 08:13 PM
I've only cosplayed a girl once, so I mostly crossplay ^_^. My mom doesn't like me to tape myself down (she thinks I'll hurt myself). It's pretty weird when people tell me "oh! you look just like Sanji (or whoever I'm crossplaying at the time) except for the fact that you had boobs" it happens often ;_;

ilumiari
12-19-2004, 08:29 AM
I've never spoken to my parents about crossplaying. They're ok about cosplay as long as I don't ask for a ton of money, but my mum will think something is seriously wrong if I show up in guy clothes. I normally wear skirts anyway, so just wearing pants out (especially in summer) gets mum curious.

At the moment I'm happy just cosplaying girls

MiyaviCreation
12-19-2004, 08:58 AM
My perants are fine I mom don't like it that much but they have gotten used to it

Mithos
12-19-2004, 11:02 PM
My parents would kill me if they saw me crossplaying again ^_^

I'm old enough to move out but I can't afford it yet. I'm looking for a flatmate or something to share the cost with ^_^

Yunalover88
12-22-2004, 01:37 AM
My parents don't know that I'm a crossplayer. I'm honestly not too sure how they'd react if they found out... They can be open minded about some things... but... if they knew their son was going out in a dress, it might freak them out a bit! :D Perhaps if I tell them... "gently?" Like... "Hey, I've started making this costume... and I'd like some input on it." *holds up skirt* Meh, I dunno. It's late, and my thoughts are jumbled. :P

Itachi_genin
12-22-2004, 01:02 PM
i dont know i saw 2 boys dressed as school girls and i was shocked. But when i see girls dressed as edawrd elric im not to shocked because some times girls have taken roles of men in shows and most cant tell. I for once wouldnt go dressed asa girl. I stick to male parts because im comfty with those. Then again id do a ugly girl..AHAHAHAH. But what ever your choice is it should be ok jsut for cons and stuff.

Menchi
12-22-2004, 01:29 PM
i dont know i saw 2 boys dressed as school girls and i was shocked. But when i see girls dressed as edawrd elric im not to shocked because some times girls have taken roles of men in shows and most cant tell.

girls dressing like a boy isnt huge deal now, when my mother was in college a girl in pants was very shocking. me i don't care if a guy dresses like a girl (as long as it is done in a tasteful manner), or a girl is dressed like a boy it is all jus a costume and chance to be someone else for a short time period.


I for once wouldnt go dressed asa girl. I stick to male parts because im comfty with those. Then again id do a ugly girl..AHAHAHAH. But what ever your choice is it should be ok jsut for cons and stuff.

in theater i woud think you would have more an open mind as crossdressing in both ways is usually accepted from my experience in it. if a person wants to crossdress that is as kewl as say cosplaying a character the opposite gender you are, or for a play. *shrug*

Itachi_genin
12-22-2004, 01:36 PM
Your right i just hehe i mean i got not problem with it. Like you say as long as its tastefull and looks good. ^_^

gally2003
12-22-2004, 03:06 PM
When it comes to Jrock cosplay... X_x the issue of crossplay gets kinda confusing. Well, maybe, it's just me and rei_the_stampede (aka Kimi) that get so confused by this, but we spent a few hours talking about: "If a girl cosplays as a guy who's already dressed like a girl is that cosplayer crossplaying?" I know, I know, it's kinda a pointless thing to disscuss for hours, but seriously. Kimi's mom wouldn't let her dress as Shinya for our Dir en Grey cosplay group, when she found out that her daughter would be dressing as a "Drag Queen". I honesty don't see whats wrong with that, I mean sure she's protraying a guy, but she's not dressing like one x_x. I'm glad to say my mom couldn't care less, whether I dress as a guy, a girl, or a guy dressing as a girl, my mom doesn't care as long as she doesn't have to help me make the costume, buy the fabric, or drive me to the convention.

chibi_kitsune
12-22-2004, 04:10 PM
When it comes to Jrock cosplay... X_x the issue of crossplay gets kinda confusing. Well, maybe, it's just me and rei_the_stampede (aka Kimi) that get so confused by this, but we spent a few hours talking about: "If a girl cosplays as a guy who's already dressed like a girl is that cosplayer crossplaying?" I know, I know, it's kinda a pointless thing to disscuss for hours, but seriously. Kimi's mom wouldn't let her dress as Shinya for our Dir en Grey cosplay group, when she found out that her daughter would be dressing as a "Drag Queen". I honesty don't see whats wrong with that, I mean sure she's protraying a guy, but she's not dressing like one x_x. I'm glad to say my mom couldn't care less, whether I dress as a guy, a girl, or a guy dressing as a girl, my mom doesn't care as long as she doesn't have to help me make the costume, buy the fabric, or drive me to the convention.


Yah, that is very interesting. I think I confused my mom and a few other people about the whole girl dress as guy dress as girl thing and the only thing I got is they don't like dark make but if i'm happy then they don't really care as long as I finish making my other stuff first before I start on a on a new project/costume ( I have a bad habbit doing that ^_^; ).

Kirin-Riki
12-23-2004, 07:03 PM
to those who havent heard me Biatch about this subject, mum's the word around my parents.

MelloistheSQUEE
07-01-2008, 03:55 PM
cube- XD ^^

c.c;

on the subject of grandparents if my grandma ever knew she would have a heart attack and disown me. ::laugh:: ^_^;;;;;


Oddly enough, my grandparents seem to be the only people in my family who support me.

RedeadDie
07-02-2008, 01:45 AM
Eh, I still wonder why my parents were never on me about crossplaying during my first stage into it. It's not like I ever crossplayed as any male that looked even slightly like a girl. Hell, I even tell them to their faces it's a he I'm dressed up as.

Kk, why I find this weird that they were ok with it? My father was raised in a Catholic church and is strict as hell because he was an instructor in the military. My mother is super Protestant Christian who works with the church 24/7 and thought at one point in her life that everything was a sin.

I have no idea why they never got on me about it! I guess they trusted my intentions for doing this as a hobby. Hell, they even know about my interest in yaoi. They've not said a word and they always want to see my crossplays.

*headdesk* Idk if they've been up to something these past five to six years of me crossplaying, or what.

I feel bad about ya'all that have strict parents or those who don't understand. I would've moved out of my house and roomed with one of my friends for a while if they got on me about crossplaying. I never knew it was harsh on some people who's families just don't get it.

Mangochutney
07-02-2008, 02:12 AM
Wow, thread from 2004.