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digikoomi
09-05-2002, 10:24 PM
MY god~ this was such bad news...after the con my parents had just yell at me like hell >_< no idea why parents think about cosplay, my dad said it's kitty stuff, no way~ I think convention is had lots stuff and info, and its not for kid. Why people think animation is for kids only? and why adult can't dress up? I dont understand some people's feeling, so What do you guys think? any problem from Parents?
( I just feel so bad about this.....
they are trying to stop me for the next con .....some body help~~)

Kamui Motoaki
09-05-2002, 10:30 PM
dun worry. . .just wear your costumes to school. . . around the house. . . shopping. . . and soon your parents will get used to it. . ^_~ *is talking outta experience. . * lol

Oshi
09-05-2002, 10:36 PM
I'm gonna be sewing my Seifer coat to be able to wear around. Like, keep me warm. Mm... corderoy lined... nice heavy material... beyond cosplay ^_^;

But yeah. My mom like, just worries about me traveling around all the sudden. She doesn't mind the cosplay, in fact, she's proud that I'm doing such creative stuff. My dad... he doesn't comment. But I guess he doesn't mind.
Stopping you from the next con? After AXNY, I was like, slacking around a bit, doing photo stuff, and my mom was pissed like "You're not going to any more cons." "So, you're saying I can't go out and hang with my friends?" "...oh nevermind"
I think she's glad I'm making friends, I've always been the loner/outcast in school. This is my niche ^_^;

Animation being for kids... sheesh, my dad still watches cartoons sometimes. But anime... He just calls it 'japanese crap'. *shrug* So he doesn't like the drawing style. Oh well. I'm not gonna argue that.
I dunno... I guess I got it easy... alot of understanding people...
I just wish my mom didn't worry about me so much, I mean, what will she think when I start going all the way up to AnimeBoston and down to Animazement? ^_^;

TyJILDown
09-06-2002, 05:51 AM
My sister always mocks whatever they're saying on TV along with my mom calling it "gook shit"...my mom also always gets mad when I watch anime because I prefer watching it on the 53" and she can't get TV time on the larger TV when I am... -_-;;

Mam also got pissed when I started spending all this money on my cosplay costume saying that it was a waste of money. Yes, I had no job when I started doing the costume but I had fun. Maybe she was right in a way since I did spend like $400 on this costume X_x

gunboy
09-06-2002, 10:39 AM
"Gook shit"?? Some of us take major offence in that. It's not even funny. Your family got to get with the times and be a little less insensitive.

Rosiel
09-06-2002, 10:58 AM
> "Gook shit"?? Some of us take major offence in that. It's not even funny. Your family got to get with the times and be a little less insensitive.

Or maybe we shouldn't take silly comments too seriously. LOL
I think it's funny, personally, because, yes, anime is a sort of drug (mooooooooooore aniiiiiiiiiiiime...) so calling it "Good shit" (like I always heard people calling drugs in movies) fits imo.

My grandfather calls anime "Japoniaiseries" a mixture of "Japonaiserie" (slang for a Japanese thing), and naiseries (stupidities). He thinks its funny and I think it's a creative wordplay. I don't feel threatened or offended by this at all.

And then the word "sensitive" makes me cringe. It sounds so politically correct, which instantly get all my alarms going.

gunboy
09-06-2002, 11:09 AM
THat's because you're not Asian. Any one who still uses the work Gook makes me boiling mad. Political correctness implies a overly sensitive tone towards something, but a Gook is just a racial, degratory term reserved for "Enemies".

I am surprised at how someone can be an Anime fan and still be so insensitive towards this. Maybe you can help change the attitude of your mal-adjusted family members.

Rosiel
09-06-2002, 11:27 AM
> Any one who still uses the work Gook makes me boiling mad.

LOL I'm not Asian but I am not a native English-speaker either and I thought that "gook" was a typo for "good". LOL I have now learnt a new word!

(I still maintain that "good shit" would have been funny!)

> I am surprised at how someone can be an Anime fan and still be so insensitive towards this.

Well, mostly because I did not know the term. ^___^

> Maybe you can help change the attitude of your mal-adjusted family members.

LOL I would not dream of it! I love them the way they are!
He'll make fun of anime in one breath and himself in the next. There is such a thing as making fun of stereotypes, you know. And he has the right to think anime is stupid. I think US football is stupid and will poke fun at the Superbowl mercilessly.

Most people like to joke that no one makes movies as badly as the French. I don't get offended. ^___^ I mean, if the pun is made in good humour and not meant to be nasty, I see no problem with it.

Seriously if I got offended at every bad-French-movie, Maginot-line, smelly-unwashed-French and hairy-armit joke I heard I'd spend my life in a bad mood!

s0ni-chan
09-06-2002, 11:45 AM
*sigh* Koomi, you aren't the only one with crappy parents. I was walking around with my new pair of wings, and my dad saw them...AND HE STARTED TO YELL AT ME! Lol, I thought it was hilarious, so I started to laugh and he got even madder. He told me that I'm crazy and gay to be wearing wings. Yes, he said that. Lol, I couldn't stop laughing. This is my philosophy, if parents are stupid enough to yell at you about wearing wings, then they are prolly to stupid to know anything about cosplaying and whatnot. Just explain to them, the pros about cosplaying. Say that you can meet a lot of new cool people through it. My parents won't let me travel for a con, so I have to deal with that. As long as you talk to them, everything should turn out fine. In my case, laughing was better.

Oshi
09-06-2002, 01:46 PM
Wow... I gravely mistook my mom. I told her about how I wanted to pick up some fabric for my Seifer costume after classes today... and she's all pissy like "Oh, and when is this for?" "Um... October and February" "NO! YOU'RE NOT GOING TO ANY OF THOSE ANIME THINGS DURING THE SCHOOL YEAR!" Then she went on about money, I owe her like $400 for school books, should focus on my studies, etc... blah. Kinda tuned her out.
Someone needs to slap her and remind her that I'm a legal adult now, and I'll, frankly, do/go what/whereever the fuck I want.

Rosiel
09-06-2002, 02:19 PM
> I'm a legal adult now, and I'll, frankly, do/go what/whereever the fuck I want.

Unfortunately, as long as you're in their house, you're their kid. X__X The only way to do what you want is to move out and pull the plug on the phone. (As I have discovered after years of living with over-protective parents.)

Sami
09-06-2002, 02:23 PM
Originally posted by Rosiel

Unfortunately, as long as you're in their house, you're their kid. X__X The only way to do what you want is to move out and pull the plug on the phone. (As I have discovered after years of living with over-protective parents.)

LOL exactly. x_x My parents weren't exactly overprotective ALL the time, but I lived with them until I was 21 and it got a little rough towards the end. *twitch* Their roof, their rules.. meh.

My mom started to get a little iffy about my cons/cosplay after a while. So I asked her if she'd rather have me going to geeky anime conventions a few times a year, or hanging out on the street selling my body and snorting crack or whatever. I'll bet you can guess what she chose. ^_-

NeoDrifter
09-06-2002, 02:25 PM
I hate it when Con time comes around, my mom acts all supportive and when I come back she yells at me and does all this stuff to me. She says Japanese anime is for children and that I ain't a kid no more, I WANNA STAY A KID THEN! she pissed me off so much by saying I couldn't go to Otakon and had to go to a missionary bullcrap camp. All they do there is what you can get for free at bootcamp. I started to yell at her about how much I get stressed by her bull**** that she just shut up about it. god even to this day I am still pissed about that.

Kitty
09-06-2002, 02:50 PM
I am a BIG kid and yes I too have had bad probs with my parent. They said they didnt want me to be an " Anime losser" for the rest of my life. So what you need to do is just dim it down some and not let them see how much you love it to the point they think you are obsessed over it but tell them it is just a "weekend hobby" and it wont consume your life. I said that and my parents backed down . MWA HA HA!

Shima-Mizu
09-06-2002, 02:56 PM
My parents are very supportive in taking me to my annual convention (I-Con, been going for the past 3 years) since they realize how much it means to me. It took a while of working on my dad, but with the help fo my insistant aunt, we got him to take me to AXNY finally. I think part of thier support comes because they know I want to work in this industry for real and all...so they realize they have to support my life's decision. That doesn't mean they like it though...my dad thinks it's pretty odd and my mom thinks it has a lot of bad themes (of course she's only seen bad examples to base this on which doesn't help much since as a result she won't watch good stuff with me).

Shima-Mizu
09-06-2002, 02:57 PM
Oh! On that note though, becuase they do recognize my love for it a few good things have come---my dad subscribed me to Animerica and Animerica for Christmas and for my bday last year he got me the 4 import dvd's of Flame of Recca...and my mom, remembering that I want to be a translator, recently picked me up a magazine and book all in Japanese so I can practice my reading skills (my actual understanding skills are another matter though...those suck, I can read and not know what I'm reading lol). But yeah in that essense my parents can be very helpful even though they may not completely understand why I like the stuff.

AlchemistMerlin
09-06-2002, 03:39 PM
grrrrr.....parents anger merlin much.........my parents think im an idiot for watching anime...course my dad cant say much cause he plays video games at work lol(i always just walk into his office and hes sittin there playin age of empires on his free time) so i use that against him...my mom just keeps mummbling "mindless" whenever she walks by and im watching it......if it werent for the nudity id tell her to sit and watch Ghost In Shell and ask her how mindless that was(i personally felt Ghost was really really deep) but she would just see the nudity and ban me from anime all together :rolleyes: right like anime does anything worse to my mind than her spanish soap opera's do to hers :rolleyes: quite frankly parents arent ment to understand...they never have, they never will, to bad its their loss....hell i'll still be watchin anime when my kids are 15 and im 30 lol

Oshi
09-06-2002, 03:44 PM
Man... Just think how our kids are gonna grow up...
"My parents won't stop coming to conventions with me!"

Shima-Mizu
09-06-2002, 03:45 PM
lmao, that was great Oshi---it will be like the little girl who did Sakura in the Masquerade---parents will be cosplaying at the same thing :)

Rosiel
09-06-2002, 03:52 PM
> quite frankly parents arent ment to understand...they never have, they never will, to bad its their loss....

Not all parents are the same...

My mom watched all of Fushigi Yuugi with me, she was obsessed with "Tomahome" (never was able to remember his name correctly). She stopped watching Sailor Moon after Nephrite died because she was so mad, loved Record of Lodoss War, and was scared out of her wits watching Ninja Scroll...

Never could get her into anything with robots though...

I used to have anime nights with her and some of her friends when I was in University. Really. ^___^

My aunt and uncle also watch anime, and they loved Vampire Hunter D: Bloodlust. My next plan: Perfect Blue and Escaflowne.

I go to their house on Thursday for movie night. One week I bring one movie or anime, the next week they choose a movie. I don't always like what they pick -Titanic, yuck- but we at least sample things we would not otherwise. Offering an exchange generally helps to get others more willing to listen to you.

Tell her you'll watch Spanish soap operas with her if she'll watch something with you. Show it dubbed, and choose something she would like. Seriously, if she's into soaps, Ghost in the Shell isn't for her. Get her Escaflowne movie or some other shoujo anime instead.

AlchemistMerlin
09-06-2002, 03:59 PM
she doesnt watch regular soaps...just the spanish ones...atleast she used to now she doesnt really watch those...plus i dont speak spanish so i cant really watch the spanish soaps ^^; uhhh.....as to the "My parents wont stop coming to cons with me"....its not like im gonna follow them around the con...once they are old enough (13-14) they have free roam and me and my wife go off on our own to explore the con...i will refuse to be one of those overprotective psyco parents like my mom ::Shiver:: and if the kids dont like anime then i wont force it on them...they go as they wish...although i really hope that they do like anime or they are going to become very disturbed children with their both anime fans lol(trust me, the girl i marry will be an anime fan...all the girls ive ever dated have been anime fans)

AlchemistMerlin
09-06-2002, 04:01 PM
hmmm...can you find the places in that post where i meant to use the word "parents" and forgot to put it in? lol....im half awake and its only 5:06 pm

AlchemistMerlin
09-06-2002, 04:15 PM
Quote:"They said they didnt want me to be an " Anime losser" for the rest of my life. "
My parents said something along those lines...so thats when i started hanging out with the goths, punks, and druggies in my town....bring home 1 girl that has 3 piercings not on her ear and who wears lots and lots of spikes and has a vocabulary like a sailor and your parents will be happy to have you going back to being an "anime loser" hehehe unfortunatly this effect only lasts for about a year

Kitty
09-06-2002, 05:34 PM
LOL My dad wants me to make $ off of it! He was happy when I made some cash at ax in long beach

NeoDrifter
09-06-2002, 08:45 PM
my mom says I'm wasting my life and money, although she doesn't care if I go off by myself with a few friends to Baltimore unless someone question's her parenting then she becomes overprotective.

s0ni-chan
09-06-2002, 09:28 PM
*Sigh* Spanish soap operas are outta control. My mom is crazy, she distinguishes anime as "Sailor Moon", which was my first obsession. I have to correct her. But she's starting to get bitchy. She doesn't want me to dress up as FFX Shiva, because "its too revealing" ... newsflash...was Jenova revealing?! I think not!

And another thing, she doesn't want me to cosplay Lime from SMJ because of the thong thing outside of Lime's shorts. I feel a headache coming along because of her. Yet, she'll let me run around in my Nadia costume. God, parents make no sense. My dad though, he knows nothing about my cosplaying. He had trouble with me wearing wings, I'm sure he'll have trouble with me dressing up as anime characters. Jeez. Someone needs to seriously give them an open-mind.

s0ni-chan
09-06-2002, 09:29 PM
hmm.

Tenshi
09-06-2002, 09:39 PM
My parents don't care about me going to conventions, at least the convention part of it. My only problem is that they won't let me travel to conventions, since I am the only person out of my friends who likes anime enough to go to cons and cosplay ^^;;. They're very overprotective, but they mean well.

When it comes to cosplay, they didn't like it at first, but they grow more helpful every day. Especially my dad, who helped me cut styrofoam correctly, gave me some nice wire for a skirt, etc. When I start my Suu costume I want to make the wings out of plexiglas, which my dad should like (he works in the glass industry). Plus, I have a grandmother who used to make crazy costumes all the time. I'm fortunate I'm not the first in my family ^^;;.

Dr. Makoti Jean
09-06-2002, 09:46 PM
s0ni-chan I have the exact same kind of parents like you do! My mom thinks anything that has big colorful eyes and pretty costumes is "Sailor moon". So I have to correct her also. I don't know about my stepdad about how he feels about cosplaying. My mom also understands about me cosplaying too, but she doesn't want me to get a job to get money to make my costume. She says I hafta study everyday for the Regents exams for high school. >,< I'm not a friggen computer! GAAAHHH! *falls off a twin size bed* x.x

KuroBara
09-06-2002, 09:56 PM
>He told me that I'm crazy and gay to be wearing wings.

*looks at her wings, then at her boyfriend* This will be such a shock to him! ^_^

My parents always ask how much money I'm spending on cons. The travel thing worries them too. "You're going to NYC?!?" "Yes mom. In the daytime with 5 other people. Just like the 10 other times I went last year and didn't get mugged / raped / killed."

They've never actually watched any anime with me. Everything is "Sailor Moon", or some horrible mangling of "Mononoke". They never say it's kid stuff though, I think they understand the animation for adults thing. Lol, I should go ask my mom if she read the article in her Disney magazine about "Spirited Away".

My dad's a trekkie, so I explain cosplaying & cons like that. He's ok with it. My brother gives me shit, so I turn around and tease him about his love of professional wrestling.

I visited a friend from school on my way home once, and while I was there, I helped her hem a very pretty elaborate medieval gown. Then I saw pictures of the Amidala & Mulan costumes she made for her Vietnamese daughter, they were better than what I see at I-Con! She helps my friend make all of his too, they're so amazing. Why can't my family be like that?

TyJILDown
09-06-2002, 10:46 PM
Originally posted by gunboy
"Gook shit"?? Some of us take major offence in that. It's not even funny. Your family got to get with the times and be a little less insensitive.

Sorry, I didn't mean to offend you in any way shape or form. I was just quoting my mother. If I did offend anyone, I apoligize.

I was just pointing out some people just don't care about anime or anything and say stupid comments in regards to it. X_x;;

TheAnarCHris
09-06-2002, 11:05 PM
Man... Just think how our kids are gonna grow up...
"My parents won't stop coming to conventions with me!"


Yeah sounds like my kid in the future.......he's definelty gonna be dressed as lil trunks for the first con (still deciding one what happends if i have a daughter)...buy anywho, SOMEONE'S COSPLAYING AS SEIFER FOR Anime North?!?!? We need to talk ASAP

CHris
AIM:Griever824

Shadow Lady
09-07-2002, 12:09 AM
I'm glad my parents are ok with this kind of stuff.

My Mom went with me to my first convention (had to get a ride somehow) and she thought it was interesting. She kept saying things like "Who's that?" and "Did you see that person?"
She was a little shocked however when she accidently picked up the wrong artbook. :crylaugh: It was funny.

My Dad doesn't seem to mind the cosplay thing (being the Halloween nut that he is).

My Grandma thinks its cool that I know some Japanese and she said she likes to stand in the middle of my room and look at all the neat anime stuff.:rolleyes:

I've even got my little brother into anime. I got him hooked on Trigun, Cowboy Bebop, and Haunted Junction. (I think he likes Tenchi Muyo too)

Adella
09-07-2002, 12:23 AM
My mother thought that conventions.. anime.. and costuming was freak stuff and stupid. THEN she excitedly demanded to attend Anime Expo for a day. That same day she got to see how happy my sister and me were in our costumes getting photographed.. she saw how harmless and cute it was.. and she got to see me get put on TV. SHe realized "It's just another hobby.. an obscure hobby.. but one that's harmless. at least my child is using her creativity and making something instead of going out and smoking pot and partying!"

Dragoon Knight
09-07-2002, 04:15 AM
Yeah, everyone is a kid at heart. It's fun to do something you like, and take pride in. Since I first started cosplaying back in 99, I've made so many friends, and my sewing skills have improved so much since then. Also some of the new friends I have made are very dear to me, and I don't want to see the "fun" aspect of cosplay be ruined for them. Its all fun, and not to be taken seriously. My best friend who is also a great cosplayer has helped me get back into shape, and I'm very thankful to her.

Glad my dad accepted what I do, cause I'd make it a living nightmare if he ever tried telling me cosplay and anime, and cons are a waste of time. They do consume a lot of time and $$$, but sometimes you just gotta tone it down like Kitty said.

And it's lucky to have a brother and sister's who are into anime and cosplay and going to conventions. Too bad right now my dad has my lil brother and youngest sister on a leash, so they aren't going to Ani-Magic...sorry Kitty, but they cant go ;_; and you won't be able to molest Quynn now, but maybe you still can anyways ..lol

Oshi
09-07-2002, 09:38 PM
I'm gonna try to bring my brother Mark down to Otakon this year with me... Dunno if he wants to cosplay or not yet ^_^;
Ten bucks says my mom will refuse to let him come.

Adella
09-07-2002, 09:40 PM
weeee to cosplay!

Oshi
09-07-2002, 10:23 PM
w00t! My dad just said the best thing ever that I can quote him on how much of a prick he is!
He was having trouble finding the remote, threatening to get rid of the TV, and yelled "IF I DON'T GET WHAT I WANT, WHEN I WANT IT, THEN NOBODY GETS ANYTHING!"
asshole, ne?

Adella
09-08-2002, 02:24 AM
wow that's amazing o.o;;;

Chosuke
09-08-2002, 08:38 AM
That's really horrible.
I'm glad I have my own mom and stepdad e.e;
Though my mom doesn't mind me watching anime or even cosplay [she sit's beside me sometimes while looking through pictures and says which ones she likes ^^;] she does seem to be bothered by cosplayers showing too much skin,especially younger ones.
My stepdad on the other hand is the one who introduced me to con's and has more Anime and anime merchandise then I do I think x.x;;;

Ranma Saotome
09-08-2002, 08:59 AM
You know...

I actually showed my grandmother pictures from Animazement 2001. She said I shouldn't go because I am the only black person there and if somebody gets shot I will be blamed for it. O.o WTF?!

I mean, my mom supports this, she knows I enjoy it. Hell, it ain't her money. And as for school, I'm paying for it. Digiko Omi, I'm expecting to see you at Anime NEXT. Say the word, I"ll come pick you up in a jeep and bring you there ourselves! :D

Ranma Saotome
09-08-2002, 09:02 AM
Originally posted by Oshi
Man... Just think how our kids are gonna grow up...
"My parents won't stop coming to conventions with me!"

That's already happening right now. :D

Ranma Saotome
09-08-2002, 09:04 AM
Originally posted by Starwind824
Man... Just think how our kids are gonna grow up...
"My parents won't stop coming to conventions with me!"


Yeah sounds like my kid in the future.......he's definelty gonna be dressed as lil trunks for the first con (still deciding one what happends if i have a daughter)...buy anywho, SOMEONE'S COSPLAYING AS SEIFER FOR Anime North?!?!? We need to talk ASAP

CHris
AIM:Griever824

Yeah Chris... I see myself running around as Ranma and my son as Chibi-Ranma! :D

If you have a daughter, dress her up as Videl or Pan! :)

Keurblitz
09-08-2002, 09:22 AM
I can understand why parents can be a bitch to handle sometimes. They care, sometimes a lil' too much, but they care. Well, for convention wise, as long as I don't spend too much money (well, I have a parttime job, so I get to pay them back some of the money) and I go with atleast 1 friend, then basically they won't mind. Heck, as long as I keep my grades up, they better shut the hell up. If my brother's 30 and can still watch Looney Tunes, I have the right to be an anime fan!

John Booty
09-08-2002, 03:41 PM
Ah, man. I'm sorry some of your parents are giving you a tough time.

I'm 26 and my parents think it's a little silly that I go to anime conventions all of the time. But, then again, I also have a good job and lots of interests outside of anime, so I think that helps too. Also, I don't live with them, so they don't really see me wearing/working on costumes, which ALSO helps.

My dad's pretty old- like 67. So it's tough for him to imagine animation as anything but "for kids". I mean, it's not that he's THAT closed-minded, but, still... animation WAS for kids as far as he knew for what, 60 years? Hahaha. Also, his earliest memories of Japan are Pearl Harbor and WWII, so that doesn't help. So, as much as I love anime, I can understand where he's coming from.

John Booty
09-08-2002, 03:49 PM
Also, there's probably 2 main reasons why parent's don't like anime.

Now, neither of them is RIGHT, but put yourself in their shoes...

#1: It seems silly to them since they've grown up thinking "animation=kids stuff" so they think you're crazy for liking it. Or, they think that "anime=ultraviolence and porn" and think you're crazy for THAT reason.

#2: They see you doing all this cosplay work, etc, for conventions and they're worried you're becoming obsessed. You know, they hear stories about kids getting obsessed with things and losing touch with reality. Hey, if YOU didn't know what anime was and your parents were getting dressed up for these strange cons, you'd be worried too!

Both reasons suck but it's only because they don't know any better. So help them learn, although going up against their closed minds can be sort of like banging your head against the wall. ^^

PS: God help me if I ever have kids!

venus2869
09-08-2002, 05:22 PM
Well, since my tag does say: "Mom, Cosplayer, Otaku", let me give my thoughts on this matter.

I do watch anime, read manga, collect action figures & toys, go to cons & cosplay. But I am a office manager for a hearing aid company and a mother of a lovely 11 year old daughter.

My daughter has been going to cons with me since getting out of the womb(sorry for the grossness!) Her 1st cosplay was of Wolverine at the Motor City Comic Con. Just recently we went to Anime Central and planning on attening it again. I do make sure that the bills are paid, food is in the house and that everything ok before any purchases and other things related to our hobby is gotten.

Now in some cases I can understand their concern (to me $400 is alot for a cosplay, but I'm not saying it's wrong), they, in their own wacky way are trying to still look out for you. We will always do that, until the day they die. You're our babies, but some of us don't understand or just don't want to let you go. Most of the time it's a control thing too.

I tell my husband this when he complains about my supply trips to Jo Ann's or Michael's, "Is the rent paid? Yes, Did I get groceries? Yes, Are all the bills paid? Yes, Has this affect my job? No, Am I on the street, selling myself and putting me & our daughter in any danger? NO!, then shut up and let me enjoy my hobby!" (and of course he wants to cosplay too, but just too chicken to do it!)

Most people are amazed when I show them our pics from the cons and our costumes. (We've gone as Eternal Sailor Moon, Super Chibi Moon, Jessie from pokemon, Meilin Li, Rika from Digimon, Sailor Cosmos, and planning others) And I for one am glad that I have something that both me & my daughter enjoy together.

We go to the stores together, shop for supplies, ready manga, watch anime and so on TOGHETHER! Nowadays, most parents don't even know what their kids are doing, let alone doing things with them.

::sighs:: Let me sum it up like this:

This is a fun way to express myself. I have not let my home or my child responsibilities down while doing this.
I am not hurting anyone in anyway by doing this.
I have met wonderful people and gone to some wonderful places while doing what I love.
I have great memories with my child while doing this.

And I hope that she will do this with me when I'm older & will take her child and me with her when she goes!

Sami
09-08-2002, 05:47 PM
Venus, you are officially the coolest mom ever. :D :D :D More power to you for doing something you love, -and- spending quality time with your child! ^_^

John Booty
09-08-2002, 06:34 PM
Venus, that rules! It's so cool that you and your kid can do that together.

My parents are awesome and I love them, but there's a total generation gap- we don't have much in common at all, so it sort of limits our closeness!

You rock! ^_^

Keurblitz
09-08-2002, 08:40 PM
Originally posted by venus2869
Well, since my tag does say: "Mom, Cosplayer, Otaku", let me give my thoughts on this matter.

I do watch anime, read manga, collect action figures & toys, go to cons & cosplay. But I am a office manager for a hearing aid company and a mother of a lovely 11 year old daughter.

My daughter has been going to cons with me since getting out of the womb(sorry for the grossness!) Her 1st cosplay was of Wolverine at the Motor City Comic Con. Just recently we went to Anime Central and planning on attening it again. I do make sure that the bills are paid, food is in the house and that everything ok before any purchases and other things related to our hobby is gotten.

Now in some cases I can understand their concern (to me $400 is alot for a cosplay, but I'm not saying it's wrong), they, in their own wacky way are trying to still look out for you. We will always do that, until the day they die. You're our babies, but some of us don't understand or just don't want to let you go. Most of the time it's a control thing too.

I tell my husband this when he complains about my supply trips to Jo Ann's or Michael's, "Is the rent paid? Yes, Did I get groceries? Yes, Are all the bills paid? Yes, Has this affect my job? No, Am I on the street, selling myself and putting me & our daughter in any danger? NO!, then shut up and let me enjoy my hobby!" (and of course he wants to cosplay too, but just too chicken to do it!)

Most people are amazed when I show them our pics from the cons and our costumes. (We've gone as Eternal Sailor Moon, Super Chibi Moon, Jessie from pokemon, Meilin Li, Rika from Digimon, Sailor Cosmos, and planning others) And I for one am glad that I have something that both me & my daughter enjoy together.

We go to the stores together, shop for supplies, ready manga, watch anime and so on TOGHETHER! Nowadays, most parents don't even know what their kids are doing, let alone doing things with them.

::sighs:: Let me sum it up like this:

This is a fun way to express myself. I have not let my home or my child responsibilities down while doing this.
I am not hurting anyone in anyway by doing this.
I have met wonderful people and gone to some wonderful places while doing what I love.
I have great memories with my child while doing this.

And I hope that she will do this with me when I'm older & will take her child and me with her when she goes!


If only my parents were this cool.... I'd be going to a lot of other cons....

digikoomi
09-08-2002, 11:11 PM
Well, this time my parents said it's such wasting time and money for cosplay...so sad people still dont understand that point

John Booty
09-08-2002, 11:23 PM
I think I know what you mean, Digikoomi. I mean, I'm 26 and haven't lived at home in years but I still get the same thing from my parents when I fly across the country for AX or whatever.

I was naming some of the reasons why parents and my friends' parents don't like the whole con/cosplay/anime thing.

I don't know, maybe your parents fall into one of those categories.

What do you think it is that bothers them about it?

KuroBara
09-08-2002, 11:30 PM
I know what you mean, after the customary rolling of their eyes, my parents always ask how much I spent on costumes & cons.

Just hold on digikoomi, you'll move out one day, right?

Oshi
09-08-2002, 11:47 PM
Moving out... peh, if it didn't cost so much, I would...
Then again.. maybe I could manage it...
I'm gonna look into that... I am getting a raise soon after all...

I think, after I do my first half-year of Co-Op at college (which is going and getting a real job), I'll have enough.
I just turned 18, i can't be ready yet >.<

</thinkoutloud>

John Booty
09-09-2002, 12:04 AM
For me, personally... moving out of the parents' house TOTALLY helped my relationship with them. I thought they were the lamest people ever, but now I see how awesome they are! My brother says the same thing.

The possible downside is that if you ever have to move back IN with them, that's probably going to seem like jail compared with the freedom of living on your own. ^_^;;;

Ranma Saotome
09-09-2002, 02:12 AM
Originally posted by Sami
Venus, you are officially the coolest mom ever. :D :D :D More power to you for doing something you love, -and- spending quality time with your child! ^_^

That reminds me... I once had to convince my mother NOT to goto Animazement as Nodoka Saotome! :eek:

Ranma Saotome
09-09-2002, 02:17 AM
Originally posted by Oshi
I just turned 18, i can't be ready yet >.<

Dood, I thought you were 20.

venus2869
09-09-2002, 07:34 AM
Thanks everyone! I don't think I'm a cool mom, but I do understand and try to make sure that my little one is happy!


Here's a pic of us, at our local con as Eternal Sailor Moon & Super Chibi Moon. Some of you might have seen us at Anime Central! Although, I didn't wear my ESM :(

I"m also kinda the "mom" of my cosplay group/business. I'm the one making sure that everyone's plans are set, costumes are done, props are gotten, reservations are made, registrations have been sent in and so on....

Most parents will go on past experiences with themselves, that's why you get the "no!" or other reactions when you tell them about a cosplay project or con plans.

Don't let them get you down. The "moving out" idea is a big help I agree. It was sooo much easer when I was on my own, not saying that my mom got on me about my cosplays (I was living with my mom right after my daughter was born, but it was a separate living arrangements)

She understood that it was my hobby/lifestyle, but I wasn't letting my child down and I was taking care of business while doing it. Most of the time, I use my tax refund $ for my con plans, and hit a garage sale to get supplies.

As my sig says....

Ranma Saotome
09-09-2002, 10:48 AM
Way past cool Venus! :) Here's also a picture of a mom and daughter team! Those who went to AXNY, Otakon, and Shoujocon have seen them- Karen and Julia.

Karen is Dejiko and Julia is Puchiko. They also cosplayed as Hand Maid May and Sakura Kinomoto, respectively.

Kitty
09-09-2002, 07:26 PM
Kitty agrees with Adella Yahoooo and Wheeeeeeeee

Oshi
09-09-2002, 09:14 PM
I won! Mostly! My mom is all good with me going to cons during the school year as long as 1) I don't cut Fridays to go, 2) I don't travel too far, 3) I keep my grades up, 4) I don't spend too much.
Pretty reasonable... but it means I can't go to AnimeBoston or Animazement unless they fall on a holiday... shit, maybe not even Katsu... well, I got AnimeNEXT secure, at least ^_^;;
She understands that the main reason I go is to hang out with my friends (*insert awws from audience here*)

and she was always cool with the cosplay part. As long as, again, I don't spend too much on it, money and time.

Ranma Saotome
09-09-2002, 09:41 PM
Oshi, read your LJ about Animazement and add me to your list damn you! :p

AlchemistMerlin
09-09-2002, 10:08 PM
i have to say that all of you are very lucky you have parents who understand..... sigh...

Oshi
09-09-2002, 11:02 PM
Originally posted by Ranma Saotome
Oshi, read your LJ about Animazement and add me to your list damn you! :p
Done and done. yes! Animazement right after I get out of school! Awsome!
Originally posted by Alchemistmerlin
i have to say that all of you are very lucky you have parents who understand..... sigh...
Parent. Just my mom understands. My dad... well, he really doesn't give a crap ^_^; So I guess I scored in both areas.

XxNANA_AYUxX
09-10-2002, 11:36 AM
I went to AXNY with my mom and she had just as much fun as i had. I only went for one day (the next day i came back just to pink up my art i left at the Artist Gallery) My mom wanted to stay in the hotel and stay all 3 days. so did I . She said "you should of made a costume!!" And now she's helping me out, looking for hot pink fabric for my first cosplay outfit *tee-hee*

Ranma Saotome
09-10-2002, 11:38 AM
Originally posted by XxNANA_AYUxX
I went to AXNY with my mom and she had just as much fun as i had. I only went for one day (the next day i came back just to pink up my art i left at the Artist Gallery) My mom wanted to stay in the hotel and stay all 3 days. so did I . She said "you should of made a costume!!" And now she's helping me out, looking for hot pink fabric for my first cosplay outfit *tee-hee*

That's sweet! :) Since you are in NJ, will you be coming out for AnimeNEXT?

XxNANA_AYUxX
09-10-2002, 12:25 PM
I wish!!! but i'm moving to Miami!!!

Ranma Saotome
09-10-2002, 01:46 PM
Originally posted by XxNANA_AYUxX
I wish!!! but i'm moving to Miami!!!

WEll thereare plenty of cons in the south. :)

engrish
09-10-2002, 02:28 PM
Rosiel quote:
"Unfortunately, as long as you're in their house, you're their kid. X__X The only way to do what you want is to move out and pull the plug on the phone."

*nods head in agreement*

You can be 60 years old and still be considered your parent's "kid". At least some parents think like that and if yours just happens to be like that then there's not much you can do to change their minds. As long as you're under someone else's roof then you can not have ABSOLUTE freedom. Maybe 95% but never 100%. Granted living on your own can be a HUGE finacial expense but whoever said freedom was free?

getting back to anime:
My parents don't mind me cosplaying, it's the crossplaying that has them worried. Whenever I go prancing around the house dressed in my schoolgirl outfit getting ready for my next con my dad just sits on the couch, arms crossed with a dissapproving look on his face, and makes weird grunt sounds. My mom just shakes her head and reminds me to keep a low profile because she doesn't want her friends to find out about her only son's "hobby". I guess they're hoping this is just a "phase" in my life. I would like my parents to appreciate my hobby a little more but I guess you can't make everybody happy. Some of my fav cosplayers are crossplayers. It takes skill to do a good cosplay but even more so if it's crossplay.

Anyways since I pay for all of my own hobbies that gives me more leverage. he he I'm all for freedom but if you're going to use someone else's money then you must accept whatever stipulations the person demands even if it's not in you're own interest. If you don't like it then use your own money, that's just my opinion. :D

Quies
09-10-2002, 08:45 PM
wow. this was a rather interesting read-i just read all 5 pages.

my mom's going to let me run around a-kon bymyself-but she is driveing up there with me, my friend, and her mom. the mothers are going to go shop for..garden supplies of something O_o. (oh, i'm only 16 so she's still a bit protective)

when my mom first saw anime she was like "but their mouths don't match the words!" of course, i had to eplain it was originally in japaness. and she doesn't like how much money i spend on manga. she's decide i need to learn japaness so it's cheeper and is actually gonig to look for a way for me to do it. i'm all for that.

engrish- i'm personally afraid to tell my mom i want to crossplay as eriol..i never know how she's going to react. just today she was worked up because i'm not in the top 10%(8 fricken people away, do you know how annoying that is?).
i don't even really know about my dad. he just leqaves when ever i'm goning to watch anime, which is fien because i really don't care to find out their reactions beacuse it seems it could be a LOT worse.

argh..now i ave to go color my art project somemore..i swear i'm gonig to have coloring hangover when this thing is done.

KuroBara
09-11-2002, 02:22 AM
Hmm...as for crossplaying, girls can get away with it much easier. After all, many male anime characters are very feminine. I'm considering crossplaying as Joji / George from "Paradise Kiss" (obscure, ne?), but he's bi & wears eye makeup & slightly fem clothes anyways. Just hang in there engrish.

kirillian
09-11-2002, 10:30 PM
Reading thru the threads made me so much more grateful that my parents are v supportive of my anime-related activites. Of course it helps that I'm "out of their hair", being gainfully employed and all (which really reduces snide comments on spending too much money on anime stuff) But seriously, as long as you can show to your parents that you can "balance" both anime activites and school/work (yeah, that does mean being a excruciatingly polite and responsible son/daughter), I'm v confident that your parents would tone down their resistance, especially if you can show them them that anime fans are generally more "civilized" than most sports jocks or headbangers. I actually had a friend sneak some really good anime stuff "below the radar" so to speak to get her parents to appreciate anime more (think "Princess Mononoke" or/and other Studio Ghibli productions :) Good luck!

digikoomi
09-11-2002, 11:45 PM
Well now they just allow me to stay in NJ/NYC T_T I wish to go to Japan Comic Market though ...

Ranma Saotome
09-12-2002, 02:26 AM
Originally posted by digikoomi
Well now they just allow me to stay in NJ/NYC T_T I wish to go to Japan Comic Market though ...

Hey, it's a start! :)

diqitaldreams
09-12-2002, 08:29 AM
o.o I'm asian, my mom was so against me cosplaying. She thought it was for "improper" people. When I came back from Otakon -- after forcing my way there -- I showed her the pictures that I took there and made her realize that there were people who cosplayed.

My mom never really bothered me on anime because drawing is my life and anime is, somewhat, like my motivation. ^___^; She's helping me with several costumes because she knows that it'll keep me outta trouble and probably keep me away from the clubs when I move to Philly this month. xD Mom is smart for understanding that anime, computer, and video game kept me outta trouble.

T_T But ...to tell you the truth, not to single out anything, but Asian parents are the hardest to convince. Especially the old fashioned and conservative parents that grow up in the "mainland". T_T;; .. I was as solid as a rock when I supported cosplaying and anime -- that is, until my mom broke. ^.~ Finally.

Kitty
09-12-2002, 01:17 PM
My mom doesnt bug me about it because she knows I will do whatever I am set on doing.My father thinks my sister and I have the wronk kind of hobbies and that if we cant make money off of it then why do it . Hes knows why I do cosplay but he still thinks its just to much for a hobby thats why I am toneing it down but I still have my big plans for next year ^_^

Dragoon Knight
09-12-2002, 01:30 PM
*nods* yeah toning it down a little is also what I'm doing, but still got some great costume idea's for next year ^^ more quality, less quantity!

Kitty
09-12-2002, 02:41 PM
Next year is gonna rock for us all you need to do come with me to get a new sewing machine and I will be set!
Its your body gaurd duty!

Dragoon Knight
09-12-2002, 02:52 PM
Of course I will get you a new sewing machine, I need to get a new one too...mine own that is ^^ and next year will rock!

Ranma Saotome
09-12-2002, 03:24 PM
Originally posted by Kitty
Next year is gonna rock for us all you need to do come with me to get a new sewing machine and I will be set!
Its your body gaurd duty!

I know you don't mean AXNY... ^^; Those assholes wont be back until 2004.

Galaxia
09-15-2002, 09:31 PM
My parents were pretty cool with me going to BAAF/AXNY. Probably because I had my BF there to keep his eye on me, lol ;)

Kitty
09-16-2002, 12:23 PM
Its always good to have a protector with ya. Um as for axny? well, I meant we would rock all the other cons we are ggoing to next year ^_^

Ranma Saotome
09-16-2002, 12:30 PM
Originally posted by Kitty
Its always good to have a protector with ya. Um as for axny? well, I meant we would rock all the other cons we are ggoing to next year ^_^

You guys coming back this way anytime soon?

Oshi
09-16-2002, 03:50 PM
I recall being informed that they'll be at Otakon...

Kitty
09-16-2002, 05:47 PM
I um......well........I had no clue I was going to Otakon.
But to tell you the truth, I have my own thoughts of east coast cons and the cosplayers and it has determined if I will be abel to go to a con over there.Hmmmm............this would make a good topic

Dragoon Knight
09-16-2002, 06:08 PM
possibly.....O.o

Oshi
09-16-2002, 07:53 PM
I heard it either from Admin or Aeris, I think O.o
Or I could just be confused, which happens alot >.<

khamryn
09-16-2002, 08:42 PM
>Not all parents are the same...

Agreed Rosiel-sama... my parents are way cool about it, help me with my costumes, and watch the anime with me. ::Nod.:: As long as I don't take advantage of it its all good.

Galaxia
10-04-2002, 11:40 PM
Heh, my family and I were in Baltimore during Otakon weekend this past July. It took me a half hour to explain to them what they do at these conventions and why they dress up (we saw someone cosplaying as Mana, she said "that's a pretty costume" O_O!). My (older, but not necessarily wiser ;) ) sister was buggin' out about the cosplayers. She's like "if you go to that THING (referring to AXNY/BAAF as some sort of a 'pest') next month, you'll become a weirdo freak like all these other people walking around."

O.O ::blink blink:: OMGWTF!!!1

Not. even. true!

I cannot believe she had the audacity to say something like that! After she said this, I started to cry. Loud. Like Pedro from "Excel Saga" would say, "My tears are flowing like waterfalls!!!"

She's the type of person who won't give anything remotely interesting a chance. She's too busy listening to *Nsync (oh the horror! the horror!!! - no offense to any *Nsync fans in here, heh! ^_^; )

You know what the crazy thing about this whole thing is? My mom offered to take me to Otakon, because I kinda "hinted" at it, and she was like "If you wanna go, I'll take you."

Well, you could have knocked me over with a GD feather. My own mother actually offered to take me to Otakon! And I was like "No....are you serious!?!?" and she said "We'll see what happens."

In the end, I didn't get to go to Otakon (however I *did* get to go into the baltimore convention center to look at the cosplayers and stuff, so that is about as close as I got to Otakon.)

Am I kicking myself for this?

You bet your a-double-crooked-letter I am.

::facefaults::

Venus - looking for another daughter? ;) :D :thumbsup:

Oshi
10-05-2002, 12:36 AM
Okay, get this...

My mom loves how I'm using my creative/artistic skills in sewing and designing this stuff, and helps me out with any sewing troubles I may come across.
My dad is helping me out with woodwork, and he wants me to teach him how to sew o.o;;

Still, their concern is my money expentures, and my well-being when I'm away from home, of course. But they're glad I'm going out and being social. ^_^;

So I guess you could say they're all for it...

Chiri
10-05-2002, 09:28 AM
I just attended AXNY 2002, with two of my friends along with my mom, and she was perfectly fine with everything. She helped me with my costume (sometimes, but otherwise, it was all done by mwe), and said that she wanted to come with us to see what it was all about.

After the convention she said she had a lot of fun, and she didn't stop us from being friendly to other cosplayers (^__^) wai! She doesn't know much about anime though, but she bought the most expensive thing out of all of us there!! (A fine japanese black kimono! O_O *gimme!!*)

This year, however, to Otakon 2003, my friend Melissa is having her dad come with us, and he LOVES anime!! (LUCKY!!) We're driving there, and her car has a VCR and a tv, so we're gunna be drowned out in anime (five of my other friends are going too ^^) ... wheefun! I think we're spending a night or two (or more..) there as well.

But when we go to AXNY again in '03, methinks my mom is coming with us again, and she said we'd spend the night this time around ^^;; I've already started on my costume, and plan on getting my materials next weekend on Columbus Day, and mom just says that if my grades are good and stuff, I can work on my costume this early in the year ^^

@__@ My dad is just as good as she is (a little less paranoid too lol)

~ Chiri

KuroBara
10-05-2002, 09:47 AM
>But when we go to AXNY again in '03,

Sorry Chiri, but there won't be an AXNY '03 >_<
They may come back in 2004, but next year the AX people are doing a con in Tokyo. Hmm...if you're in the NY area, check out I-con. It's primarily sci-fi / fantasy, but there's still lots of anime.

http://icon-sf.org

Chiri
10-05-2002, 10:22 AM
Sorry Chiri, but there won't be an AXNY '03 >_<

*falls over* @__@;; From what I've been reading in the Guidebooks and crap they gave us once we got there, I thought I saw something about AXNY being in another portion of NYC in 2003....*bigcry*

I do live in the NY area @_@ Long Island, to be exact ... *shrug* Ehh...NYC..not that far away..

~ Chiri

Ranma Saotome
10-05-2002, 02:58 PM
Screw I-con. It's just like Lunacon up here in Westchester. But instead of AXNY 2k3, we have BAAF 2k3 (YAY).

Chiri
10-05-2002, 04:00 PM
But instead of AXNY 2k3, we have BAAF 2k3 (YAY).

Yes! ^_^ There's still an anime convention in good ol' NYC ... ;)

~ Chiri

LaylaCinder
10-15-2002, 11:59 AM
Well, back on the subject about parents and anime, mine have always been incredibly supportive. Infact, my parents enjoy anime just as much, if not more than I do o_O (half of our collection was bought solely by them..) So when it came to anime cons, there was really no objection whatsoever and they brought me to my first con, Katsucon 00 (which was 6, if I remember correctly? ^^;) mainly for the guest Amano Yoshitaka. Ever since then they've been increadibly supportive of cons, and my cosplaying hobby, and it amazes my mother that I taught myself sewing completely alone via books, since she can't even do any hand sewing. The only costume they at first had a problem with was Jenova, since well ^^; it is so skin tight, but then they decided it was fine since technically it's my most covering costume....ever. Also, they keep giving me more and more cosplay ideas just themselves ^^;....okay, I have strange parents. ::goes off to hide again::

Umi
10-15-2002, 01:22 PM
I don't think my mom or dad mind the fact that I want to cosplay. I think mostly they're happy that I'm suddenly interested in sewing ^o^ And even though I'm 21 and haven't worn a halloween costume for like close to 10 years she still asks me every year if I want her to make a costume for me. I think she likes having projects and I think she's happier now that I want to do it with her. Plus my mom was always supportive of whatever I wanted to do to alter looks and such (even if my most drastic change was blonde highlights..... *shock*) she thinks it's healthy to change yourself up a little bit so you don't get bored with the way you look.

As for the anime thing, I think they pretty much ignore me... after all my older bros are big on American cartoons and occassionally watch some anime titles like Escaflowne or Cowboy Bebop with me. My aunt on the other hand is the coolest thing in the world. She likes some of the same bishounen I do. I know her type it's the pretty man with long blonde hair ala Zechs, Allen Shezar, etc. ^o^

LaylaCinder
10-15-2002, 02:44 PM
At least you don't have your mother bringing home Petshop of Horrors; going on about how insanely cute count D is... there's a mind bender for you. Or even just incert a random title there! The same thing happened with Nightwalker and almost every other title that gets brought home. ::reminds herself to go watch X tv series:: ^_^; it's sad when your parents watch it before you...really.

GrellFanBoi~
10-28-2011, 06:52 AM
I'm lucky enough to live in the town where Finlands major anime convention, Desucon is hosted. :3
Desucon is hosted here twice per year and the place is VERY close to my home, so travelling won't be a problem.

But I'm still unsure how my parents will act when I tell them that I'm going to Desucon & dressing up as Grell Sutcliff, because they know NOTHING of anime. (Although my dad likes Studio Ghibli movies. owo)

MetalArtisan
12-04-2012, 02:36 PM
I feel like it's also worth mentioning that occasionally cosplayers develop their hobbies into careers, and end up with successful jobs in fashion or costume design because of those cons they went to.
Like this guy:
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violetlights
01-15-2013, 07:37 PM
My mother is officially convinced that if she lets me go to a convention, I'm going to get kidnapped and sold into slavery. She doesn't mind me cosplaying or watching anime 24/7 (she thinks its weird but she tries to help me with costumes whenever she can), but the second the word "convention" is out of my mouth, I am instantly being bombarded with a million questions about who I'm going with, how many people will be there, what security is like, etc.

I love her an I know she's just trying to look out for me, but DANG. I'm sixteen, believe it or not I can survive a few hours without parental supervision.

Zaista101
08-24-2013, 06:13 PM
My mom, overall, is pretty cool with cosplay. Our budget is a bit tight, but she did say that she would take me one day when we save up enough money. :D
She also makes all my costumes, which is WAAAAAAY easier on my budget, all I need to do is purchase the wig. Not only that, but she's making a Chibitalia costume for my baby sister, and an Italy cosplay for me. Oh, and a Germany cosplay for herself. ^-^ She is, however, taking me to the Hetalia Day event in Nashville, which will be AWESOME!

Ciaura
10-02-2013, 01:25 AM
Both my parents attend anime cons with me. I've yet to get them cosplaying (mum said she will if the character suits her) but I haven't had time to make them anything yet. :/ BTW my mum is the one who introduced me to anime and we've been watching it since I was a toddler hahaha. One day I would really like to cosplay as Zuko with my parents as Zuko's mum and dad. :D