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vash_humanoid
08-28-2003, 01:52 AM
...... this is a sticky situation.....

now im sure my mom already knows i crossdress.... altho i keep denying it.... even tho i do. see i feel shamefull but i shuldnt and i feel she will look at me different after i tell her and i dont want her 2.... it is really fustrating... one night i say go 4 it and the next i say just wait a while longer....

i reeally want 2 tell her... but when it comes down 2 the last minute i cant my body reacts and says not 2.... :waaaah: and once i tell her i want 2 start cosplaying once there is a convention coming here... i live in WI so no big conventions are here :( ...

my friends know i am realy girly and think ill grow up 2 be a transvestite which i wouldnt be suprised i do... and i guess they wouldnt mind if they found out... o and my best freinds are girls so they prolly might understand more than my other freinds who are boys...

i realized it is cuz when i started kindergaerten my dad and mom were devoreced and i lived with my mom and my sister and only had freinds who were girls.. which explains it all... i was just raised like that..

my body is shaped pretty much exactly like a girls and i have passed as a girl a few times... PLS HLP ME I AM BEGGING FOR HELP!!!

Nine
08-28-2003, 04:09 AM
i realized it is cuz when i started kindergaerten my dad and mom were devoreced and i lived with my mom and my sister and only had freinds who were girls.. which explains it all... i was just raised like that..


I can tell you hear and now, that regardless of your parents devorcing and you being brought up by women didn't make you a transvestite.

...and don't use that reasoning when you tell your mom, because if she doesn't condone it, she's either going to think she failed as a mother, when she hasn't; or she'll just get mad at you for trying to blame it on her and your sister.

You shouldn't feel shameful when you crossdress. That's another think I can tell you here and now. You enjoy it right? Then who cares what anyone things..

It all comes down to weither you want this to be your own private secret or you want to be open with it. Make sure you're not just going through a "phase" or anything like that, because if you get out of it, would you still like to be labeled as a transvestite?

You will know when it's the right time to come out. It will be when your most comfortable with yourself.

Good luck!

Mizuno Tenshi
08-28-2003, 09:51 AM
I really do know how you feel, Vash...
I've crossdressed for a long time, and REALLY screwed up a few times, and my mom knows for sure now. I mean, the amount of female clothing in my room makes things clear. :D
She really doesn't approve, but now I'm at the age where she's willing to tolerate it even if she doesn't understand it. We have a good relationship otherwise.
Dang, though... it's a crap shoot as to what kind of parents you're stuck with. Well... just try and see reactions to other things, and if you really, really are sure about telling her, maybe make a letter and think about it for a while, then if you're still sure after a few weeks, give it to her.

Tenshi

Space Invader
08-29-2003, 02:56 PM
I'm going to start a Link costume, and I plan to do a plugsuited Kaoru in the future, and my parents have no problems with it. I was suprised my mom didn't, simply because she's uptight like that.

You might want to first ease into the whole "yes, I like to crossdress" thing with your mom before you tell her about crossplay. I think it might be easier for her to accept it that way. Also, just because maybe you want to DRESS like a woman every now and then, doesn't mean that you ARE a woman... she might be a little more understanding if you get that point across to her...

Catboi Blues
08-29-2003, 10:55 PM
I've been cos/crossplaying for several years now and I'm not the first one to say that its not easy coming out and telling family about it, so you're not alone in this. There is nothing wrong with crossplaying just like Nine said. But when it comes to family, then its at your own discression when you tell them.

My family has seen a pic or two of me from the various cons that I've been to and I coincidentally ran into some of my relatives while dressed at a con once before. They were a bit indifferent about it, but when I look back at it now I can laugh about it.

All that I can recommend is to do it when you feel the time is right. Take care.

Merle-kun
08-30-2003, 11:34 PM
There's already a thread on this... hopefully the advice given there will help out who ever needs it =3

http://forums.cosplay.com/showthread.php?t=19532