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xSilhouetteLust
12-30-2010, 05:47 AM
I've always wondered others opinions on this and just random info.

I, myself, have been in love only once. And currently. I'm not sure if I can let myself fall again, but somehow. It feels like my current boyfriend that I let into my life a while back now is winning me over.
Sort of scary and stressful for me.

Wouldn't mind hearing others view on being in love or love. :)

koi-ishly
12-30-2010, 10:17 AM
Ah love ^_^ I've got a bit of a story if you don't mind.

For me I've know love in several ways. My friend (who's my hubby now) was the first guy I ever trusted. I've never been able to relate to guys due to issues in my past. I could do a lot more things with him than any other guy, like watch anime from dusk to dawn, or talk about nerdy stuff. I felt safe with him. I developed a pretty heavy crush on him, to the point where I really couldn't stop thinking about him. I kept everything to myself about my feelings. I wasn't about to ruin his relationship with his gf or ours by a nagging crush.

Much later, my hubby and I became distant. We stop talking for a good year or two, until I saw him driving in the town we lived. I waved to him from my car, he spotted me and immediately called me. As we talked I told him I need a job and his work was hiring. I go a job where he was manager, and everything I thought I put to rest resurfaced. The nagging crush came back with vengeance.

Long story short, after working a while with each other. My hubby started to flirt with me (he was having hard times with his girl and they broke up). One night we go out to see a movie after work. We got lost in the city trying to find the theater and we head back to my place cause he lived much farther at the time. I can't tell you how many times I would fall asleep on his futon with him playing video games (no fooling around guys! I was never touched), so I invite him to share my bed. I couldn't sleep at all. It almost got so bad I had to use my Pilate techniques in breathing I learned to control my hyperventilating! All I could think about was him lying next to me (I still get butterflies and blush from it!). Then at one point he puts his arm around me. I started to hyperventilate even more! He doesn't notice that I'm having issues. So, I man up and turn over to face him. He kisses me then with the softest kisses I've ever received.

*cough* Now nothing else happens. Nope. So get your mind out of the gutter ;p After a few kisses, and a little talking he straight up asks me "Would you like to be my girlfriend?" You know idea how long I waited to hear those words. I met him my freshman year and we became a couple my senior year. We've now been married a little over two years, of course there's a lot of history in between the time of being gf/bf to married.

To get back to how I've been in love in several ways. First was the major crush, because it wasn't a crush. I've thought about it before, but I really pined for this guy and I thought that it would never happen. I knew I loved him, but never had the courage to say it and it's kinda creepy to tell you're bf that you love him even before you're together.

When we became gf and bf, things changed and not really for the best. It was great for the first month and half. My hubby was going through a lot of tough decisions. It was senior year and he didn't know what to do with his life. He couldn't find a job that wasn't a manager at a pool... He also wasn't used to how I treated him. All his previous gfs were controlling and prissy girls. I'm laid back and not a girly girl. I don't need to be taken out to dinner every time I see him. I can sit and watch him play video games and enjoy them. So, he really didn't know how to handle me. Needless to say, we broke up. And boy did it hurt. I learned a lot with our break up. I knew my hubby as a friend and loved him as that. I didn't treat him like my friend when we were gf and bf. I had this idea of what he was like and it wasn't matching up with how we were at that moment. The awesome part, we still worked together. Do you have any idea how hard it is to have your manager be your ex? Oh and not to mention all the coworkers knew.

My hubby wasn't having the best of time either, but playing it up. At one point I was on my way out to go home when he stops me at the front desk. "You know, you really learn a lot when you've got your head stuck in a toilet for close to 5 hours." What that meant at the time, I didn't have a clue, but it wasn't something I wanted to hear. "That's nice, hope you learned something from the toilet god," and I walked away.

Eventually, the two of us couldn't stay away from each other. So, we got back together. We started things out slower and I was much more cautious. My hubby on the other hand dives right back in and one night tells me in my sleep that he loves me. I just happen to wake up, cause he held me really tight. I was still really hurting from the break up, so I told him I was still figuring things out and I didn't know when I could reciprocate those feelings. Eventually, I do fall back in love with him. Telling someone that you love them is the scariest thing but for me it was the most rewarding.

My hubby and I have survived a lot. After college he joined the military. My 1st senior year I saw my hubby every day. My 2nd year of college (5 year program), I saw him for maybe two weeks out of the year. I really don't remember much of my last year of college, it was like I was cut in two. Heart ache isn't something I wish upon anyone. My heart ached for 3 years. I saw my hubby for maybe 90 days out of 1095. There were a lot of ups and downs. There were many points where I couldn't take it, but stuck by him so he would have some hope. In the end we were both each others life line.

Now, he's home for good. We have a house and we're starting a new chapter in our lives. He's only been home for 10 months. I can't tell you how happy I am to be married to him.

(tl:dnr)
Love is a fickle thing. For me I learned it through trust, a crush, in denial, and through a 6,000 mile long distance relationship. We're still learning about each other. There are many days where I look at him and feel sorry he's stuck with me. I've loved him for over 8 years of my life, many of those years he didn't even know of my affection toward him. So, he's got some catching up =)

Sorry if I side tracked a bit - It was nice to reminisce. I don't know if this helps you at all but don't sweat the small stuff. I was never one to throw the word love around like it's daises. If you feel it and know it, and it feels like the right time... let the person know.

xSilhouetteLust
12-30-2010, 12:18 PM
Honestly your story made my eyes water some. That's all really touching and in some ways I believe deep down I can feel what you two feel for each other and can tell you honestly love him and he loves you. It's sort of nice to hear about love sometimes, and realize it doesn't hurt all the time. Kind gave me some hope with my guy...

For me, I fell in love with my best friend from when I was 14, originally we first met online. So this wasn't something I rushed into. And in MANY many ways I doubted it was love really since in my opinion; you NEVER know if its love till your face to face since most times it's different once you meet face to face. But I had the biggest crush on him at that age. It was dorky to some but we'd role-play our feelings through characters we made. Still today, those two characters have a spot in my heart, dunno why really. But eventually we met in person.
I was 16ish if I remember the exact time. I personally have tried to forget a lot of things for my own reasons since this all sort of hurts. But its a way to vent I suppose and figure this all out. But I took a plane to Arizona to see my best friend of 5 years. Then I took a big jump, I got on a bus to Texas. And I saw him for the first time. At the time if felt like a fairytale. I was so scared though. But the moment I looked into his eyes I knew then and there I really was in love with that man. I was young, yes. But I grew up fast. I knew what love was and wasn't at the time from things I've seen my life. I remember mumbling and dropping all my suitcases saying, "I can't do this... I wanna go home.." All he did was laugh and hold me in the tightest embrace ever. And after he gave me my first kiss from him. My heart was raising. But also on that trip. I learned more about him, I knew he was fooling around behind my back. I sort of should have realized it sooner. Cause I always knew he was a big flirt. And a bit of a perv (Mkay more like a lot.) But I loved falling asleep next to him and feeling him holding me around my waist. Or hearing him whisper my name.
The first date we took my to was to the movies to see Lakeview Terrace, still to this day that movie is hard to watch do to all the memories. But after that date I remember on our 3 mile walk that an ex called him and he sat down expecting me to let them talk. To this day I knew he was cheating on me with a few girls. But I forgave him thinking that any day he'd stop. I was a fool in love. He meant the world to me. But long story short on this half. He left me alone one night at his mothers to hang out with some "friends" I agreed since he promised he'd be back to pick me up but I just got a text saying, "Ask mom to take you back to my uncles, I'll be home after work." then on my last night in Texas he did it once more but this time I waited at his uncles in the living room. I passed out on the couch waiting and he finally got home, woke me up, and it had me go lay in his room with him. I thought nothing of everything. For one I was half asleep, and two I was just so happy he came home... Through out that month of being in Texas I made such strong bonds with his family. Me and his uncle always sharing a cigarette talking outside. And me talking to his aunt, making her food and keeping her company and helping her up. (She was in a wheelchair.) And his mom, oh gosh at that time that woman adored me as well as his little brother. But the next day I remember crying and holding his aunt telling her, "You better get well soon so I can see you again! I'll miss you so much Marcie!" The only part I regret is not saying goodbye since she passed a month after I left...
But later on I noticed how distant he was getting when I left Texas, and I started to get these weird feelings in my gut. I grew a bond with my ex, something that just made me know something wasn't right... I found out finally those last two nights he was cheating on me. (Funny thing now is me and that girl are now best friends pretty much.) I remember me and her fighting like cats and dogs through texts and phone calls. Her saying nothing happened between me and him, and me trying to prove myself that he was mine first.... Later on, I let him go... It destroyed me so much... My heart still hasn't healed.

In a years amount of time he'd sneak talks with me, saying how he made a mistake and he didn't want to be with her anymore and he was wrong to leave me. I was with someone at the time, but I had no real feelings, so I let him go and my ex took a bus to Nebraska for me.
For a year me and him pretty much lived together. My family hated him with a passion saying he was using me, no good for me, and that I deserve so much more.
But I couldn't care, I wasn't blind to anything anymore. My guard was up the whole time. Continuously he'd flirt with my best friend here in Nebraska's little brothers girlfriend and other girls. But I took it as innocent playing.
I didn't want to believe currently.
But then slowly he'd make comments like, "Yo know your lucky I'm with you or else I'd have tried with this hot girl I just saw!" I was so crushed. He made my self esteem drop more and more each passing day. Yet I still wanted to make him the happiest man I could. But the time he came back in my life I was 18. My best friends father always told him, "Your so lucky, that girl treats you like your her husband." I'd cook for him, help him with money, I provided so much for him. But he was a 21 year old man. I shouldn't have been doing that and I realize that now. I realize that the promises were all lies. He left again for Texas so I did it all over again. I flew there. And after a month of being in Texas I finally walk in on him having sex with his at the time best friends girlfriend. I thought I was destroyed the first time he hurt me... this time was so much worse.... And to this day he still attempts to make small talk with me even with the new chick... and she still tries to pretend to be my friend.

I didn't let anyone close to me... I flew back to Nebraska the day after Easter, then I got my previous job. I didn't want anyone else close to me. I didn't want anyone to warm my heart back up.
But slowly I became friends with people.
Then eventually I finally met the guy I am with currently... We love each other for who the other is. We have a lot in common, but still the differences at the same time. Every time I see his face, or his him talk to me. I get this amazing feeling in my heart and stomach. I still can't explain it. I've never liked someone this fast before. It's honestly nothing like me when I date since I've never let anyone in close before...
But for a week I stayed at his house, got to know his family. His little sister already calls me her sis. It's actually pretty sweet... Haven't talked much to his mother do to the nervous habits I got. But it was fun. For once I felt complete just being around someone. We don't have to be all over each other, or even super close for me to feel this way.
Then he came to my home for 2 weeks. My family adore him, even the ones who usually don't like anyone I know. He said he was so amazed seeing me with one of my cousins kids and that he can tell one day I'd be a great mom if the time ever comes for me..
But we got in a fight during the beginning. He said he wanted to leave me and that he just didn't want a serious relationship... But he was at my house, I cried to him. I was so amazed that during that almost break-up my heart was hurting so much... but after fighting and arguing for a few hours, then my grandmother getting home and me cooking dinner for everyone me and my current guy went back upstairs to watch a movie. Me laying at the end of the bed and him near the top. Never have we watched a movie together and not been near each other. After the movie we went downstairs for a smoke. And well, he said he wanted to talk once done. So we did... he apologized saying that I make him happy, he wants to be with me, and that he was wrong. The difference between my first love and him was... he was crying and looking into my eyes... Me being cold though told him to apologize first to my grandma for being an ass during our break-up hours and tell her he wanted me back... I wanted proof that he was serious... So he did it. And he apologized to my cousin as well the next day without me asking.
But honestly I never have gotten so used to having someone around me every day again... My landlords eventually threatened me and my grandma saying he had to leave. So he sort of had to go...
He's been back in Omaha...And I've been so scared...his brother hates me and wants him to leave me. I'm so worried he'll do it again and this time it won't be easy to fix again... He can't exactly call me since he doesn't have a cell phone. And his mothers new boyfriends will disconnect the phones if he calls. And his brother doesn't let him get online much... I feel like things are getting distant with me and him... But yet during the time he's been away... I miss him more and more everyday... I don't know if I'm in love with him already... I'm almost scared to admit it since last time I let myself be in love... They hurt me more then I could almost handle at the time. I hate tearing up when I realize I miss this guy, I hate looking at his pictures and our memories and smiling, I hate looking in my room and remembering all the things (playing video games, eating together, watching movies. Normal things lol.) I hate thinking about all the good times. But what I also know is... I don't really hate it all.. I just sorta want to. I'm honestly confused. Me and him haven't known each other for years...so I don't think its being in love... But yet this guy treats me like I'm something and actually appreciates me.

*Shrugs.* All I know is I've never been this happy in a very long time. :)

xSilhouetteLust
12-30-2010, 12:22 PM
Also with my story its all cut up here and here so it might not make sense in some ways.. a lot of things I've tried to push away. But I loved my ex more then I should of. And ever since then "being in love" scares me...
I'm not sure fully if I'm falling for my current boyfriend...but I do know I care more then I realize.

koi-ishly
12-30-2010, 01:23 PM
xSilhouetteLust - I'm glad you enjoyed my story (even with all my spelling and past tense errors! pardon those)

Thing is about love is that you really do have to learn from it, and it can either harden you or even lighten you... if you get my meaning.

One thing I learned from love is that advice is just that. While I know my friends (and my own advice) was to help/protect me when having issues... when you're in the moment there really isn't any logic to it all. You gotta feel what's right in the moment, if it makes you happy even for a second then that's all that matters. There maybe consequences, but I find that some times that one happy moment outlasts the sad ones.

When my hubby was away, the bad times really did out weigh the good while he was gone... but the moment when I'd see him it'd erase it for a time. Even through all the bad times, I wouldn't change it. It only made me stronger. That's what I feel you need to look at how your first relationship was. While there were a lot of things the went wrong, it widened your eyes a bit and in the end you learned something.

Something else I've learned from love is that you really do need to let yourself feel what comes with it. The fear and uncertainty... everything. People tend to shove their emotions aside and not want to deal with whats happening in front of them. So, don't shy away from it, embrace it. Even if it is terrifying. So, that's my advice. You can try it, it may or may not work. For me, if I didn't face it all... I don't think in the end I would have been able to last. With me facing it, it's gotten to where I am today and I wouldn't change it for the world.

Makira
12-30-2010, 01:33 PM
Awwww, these stories are too cute! It's made me want to share my own now ^.^

Five years ago I met my current boyfriend while we both worked at GameStop. We both had significant others at the time, but my relationship was very rocky because he was treating me horribly and I was pretty much done. So meeting this man was the first time in a LONG time I felt my heart flutter. But I soon realized he had a girlfriend and I tried to just ignore the crush feelings and be happy I met someone like him that I could still keep in my life.

About a year later I got mixed signals from him. He would get really close to me on the computer screen, or one day I was in the back watching Advent Children on my lunch and he sat right next to me and pressed his face against mine and said "What ya watchin'?" Not typical behavior for "just friends." So, I ended up telling him I liked him when we got off work one night... HE RAN AWAY FROM ME XD Quite literally panicked and got in his car and took off! I bawled. I cried all night and felt like a complete moron for even telling him. He called me later and apologized and said NO ONE has ever told him that they liked him before. (His girlfriend and him just kinda happened.) Plus having a girlfriend still he freaked out.

We put it aside and about a year later I quit GameStop. I had been on and off with the boyfriend that was treating me badly and things were just about done... a few months later I get a call from Bryce telling me Heather (his gf) broke up with him. We hadn't talked for those few months so I was super confused he was even telling me this. We set up a day to meet up and I went to his house and we watched movies on the couch. We were watching Family Guy when I looked up at him and he leaned in and kissed me! I couldn't believe what was going on. Two years of crushing with this guy and having to see him every day not knowing how he felt about me and the entire time he worked with me he actually DID really like me. He just didn't know how to leave his first gf who he had been with for 3 years. And I didn't know how to leave my first bf who I had been with for 4.

We've been together since! Well, kinda =P We moved out to Orange County (separate places) and a few months later he broke up with me... for no reason x.x;; It was the worst heart ache I had ever gone through. My friend had heard me crying after he broke up with me and came in and actually laid in bed with me the whole night to keep me company.

Bryce and I talked rarely for about 6 months then one day he asked me if I could take him to the airport because he was going to San Fran... to see a girl. At this point and time I had met someone else (WORST BOYFRIEND EVER) and gladly said "sure." The car ride to the airport was only an hour but it brought back so many memories for both of us. I pushed it all aside and wished him a safe flight. He called me the next day and told me she ignored his calls and had no intentions of wanting to see him. Luckily for him he had a friend up there so he stayed with him for the rest of his trip.

When he got back home we went out to lunch and I told him all about Jonathan and how miserable he made me. The lease was up on my apartment and I for whatever reason, chose to move in with Jonathan instead of moving back home with my mom. (My mother is amazing and I love her dearly, I just liked being on my own.). I started seeing Bryce more and more and remembered what it felt like to be with someone that actually loved you and cared for you. So then it got so bad with Jonathan that one day while he was out, I packed up everything that was important to me and I threw it in my car and took the 2 hour drive back home to my moms house.

That same day I drove back out and told Bryce I was done with Jonathan, and he took me in his arms and I stayed at his house for the night and we've been together ever since.

In May we will have been together 4 years (still not married, too poor :( I want it to be perfect) and I have never been more in love or more thankful for such an amazing man. He had a lot of growing up to do and the break-up was so good for both of us. But we are very open about everything and if there's ever a problem we ALWAYS talk. Communication, honesty and trust is KEY to any relationship. I love him dearly and have no idea where I would be without him ^.^

Also, he has his BA degree in video game art and design. So he's a nerd! <3 couldn't have asked for more =P

MermaidRizu
12-30-2010, 02:13 PM
Awww, your stories are all so sweet! ^^ I don't really have a super-long one like you guys, but I'll tell it anyway:

It sounds crazy/dangerous, but I actually met the love of my life online. XD And not on one of those dating sites either, I actually wasn't even looking for anyone at the time. We had been talking over MSN for a few months after meeting on a roleplay site, and he randomly asked me out of the blue to be his girlfriend. I thought it was cute, and I figured at the time that nothing else would come with it and I would probably never see him in real life, so I said "why not" to an online relationship. Again, mind you, I didn't think anything would come of it, and I knew how important it was to be safe online (still do! XD), but the more I talked to him, the more I realized that I was actually falling in love with him. I had never been in love before, but even so, there was no doubt in my mind that that's what it was. I didn't dare to tell anyone, though, because I was sure of the response I'd get: "It's impossible to know if you love someone from having only talked to them online. They're probably a rapist or murderer or something. You're too young to know what love is, anyway." Personally, from my experiences, I think you're never too young to really experience love. ^^ My parents met in third grade and had secret crushes on each other then, and have been married for 18 years now~

Anyway, after about a year and a half of knowing him, I finally decided to take a chance and tell him how I felt...and to my great relief, he told me that he felt the same way. Now, I am not stupid (at least I like to think I'm not ^^; ), and I know the dangers of people online not really being who they say they are, and all that. I had seen pictures and some videos of him on YouTube, and talked over mics before to the same voice from the videos, but I knew that there was still a danger. I had a really good feeling about it, though...and somehow, I have no idea how, I convinced my mother, the internet-safety-freak, to take me to Tsubasacon (which he lived about 2 hours away from) to meet him (she only knew him as a cool guy I had met online, not my boyfriend). I figured, if I'm going to meet a guy I met online in person, it should be in a place with a lot of people...so, a con it is! XD When I got there, I saw the same guy from the pictures and videos, which I was relieved about. What's more, he was with his dad and his sister. I ended up hanging out with them the whole time, and his dad and sister talked to me a lot, but Killian (boyfriend) was pretty shy and quiet the whole time...which was adorable~! <3 XD He did manage to "officially" ask me out in person, though. ^^ I really felt like I had made the right decision by coming to meet him. Even if he didn't say much, it still felt so right to me. The next day, we saw ZombieLand at the movie theater, where I gave him a quick first kiss (it was my first one, too, it took about 20 minutes to work up the courage... >///<), because I knew that it would probably be a while until I saw him again. Needless to say, that shocked him into even more silence. Adorable~! XD

Months later, Killian invited me to his prom, and I ended up staying there for the whole weekend. We were alone more, and he was much more talkative and comfortable around me. And now we've been together for over 3 years! ^^ Now we talk on the phone almost every day, and make a point of going to see each other at least every few months. ^^ We tell each other that we love each other very much every day (and even have promise rings! >///<), and I can't imagine myself with anyone else.

In short, I guess there wasn't really a specific sign that told me I was in love, but more of the feeling I got from him in general. ^^ Well, that, and that he respected me enough to look at my eyes rather than my body when I was talking to him. XP

Huh, I guess that was kind of long after all...^^;

Lithium Flower
12-30-2010, 07:18 PM
I am not quite sure if there's a way to put into words what it feels like when you suddenly become aware that your absolutely,completely, over the moon in love with someone and I fear if I attempted to I would not do the feeling justice or come across as a giant sap. But everyone else has been kind enough to donate their time so I'll do my best without sharing my life story.

How did I know I am in love?

Have you ever been leaning against someones chest and you where so close you could hear their heart beat? That your head was rising and falling with every breath they took? And you don't really need anything else at all, you're just...content to lay like that and watch TV or play video games. You don't need a goddamn thing but being right there, close to that person and it becomes all that's happening around you.

When it's very cold outside and he offers me his gloves, or takes my hands between his when we wait at a stop light. Or is willing to stand there in the snow hugging onto me because he could tell I really wanted to hug him and I was cold and all of a sudden I swear it was 80 degrees and sunny.

That getting a text message from him simply makes my day. Or when I get a message on facebook from him when I know he's busy and occupied at home because it's the simplest little thing that can remind you how much you really care about someone.

When he has to drive half an hour to pick me up then bring me home later in the day because I don't have a car and live in a very complicated situation but he always acts happy to see me and never once has said anything mean to me about it, though I'd understand if he did.

I knew that I loved him when we first hung out on our own without his friends, and I picked up my phone to take a picture of him (I take pictures of EVERYTHING) and he strikes the goofiest pose I ever did see and kept trying his damnedest to make laugh. I think that perhaps that was the one moment in my life when it suddenly hit me; "Oh my god I am falling in love with this guy."

My entire life I have always been the person who never minded going to Prom dateless and simply hung out with my friends. I was always the single person who never ONCE thought that I needed anyone at all and in-fact considered those around me who jumped from lover to lover to have some kind of mental disorder. I never, ever, needed or wanted anyone. There has never been a time I actively sought someone out.

At times I've felt like I've woken up a completely different person, that somehow I've morphed overnight into someone who suddenly has...friends. That I am confident enough to not have to carefully plan out what I am going to say before I say it, because MOOT if someone doesn't like what I say. I don't know what I would be doing without the people I know now because of my boyfriend. He wants me to do well in life, and do what makes me happy. He genuinely wants the best for me. There's no hidden agenda or secret motives, I am supported by someone in the most honest and genuine way I could possibly imagine.

I am not quite sure how to describe it really, I think it's something you'd have to see or feel to understand. Like asking someone to describe painful surgery; you can nod and sympathize with them by trying to gather from your own experiences but unless you've felt that or been there its a feeling you can't quite grasp.

I know I love him because...well. I just DO. I don't know how else I can say it.

koi-ishly
12-30-2010, 08:28 PM
^_^ I like this thread. It gives me the warm and fuzzies

I want more love!!

Rejected-Spork
12-30-2010, 08:43 PM
All these stories make me SO HAPPY INSIDE. <3

Well, I'm pretty sure I'm in love... This is the first time I've cared so much for a single person. He is seriously the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me. <3 But before I start blabbing about mushy stuff, I'll jump into our story. :3

So I met my current boyfriend through my cousin at a convention in 2009. Honestly, I was creeped out by him a lot. xDD he was obviously interested in me, whereas I was going through a period of "I DON'T NEED GUYS THEY ALL SUCK BAH" due to a nasty break up at the end of 2008. But, I did end up exchanging phone numbers with him at the end of the convention, and sure enough, we talked non-stop for afterward. xD I refused him tooons of times, despite how I'd grown to really like him. Finally he was just like, " Okay! You're my girlfriend now!" and I was like, " ... Fine."

We dated for about four or five months, and that's when I realized I was falling hard for him. We lived two hours away, so pretty much every other weekend he would drive down to take me out to a movie or just to hang out. I swear, I could be having the worst day, and he could smile at me and I'd feel like I didn't have a care in the world. I think back and laugh about how he spilled soy sauce on me on our first date while we ate sushi, and how he totally fell on his butt at the mall because his shoe lace was untied. xD Those times were probably one of the happiest times in my life.

But... Then things went down hill. My boyfriend was not born in the United States. His family experienced some trouble obtaining citizenship, and he ended up having to go back to Argentina, where he was born. It was less than a 48 hour notice. We didn't have enough time to see each other to say goodbye, and our goodbye was a five minute payphone call from the airport. I don't think I have every cried as much as I did during those two days. What hurt me the most was hearing him cry on the phone, telling me he didn't want to go and how he couldn't bear to leave me. Although, he tried to keep optimistic about it, and reassured me that if he went back now, he'd have a better chance being able to come back to the U.S. later on.

Well, It's been over a year now since he's left. I was depressed for a while, which manifested it's self in binge eating and insomnia. But! There is an upside! As they say, the heart grows fonder with distance. If I didn't know if I was in love before, now I do. I couldn't imagine having a more wonderful partner. Despite over the 4,000 miles between us, I know I love him. Even though I am not as happy as I was when he was here, I am content with the way things are going. He got a great job and is going to the university in Buenos Aires, and he's studying to be a business translator. I plan to get a job in 2011, and I'm hoping I will be able to save up enough to be able to visit him in 2012.

To answer the topic question, I knew I was in love when I didn't run away when he left. It was scary for me, it was happening to fast and the only thing going through my head was, " Why?" But, I stayed because I knew this is when he needed me the most. I grow more in love with him every day.

xSilhouetteLust
12-30-2010, 09:47 PM
Awww I'm so glad now that I started this thread! >.<
All these stories are so amazing to read and so touching to my heart...
It's honestly making me see that maybe not all love is so bad and painful if you let it in... [:

I'm truly happy for all of you out there who have found your love.

MermaidRizu
12-30-2010, 10:05 PM
All these stories make me SO HAPPY INSIDE. <3

Well, I'm pretty sure I'm in love... This is the first time I've cared so much for a single person. He is seriously the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me. <3 But before I start blabbing about mushy stuff, I'll jump into our story. :3

So I met my current boyfriend through my cousin at a convention in 2009. Honestly, I was creeped out by him a lot. xDD he was obviously interested in me, whereas I was going through a period of "I DON'T NEED GUYS THEY ALL SUCK BAH" due to a nasty break up at the end of 2008. But, I did end up exchanging phone numbers with him at the end of the convention, and sure enough, we talked non-stop for afterward. xD I refused him tooons of times, despite how I'd grown to really like him. Finally he was just like, " Okay! You're my girlfriend now!" and I was like, " ... Fine."

We dated for about four or five months, and that's when I realized I was falling hard for him. We lived two hours away, so pretty much every other weekend he would drive down to take me out to a movie or just to hang out. I swear, I could be having the worst day, and he could smile at me and I'd feel like I didn't have a care in the world. I think back and laugh about how he spilled soy sauce on me on our first date while we ate sushi, and how he totally fell on his butt at the mall because his shoe lace was untied. xD Those times were probably one of the happiest times in my life.

But... Then things went down hill. My boyfriend was not born in the United States. His family experienced some trouble obtaining citizenship, and he ended up having to go back to Argentina, where he was born. It was less than a 48 hour notice. We didn't have enough time to see each other to say goodbye, and our goodbye was a five minute payphone call from the airport. I don't think I have every cried as much as I did during those two days. What hurt me the most was hearing him cry on the phone, telling me he didn't want to go and how he couldn't bear to leave me. Although, he tried to keep optimistic about it, and reassured me that if he went back now, he'd have a better chance being able to come back to the U.S. later on.

Well, It's been over a year now since he's left. I was depressed for a while, which manifested it's self in binge eating and insomnia. But! There is an upside! As they say, the heart grows fonder with distance. If I didn't know if I was in love before, now I do. I couldn't imagine having a more wonderful partner. Despite over the 4,000 miles between us, I know I love him. Even though I am not as happy as I was when he was here, I am content with the way things are going. He got a great job and is going to the university in Buenos Aires, and he's studying to be a business translator. I plan to get a job in 2011, and I'm hoping I will be able to save up enough to be able to visit him in 2012.

To answer the topic question, I knew I was in love when I didn't run away when he left. It was scary for me, it was happening to fast and the only thing going through my head was, " Why?" But, I stayed because I knew this is when he needed me the most. I grow more in love with him every day.

Yikes, and I thought I had it bad with the distance between my boyfriend and I...>.< But it's very true, why else would it hurt so much to be so far away if it wasn't true love? I feel your pain, although yours is probably worse...^^; I'm always available if you ever want to have a sob session about it though~ *hugs* XD

Lithium Flower
12-30-2010, 10:10 PM
Awww I'm so glad now that I started this thread! >.<
All these stories are so amazing to read and so touching to my heart...
It's honestly making me see that maybe not all love is so bad and painful if you let it in... [:

I'm truly happy for all of you out there who have found your love.

I think South Park put things into perspective.


"Yeah and I am sad but at the same time I am really happy that something could make me feel that sad. It's like it makes me feel alive. Like I am human. The only way I could feel this sad is if something made me feel really happy"-Butters (episode Raisins)

squ33k t0y
12-30-2010, 10:23 PM
I really enjoyed reading these stories :3 I especially liked how Lithium Flower described how she felt love was, because I can relate to those things in ways..

So before writing this, I told myself that it would be short and to the point. Which I should have known better than to think >.>;; Anyway, here we go:

I met my boyfriend online when I was about..11? It's pretty crazy, I know. He was about 15? (It was on Neopets. Lols.) Anyway, we enjoyed similar things, and talked on and off of the site. We were good friends for more than a year before he asked me to be his girlfriend, and at the time, I didn't really have any romantic feelings for him other than liking him a lot. Anyway. At the end of my 8th grade year, my friend and I (with her family) went up to Niagara Falls (where he lived). I met him very briefly at the mall. It was all awkward, and I didn't really know what to do with myself xP. Later that same summer he came down to Otakon with a friend, where we actually got to spend time with each other. He give me my first kiss that Sunday, it was exciting. But still I couldn't say that I loved him then. He was a very good friend, that I liked a lot.

So it went on like this for another year, however during my freshman year of high school my computer crashed and it was very had to talk to him. I had a cell phone, but it was still hard to talk to him. I later found out (once I had a computer again) through his friend that he came with to Otakon, that he had been cheating on me. Our relationship then was very off and on for a while. Though even if we weren't dating, but we still talked, A LOT. He continued to date her for a couple years, actually. It was dumb, and we both eventually knew about each other, but for a lot of the time we were dating him at the same time. It seems dumb now, but that's what happened. At that time, I do think I loved him. Which is why I think I stuck through it. He was honestly the closest person to me. I had (and still have to an extent) a lot of issues back then with telling people how I felt, and what I was thinking. And he broke those barriers. It was very frustrating for him, I'm sure. And it was hard for me at the time. But he got me to open up. Which really was something. So even when we weren't technically dating, we would talk, and talk. Like we were dating. So it essentially didn't matter.

However, after a while, his cheating got to me, and those feelings of love faded. I was honestly...numb. When he visited me during that time, he would hug me, hold my hand, or tell me that he loved me, and I wouldn't do/say anything in return. As he described me, I was like a doll. Though, once he had finally ended things with the other girl (who I don't actually have any hard feeling towards, she's a really good person), those feelings of love eventually came back.

We've gone through some more bumps the past couple years, as he cheated on me again, this time online. However...he's told me that he's done with that now. He's learned it's not worth it, and he explained his reasons (basically, he was just being a boy.) I know I sound ridiculous for still being with him, but it's hard to explain I guess.

I mean, I've been with him for, more or less 8 years. He's my best friend. He knows everything about me, and I know pretty much everything about him. We've pretty much grown up with each other. And for all the stuff I've put up with, he's put up my own. I'm mentally and emotionally very difficult, if that makes any sense? And he's stuck with me, and helped me overcome some things. I've also been going through some financial and family issues the past few years that he's been helping me through.

Despite everything that's happened between us, we deeply care for each other. And even if we weren't dating, we would still care for each other.

Besides emotionally though, I do enjoy just being with him. Just being able to be near him fills me with so much joy. Since we don't get to see each other regularly, I really treasure those moments. Driving around with him, doing lame things like going to dinner, or movies, walking around, cooking (he's a chef..so he's actually WAY better than me xD) etc. And I think what's more is that our relationship doesn't revolve around sex. I'm pretty much asexual, which is one of those emotional things we've had to deal with (as he's not asexual xP), so it's not the basis of our relationship. Which I think is saying something now-a-days.

But yeah. This past year has probably been one of the better ones we've had in a while. I've got to visit him a lot, and spent a lot of time with his family. I love his family, they're so amazingly good to me ><~ And I'm working towards finally getting to transfer out of community college, and he plans on moving down with me when I do, and helping me get through school.

Anyway..I kinda got to rambling..>.> I hope that it's relatively coherent.

Lithium Flower
12-30-2010, 10:31 PM
squ33k t0y- You must be a saint to put up with someone who's treated you with such disrespect.

squ33k t0y
12-30-2010, 10:47 PM
Maybe. I'm not the smartest person out there, I know. But I'm just willing to forgive and I try not to hold on to things, I suppose.

Lithium Flower
12-30-2010, 11:00 PM
Maybe. I'm not the smartest person out there, I know. But I'm just willing to forgive and I try not to hold on to things, I suppose.

I couldn't ever manage that. Much-less if it happened twice. I love my boy to death (http://b.imagehost.org/0323/IMG_6126.png) (goober face in the middle)and would very readily walk on water if our relationship depended on it.(No really, you watch. I'd figure out how it was done) But something as serious as being unfaithful, I couldn't ever bring myself to love him again. Not the way I do now.

I really hope things go well for you, whatever that means for your future, because I cannot imagine how terrible that would feel to have someone you love just turn around and abuse that.

(also kitty hoodie!)

squ33k t0y
12-30-2010, 11:48 PM
I couldn't ever manage that. Much-less if it happened twice. I love my boy to death (http://b.imagehost.org/0323/IMG_6126.png) (goober face in the middle)and would very readily walk on water if our relationship depended on it.(No really, you watch. I'd figure out how it was done) But something as serious as being unfaithful, I couldn't ever bring myself to love him again. Not the way I do now.

I really hope things go well for you, whatever that means for your future, because I cannot imagine how terrible that would feel to have someone you love just turn around and abuse that.

(also kitty hoodie!)

I know unfaithfulness a severe offense in a relationship, and it does indeed hurt a lot. But people are different, I suppose. And I can only speak for myself, but my feelings cannot change quite so drastically. Once I've loved someone, I will always have love for them. It may take me a while to love them to that same extent as I did before, but it's possible.

I guess I just see the good making up for the bad. I know it didn't come across well in my first post, but he is a very wonderful person, despite the unfaithfulness. There would be no reason to me to be with him if he wasn't.

I do really appreciate it though. And I hope for the best for you as well. You guys seem really happy. : )

(:3!)

Rejected-Spork
12-31-2010, 12:31 AM
I admire your ability to forgive and forget, squ33k t0y. xD I was cheated on in the relationship I was in before my current one, and let me tell you, I dropped him like he was hot. This guy was basically my best friend before we got into a relationship, too. I threw his jacket that he lent me right in his face and told him to not even look in my direction ever again.
... But now, nearly three years later, I'm pretty good friends with the guy again. xD I think it's because I never loved him... I liked him a lot, but thinking back to it, I didn't feel nearly as much as I feel towards my current boyfriend. <3
So I suppose that's what makes a difference, huh? xD

xSilhouetteLust
12-31-2010, 01:42 AM
My first love, was the ex who constantly cheated on me and lied to me to let me hear what I wanted. He was a pretty great sweet talker. And sadly enough some of the ex's he has that I used to fight with for him are now great friends to me. But I honestly still love Noah deeply. I'll always have love for him he was my first guy best friend, and he was the first person I could run to when I was upset. But once in the relationship department I learned all he did was lie and cheat and use... It destroyed me far to many times after all the effort I put into me and him and that I got nothing out of it. He still have my video MP3 touch thing. And my most favorite hoodie. But I have some of his stuff (Not by my desires. He just doesn't want to give it back and I won't give him his stuff until I get mine since he has all my expensive things.) But I learned... letting go the love of my life I thought... was one of the best things I ever did... Cause it made me meet my Josh... Sure me and him are rocky at the moment it feels like since we're two hours away, he drives and has no job now. And I lost my job and I haven't learned to drive yet. Fail for me.

But I sometimes believe he's fixing the wounds my ex caused from all the lies and cheating. I'll always love me ex as more then a friend. But I learned that sometimes to love is to let go so they can be happy and you can be happier. It's best to not look like a doormat to a cheater since then they'll know they always have backup. Least that's how my ex was with me... He loved me, just couldn't be loyal. /:

I'm just hoping things go better with my current boyfriend. I'm just still scared to let myself fall again...

xSilhouetteLust
12-31-2010, 01:45 AM
I also admire for ability to forgive I forgot to mention. No one should tell you to let go or stay though with him cause I know I HATED when people did that to me. Cause its always best to follow your heart since that will take you on the path you need to go in life. Forgot to add that lol! Good luck hun!

Celia Rose
12-31-2010, 03:02 AM
I've always wondered others opinions on this and just random info.

I, myself, have been in love only once. And currently. I'm not sure if I can let myself fall again, but somehow. It feels like my current boyfriend that I let into my life a while back now is winning me over.
Sort of scary and stressful for me.

Wouldn't mind hearing others view on being in love or love. :)
Y'know the feeling of being twitterpated? It feels exactly like it sounds. :o

It's when you get butterflies in your stomach because he holds your hand, when you get all giggly and girly (even if you don't think you are) because he asked you to go have coffee with him. They're silly little feelings, but they can make you feel incredibly happy. :)
Like, my mom still gets all flushed and excited over my dad taking her out on a date, and they've been together for 20 years.

I totally understand not wanting to crash and burn again. I haven't exactly had the best relational experiences in the world, either. But, I think if you feel like you can fully trust your heart to a person, that takes a lot of courage to do, and I think that can be considered love. :)

SecretSoliloquy
12-31-2010, 09:39 AM
I didn't think it really existed until it happened to me. I was one of those people that think love is purely chemical reactions in the brain which are generated by sex. (That doesn't mean I was a promiscuous skank, though, like most people who believe that tend to be. I was just very skeptical and jaded.) My partner unexpectedly and completely won me over when I least expected it. I feel a connection with him that I've never felt with anyone before, an incredible closeness, physically and emotionally. I have never felt one tenth of what I feel for him for anyone else I've ever been involved with (all three of 'em, anyway).

That's what I know to be love, if that helps any.

Lithium Flower
12-31-2010, 01:27 PM
My partner unexpectedly and completely won me over when I least expected it.

Isn't that the best part though? Or maybe it's just me

I also admire for ability to forgive I forgot to mention. No one should tell you to let go or stay though with him cause I know I HATED when people did that to me.

Also for the record I totally was not trying to make some kind of snarky judgment on her or her boyfriends actions. JUST FOR THE RECORD.

squ33k t0y
12-31-2010, 03:51 PM
Also for the record I totally was not trying to make some kind of snarky judgment on her or her boyfriends actions. JUST FOR THE RECORD.

Don't worry, I didn't take it that way at all. ^^

Though there obviously have been people like that in the past, and I do listen to what they say, but again, they aren't me. There are things in the relationship they don't see or hear me talk about. Or even feel for that matter. So I do still continue to do what I feel is right for myself.

But thanks everyone for the good wishes. :3

SourCherryTwist
12-31-2010, 03:55 PM
mines a pretty interesting story, I guess. one night, my friend bets me 150 bucks that she would get more hits on a dating site than me. being a competitve bastard, Im all, BRING IT FOO. I fill out a profile, and make my picture me in my marine corps. dress blues. anyhow, end of the month hits and I check my messages. I get one from someone stationed semi near me, so intrigued I send him a message. fast foward, we meet in person. and I fell head over heels for him. we hang out when we can, and two months in, we are sleeping in my apt. (Im a high enough rank that I dont need to live on base) and im drifting off. he grabs me tight, and tells me, "I love you". I told him, I love you too. the next morning, he got on a plane and went to afghanistan. now, seven months later, hes about to come home, and we will continue on like "normal"

its hard, being with another marine. but...I wouldnt trade him for anyone in the world :3



BTW I WON THE BET.

sam vimes
12-31-2010, 04:40 PM
I didn't think it really existed until it happened to me. I was one of those people that think love is purely chemical reactions in the brain which are generated by sex. (That doesn't mean I was a promiscuous skank, though, like most people who believe that tend to be. I was just very skeptical and jaded.) My partner unexpectedly and completely won me over when I least expected it. I feel a connection with him that I've never felt with anyone before, an incredible closeness, physically and emotionally. I have never felt one tenth of what I feel for him for anyone else I've ever been involved with (all three of 'em, anyway).

That's what I know to be love, if that helps any.

Basically this.

SecretSoliloquy
12-31-2010, 05:35 PM
Isn't that the best part though? Or maybe it's just me

yes :3 it seems the best things come when you aren't actively searching for them.

xSilhouetteLust
01-01-2011, 01:36 AM
yes :3 it seems the best things come when you aren't actively searching for them.

I completely agree with you on this. The one moment I wasn't looking for someone. They came into my life...Only thing is it scares me now since the fear of being hurt again comes with it for me.

daylight
01-01-2011, 02:03 AM
how did i know?

hmm

all this mushy stuff makes me blush, but I cant resist talking about him so
to put it simply

I ran into him several months after a bad fight we had
but were were cool to each other
I basically figured it out one day when I noticed he was staring at me
and for some reason I wasn't afraid at all to look back
so I did
and then we just stared at each other for what felt like a very long time
and then I thought maybe this is really something we've got here.
boys dont make eye contact with me, but he did. always.
and he stared at me all the time
and I wasn't afraid to look him in the eye because I felt like he already knew who I was, and accepted me just like I did him

he's so beautiful it hurts too look at him
got a smile that almost breaks your heart
a voice that actually makes my knees week
and eyes the most perfect color in the world

we never did end up together. It's such a long and complicated story, but im happy with the relationship I shared with him, if anything, we were good friends

rubyspitfire
01-01-2011, 10:51 AM
lust and i have been very well acquainted for a long, long time... i have yet to find this elusive creature called "love"

that's ironic considering my avatar ><

xSilhouetteLust
01-03-2011, 06:49 AM
Ah the thread seems to have died down a good amount, no more people have stories of "falling in love" or "Being in love" ? [:
This was a nice topic cause I think it sorta can help people cherish the things they have or have had!

Lithium Flower
01-03-2011, 11:46 AM
Ah the thread seems to have died down a good amount, no more people have stories of "falling in love" or "Being in love" ? [:
This was a nice topic cause I think it sorta can help people cherish the things they have or have had!

See maybe they're like me and are too afraid to look mmmoosssshy and giddy every time their love does something super super cute.

Axelai
01-03-2011, 12:00 PM
/gets depressed

You all have such great stories u____u I wish i could have a story like that. But i doubt it.

I had a boyfriend for a year and a month, my longest relationship. He was good to me... until i found out he was cheating on me with several different people. He and i went through a terrible break up. He begged me to stay. I couldn't do it. Despite how much we had been through together.

He's still hurt, i'm still hurt. Its been like, two years now. I'm pretty much over it, but its given me this feeling that i'll never truly love someone and have them love me back.

/depressed

acostory
01-03-2011, 12:40 PM
/stalks out of love~

*hugggu*

I thought I was in love with a girl who had been my best and mostly only friend since I was seven years old. I had thought I had been in love with her for four years. It's been a year since we dated, and a year since I was officially declared "mentally unfit". It's too long of a story, but she had never treated me right, and I had never realised it until it was too late. I thought I was in love, until she turned everyone including myself against me. I would later find out that she cheated on my with my brother the one weekend I wasn't home.

And now she's my ex who literally wants me dead and claimed I raped her, that our entire relationship was non-consensual on her part.

It still hurts a lot. It has only been a year, but after going from what you thought was love to almost killing yourself, of course it hurts. One of the worst things is she was the first person I had said "I love you" since primary school. Not even my own family. I'm much too awkward with any kind of relationship because of her.

/joins Axelai in depressed corner

Lithium Flower
01-03-2011, 12:46 PM
He's still hurt, i'm still hurt. Its been like, two years now. I'm pretty much over it, but its given me this feeling that i'll never truly love someone and have them love me back.

/depressed

Warning: This is about to get really goddamn sappy.

It's funny because I felt like that my entire life. Not necessarily out of a depressed or bitter state of mind but it was simply something I assumed. That I was never going to be loved, at least not in that purest form of when you are totally and entirely accepted and cherished by someone. It wasn't something thought or assumed out of some anger against the world or anything like that. It was just I always felt that romance like that did not exist. Not for me. Maybe not at all.

I never once thought I would love someone that way either. I couldn't fathom what such a feeling for a single person and how that could manifest.

In many ways I am horribly skeptical and at times yes I CAN be bittered, but at the same time I cannot help but to believe that you will be loved, and cared about and adored.

Because if me, the girl who was always single and never bothered with romance. The girl who never once loved anyone in her entire life and never once cared to or tried to.Can be loved and love back, I swear just about anything is possible.

and this is why I don't talk too much or I get very uncharacteristically sappy.

Axelai
01-03-2011, 01:21 PM
/stalks out of love~

*hugggu*

I thought I was in love with a girl who had been my best and mostly only friend since I was seven years old. I had thought I had been in love with her for four years. It's been a year since we dated, and a year since I was officially declared "mentally unfit". It's too long of a story, but she had never treated me right, and I had never realised it until it was too late. I thought I was in love, until she turned everyone including myself against me. I would later find out that she cheated on my with my brother the one weekend I wasn't home.

And now she's my ex who literally wants me dead and claimed I raped her, that our entire relationship was non-consensual on her part.

It still hurts a lot. It has only been a year, but after going from what you thought was love to almost killing yourself, of course it hurts. One of the worst things is she was the first person I had said "I love you" since primary school. Not even my own family. I'm much too awkward with any kind of relationship because of her.

/joins Axelai in depressed corner

*N. Italy HAGU HAGU* We can be sad together. It sounds like a blast.

Since that guy i mentioned did practically the same thing. He turned all my friends against me. Now everyone at my old high school things im a slut, cheated on him, etc.

Warning: This is about to get really goddamn sappy.

It's funny because I felt like that my entire life. Not necessarily out of a depressed or bitter state of mind but it was simply something I assumed. That I was never going to be loved, at least not in that purest form of when you are totally and entirely accepted and cherished by someone. It wasn't something thought or assumed out of some anger against the world or anything like that. It was just I always felt that romance like that did not exist. Not for me. Maybe not at all.

I never once thought I would love someone that way either. I couldn't fathom what such a feeling for a single person and how that could manifest.

In many ways I am horribly skeptical and at times yes I CAN be bittered, but at the same time I cannot help but to believe that you will be loved, and cared about and adored.

Because if me, the girl who was always single and never bothered with romance. The girl who never once loved anyone in her entire life and never once cared to or tried to.Can be loved and love back, I swear just about anything is possible.

and this is why I don't talk too much or I get very uncharacteristically sappy.

It can happen for you. But not me. I'm pretty much certain of that. I can't see myself with anyone who'd actually love me. Sure, guys like me. I date and everything. But i can't see a guy actually loving me so much we could cuddle, cosplay together, do... lovey things. Its just not happening

acostory
01-03-2011, 01:46 PM
*N. Italy HAGU HAGU* We can be sad together. It sounds like a blast.

Since that guy i mentioned did practically the same thing. He turned all my friends against me. Now everyone at my old high school things im a slut, cheated on him, etc.

I'd rather have my entire old high school think badly of me. My ex is amassing a group of cosplayers who hate my guts. Goodbye, many potential friends!

And wouldn't sad + sad = happy?


It can happen for you. But not me. I'm pretty much certain of that. I can't see myself with anyone who'd actually love me. Sure, guys like me. I date and everything. But i can't see a guy actually loving me so much we could cuddle, cosplay together, do... lovey things. Its just not happening

Oh, that's not true. You're a very lovable person! I don't even know you that well, but I know that! You've surrounded yourself in a community of very affectionate people, and you're bound to find someone who will love you for who you are. Even if it's not a guy you find, you will find someone. You're young, and you have a long life ahead of you to find someone. Don't give up now!

This probably won't change how you think at all, but just know that there are people out there who will be very willing to love you.


Didn't I say that sad+sad=happy?

kuroki-neko
01-03-2011, 02:46 PM
i have never felt what its like to be loved or in love were the feeling was returned...-sigh- o h well... but yea one day i will hopefully

Cadmium Polyphony
01-03-2011, 03:16 PM
I didn't think it really existed until it happened to me. I was one of those people that think love is purely chemical reactions in the brain which are generated by sex. (That doesn't mean I was a promiscuous skank, though, like most people who believe that tend to be. I was just very skeptical and jaded.) My partner unexpectedly and completely won me over when I least expected it. I feel a connection with him that I've never felt with anyone before, an incredible closeness, physically and emotionally. I have never felt one tenth of what I feel for him for anyone else I've ever been involved with (all three of 'em, anyway).

That's what I know to be love, if that helps any.

What my girlfriend means to say, is I fell in love when I saw her naked; she fell in love when she saw my wallet.

Eau de Decus
01-03-2011, 04:42 PM
When your car gets hit by her neighbor, you blow out a tire on the highway going to her house and your car finally just catches on fire coming back, putting it out of its misery all in the same week. You just know.

Celia Rose
01-03-2011, 05:50 PM
What my girlfriend means to say, is I fell in love when I saw her naked; she fell in love when she saw my wallet.
Win. :bigtu:

Kildread
01-03-2011, 05:59 PM
What my girlfriend means to say, is I fell in love when I saw her naked; she fell in love when she saw my wallet.

Hahaha!

What romantic, touching words.

kuroki-neko
01-03-2011, 07:40 PM
lol must have been a yaoi wallet :D jk

SecretSoliloquy
01-03-2011, 08:51 PM
What my girlfriend means to say, is I fell in love when I saw her naked; she fell in love when she saw my wallet.

Oh, you. ;)

Lithium Flower
01-03-2011, 09:05 PM
What my girlfriend means to say, is I fell in love when I saw her naked; she fell in love when she saw my wallet.

Did you spray buck urine on it?

Cadmium Polyphony
01-03-2011, 09:36 PM
Did you spray buck urine on it?

She's not a deer. But it does smell like money.

sam vimes
01-03-2011, 09:50 PM
IC, you can color me shocked at how seriously you're taking this thread.

Cadmium Polyphony
01-03-2011, 09:59 PM
IC, you can color me shocked at how seriously you're taking this thread.

Thats a joke, right?

Lithium Flower
01-04-2011, 12:10 AM
She's not a deer. But it does smell like money.

I don't know what money smells like, I am an artist and a cosplayer. The closest thing I have to money is finding spare change under the sofa.

Considering my boyfriends a graphic designer and freelance artist I don't think he even knows what spare change looks like much-less knows the smell of monies.


To all the young womenz out there; Don't try to breed two artists together, you'll both be poor and live off cup noodle. But you will have amazing burping contests.

Flora88
01-04-2011, 12:19 AM
Love is someone who puts up with your bullshit and still loves you at the end of the day. That's what I've got. Happy happy.

sam vimes
01-04-2011, 12:32 AM
Thats a joke, right?

I don't even know any more.

kuroki-neko
01-04-2011, 01:10 AM
i wonder, if i will ever find anyone that loves me.. oh well at least if i die alone ...idk but trying to not sound like whining... but yea...>.<

onewingedjade
01-04-2011, 01:27 AM
My views on love:

18 and earlier, anytime I said or thought it, it didn't count.
Despite that statement, I think my first real 'love' was at 16, but I was way too young for it to work out. Still so much growing to be done by both parties at that stage in life.

I think I'm in love for real for the first time now though. I'll try my best to describe it. It's not forcing a single thing, whether it be an aspect of your personality or accepting one of theirs. It isn't settling; it's looking at this person and knowing they're not too good for you or out of your league, you're just happy. It happens by chance, I was neither expecting nor planning it or even looking for it at all. It's taking that person into consideration when planning the future. Looking into their eyes and just feeling content.

I've been in abusive relationships, I was in a really bad habit of dating terrible people for about 5 years, and I am so glad I finally helped myself and got myself into a place where I can have a healthy relationship with a good-hearted person. It's taken so much work but it's way worth it.

Edit: Haha, oh yeah. I had such bad luck & was so jaded that I had seriously given up for life so don't feel too bad about yourselves.

kuroki-neko
01-04-2011, 01:39 AM
i always have had romanticly passsionate soul, i just wish one day i would have a chance to use it :( really im 19 and never had a gf i doubt anyone on here could top that!

but anyway all i need is a chace, so i can feel what i hav been missing out on all my life

Cadmium Polyphony
01-04-2011, 01:52 AM
i always have had romanticly passsionate soul, i just wish one day i would have a chance to use it :( really im 19 and never had a gf i doubt anyone on here could top that!

So that's why you complain so much, you think this is all some sort of competition...


but anyway all i need is a chace, so i can feel what i hav been missing out on all my life

Herpes?

Lithium Flower
01-04-2011, 12:17 PM
i always have had romanticly passsionate soul, i just wish one day i would have a chance to use it :( really im 19 and never had a gf i doubt anyone on here could top that!

but anyway all i need is a chace, so i can feel what i hav been missing out on all my life

Actually I am 21 and only fairly recently started dating my first boyfriend. Turns out, I am still a virgin too. WHOA! I know right? How odd.

This happened because I was never interested in the 'dime a dozen' kind of relationships all my petty little friends where having. Each guy they dated they where SUPER CEREAL they where "So totally gonna get murried n' stuffs" and each guy lasted less than a month. But for real you guys that was super duper true lurves!!!111

It takes a lot for me to put myself out there into the romantic scene and even more to have been even vaguely pursuing someone at all. So the fact that I can say "I love you" to my dude and mean that 100% with every inch of my cold dead heart, is sort of like if you where to find out that the entire plot of 'Pokemon' was based on fact and if you wished real hard you could find them by running through Platform 9 3/4.

Really science says that me dating is like a natural improbability.But here I am. Eating pizza and burping with some dude on his sofa playing his Wii.


So that's why you complain so much, you think this is all some sort of competition...

^That.
You don't have some kind of freakish due date for the first person you fall in love with. You are not in a race, this is not the '40 year old virgin' and you shall not be the laughing stock of the world because you've not had a girlfriend.

Chill peeps.

kuroki-neko
01-04-2011, 12:23 PM
im really just lonly and i need someone to love and understang me and i feel worthless being 19 and never have had a gf..its just like every "tom,dick and harry" has a gf or at least a girl thats a firend...i just want a slice of the pie we call life

Lithium Flower
01-04-2011, 12:33 PM
im really just lonly and i need someone to love and understang me and i feel worthless being 19 and never have had a gf..its just like every "tom,dick and harry" has a gf or at least a girl thats a firend...i just want a slice of the pie we call life

Every "Tom, Dick and Harry" ate all the pie. So now you must bake your own.

kuroki-neko
01-04-2011, 12:43 PM
idk how :(

Lithium Flower
01-04-2011, 01:00 PM
idk how :(

Here's (http://allrecipes.com//Recipes/desserts/pies/Main.aspx)some good ideas.

Or just you know. Get out there and met people.

Flora88
01-04-2011, 01:06 PM
Aww. This is heartwarming. :)
No, seriously. I'm not being a dick.

kuroki-neko
01-04-2011, 01:07 PM
funny thing i live in a small town... theres nowere to really meet people

Lithium Flower
01-04-2011, 01:08 PM
funny thing i live in a small town... theres nowere to really meet people

I will give you womenz advice; Chicks don't dig sad sacks. Seriously.

Flora88
01-04-2011, 01:23 PM
funny thing i live in a small town... theres nowere to really meet people

Dude, just get in your car... (http://jschumacher.typepad.com/joe/peeps_03.jpg)

or get on a bus... (http://www.chicagonow.com/blogs/cta-tattler/CTA%20peeps%201.jpg)

...and go somewhere. There, you can MEET PEEPS!

How? By getting involved in various activities you enjoy. Like...protesting for a cause you support (http://uppitywoman08.files.wordpress.com/2010/04/20090407-peepspotd.jpg)...joining a class (http://mygroundzero.files.wordpress.com/2010/03/downward_facing_peeps.jpg)...going to the movies (http://weblogs.variety.com/photos/uncategorized/2008/03/21/2004272776.jpg)... or going to a club. (http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3217/2315776674_c54171c76f_o.jpg)

There are lots of ways to meet peeps if you'll just be assertive and have fun for yourself.

Lithium Flower
01-04-2011, 01:33 PM
You'd pick up so many chicks with a Peeps car

kuroki-neko
01-04-2011, 01:35 PM
im not really sad when im out u can ask the people at mew con 2010 -2011 but yea i dont have a car and cant drive -,- why? i live right next to my work and live with my parents again to work at their company. and i don't take buses anymore hence the weird and creepy people on them ( i took them home form hs during my senor year) but yea im traped :/

Clyde_2.0
01-04-2011, 01:41 PM
I want that car. So. Much. I would pay to be able to drive that thing! :rofl:

FunnyValentine
01-04-2011, 02:12 PM
Love is someone who puts up with your bullshit and still loves you at the end of the day. That's what I've got. Happy happy.

So true. haha

Axelai
01-04-2011, 03:02 PM
I'd rather have my entire old high school think badly of me. My ex is amassing a group of cosplayers who hate my guts. Goodbye, many potential friends!

And wouldn't sad + sad = happy?

Thats Sad x Sad. Sad + sad = 2sad.


Oh, that's not true. You're a very lovable person! I don't even know you that well, but I know that! You've surrounded yourself in a community of very affectionate people, and you're bound to find someone who will love you for who you are. Even if it's not a guy you find, you will find someone. You're young, and you have a long life ahead of you to find someone. Don't give up now!

This probably won't change how you think at all, but just know that there are people out there who will be very willing to love you.


I have a friend who loves me so much like that. And i know if i were to date him, he would be the happiest person on earth. Except, you know, i really really can't see him like that... u__u;;

I need it to be that mutual love. I'm not exactly desperate, so i'm not going to pounce on the first guy who says he loves me.

I'll just continue to stalk that one girl, and that super sexy spanish guy who agreed to cosplay Spain for me!! IN THE BULLFIGHTER OUTFIT. SCORE.


im really just lonly and i need someone to love and understang me and i feel worthless being 19 and never have had a gf..its just like every "tom,dick and harry" has a gf or at least a girl thats a firend...i just want a slice of the pie we call life

Kuroi-neko... remember what we talked about? You're going to need to be more confident, and less whiny in order to woo a maiden.

kuroki-neko
01-04-2011, 04:50 PM
im not as whiny as i used to be :/

RoseButterfly
01-04-2011, 04:51 PM
Ah love. It's painful. Period. I've been in love and it took me about 2 years for me to figure it out... and they only thought of me an an aquaintence. It hurt. A lot. And it also hurt when I figured it out because of me being pessamistic and thinking "Oh shit, this is not good..." since we were friends in my eyes.

I have wonderful friends who are helping me recover though. It hurts when you figure it out. It hurts when you're rejected. And it hurts when they return the feeling because you're so overwheled with joy it hurts. So yeah. I may be a bit negative, though, since I'm a tad upset still, but yeah.

I really want to find love though. I'm still a huge romantic depite everything. I have to be patient but, like Kuroki-Neko, I'm 18 and feel like every Jane and Joann has someone but me. :(

Celia Rose
01-04-2011, 04:57 PM
Dude, just get in your car... (http://jschumacher.typepad.com/joe/peeps_03.jpg)

or get on a bus... (http://www.chicagonow.com/blogs/cta-tattler/CTA%20peeps%201.jpg)

...and go somewhere. There, you can MEET PEEPS!

How? By getting involved in various activities you enjoy. Like...protesting for a cause you support (http://uppitywoman08.files.wordpress.com/2010/04/20090407-peepspotd.jpg)...joining a class (http://mygroundzero.files.wordpress.com/2010/03/downward_facing_peeps.jpg)...going to the movies (http://weblogs.variety.com/photos/uncategorized/2008/03/21/2004272776.jpg)... or going to a club. (http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3217/2315776674_c54171c76f_o.jpg)
Dammit, you're making me crave those things in the middle of a fitness challenge. :thumbsup: (Also, epic~ :bigtu:)

There are lots of ways to meet peeps if you'll just be assertive and have fun for yourself.
Amen. Having fun for yourself is much better than having fun for other people. Other people will get to join you when you're having fun for yourself. :p

acostory
01-04-2011, 05:08 PM
Thats Sad x Sad. Sad + sad = 2sad.

Crap. You've discovered my secret that I'm reaaaaally bad at maths.



I have a friend who loves me so much like that. And i know if i were to date him, he would be the happiest person on earth. Except, you know, i really really can't see him like that... u__u;;

I need it to be that mutual love. I'm not exactly desperate, so i'm not going to pounce on the first guy who says he loves me.

Tooootally not what I meant xccccc
I meant that there are a good many people out there that will love you IN RETURN.

Axelai
01-04-2011, 05:13 PM
Crap. You've discovered my secret that I'm reaaaaally bad at maths.

Don't worry. I got a D in math last semester XD;; And thats a GOOD grade...


Tooootally not what I meant xccccc
I meant that there are a good many people out there that will love you IN RETURN.

...*prays on my uhh... two recent shenanigans*

Yukikittie
01-04-2011, 05:18 PM
Well, I've had two cases of being in love.
My first was my (now ex) best friend, I just loved being with him. I wanted to hang out with him all the time, he made me feel really happy.
My second was this guy in one grade higher than me. I would blush and look away like a stereotypical anime girl whenever I saw him. God now that I think about it... It was really embarrassing. ^^' I couldn't even approach him 'cause I thought I would have a heart attack or faint! Jeez, I am so stupid!! xD

uruha-fan-girl
01-04-2011, 06:40 PM
Er...I have story too...^ ^;;

Okay..So I went to Japan mid last year for 2 weeks (it was a school excursion..) and we got to stay/to visit a Japanese familly for four days (they were my host familly^ ^) I kinda had crush on my host student he was so kawaii, nice, friendly and sweet and and...opps I think I had better stop there^ ^ I kinda liked him..but I didn't think much of it..It was only till my friend asked me if I liked him..because she told me that he did (he told his friend, that was my friend's host student that he liked me...does that make any sence? ha ha) it was only then that I realised I liked him back...We went to a big shopping place with my host student, his friend, which was my friends host student and of coarse I went tooXD I wanted to buy him something to remember me by...(by the way we hadn't admitted we liked eachother..yet^ ^)

So I bought him a blue and black braclet thingie (it was kool^ ^) and he bought me a yellow and black one! (I wore it everyday...but a few weeks ago I wore it so much that the elastic string broke but I still have it, I keep it in a little paper bag..I will fix it one day...okay back to where we were) On the very last night (ha ha over a KFC dinner in the room I was staying in XD) he told me how much he liked me...we had a book with pictures and translations from Japanese to English...he said I was beautiful! and that it was "love at first sight" I almost died from embarressment! I told him it was the same for me...there was a kinda of awkward silence...but then his mum came in and we talked with her...it was getting late so we went to bed, but how cute is this...his mum wanted to sleep in the same room as me...so i slept on the top bunk and she slept on a mattress like thing on the floor^ ^

Then on the day I had to leave (we had to leave in the morning...) Some of the girls that were o the excursion with me...made him kiss me (it was only on the cheek) It was so embarrasing, beacuse everyone pulled out their phones/cameras to tak picsXD After that..they made me kiss him!!! (also on the cheek) I though I was gunna faint my face was so red..so was his face! when everyone was finished taking pics...He said to me that he was happy now (how cute is that^ ^)


Boy I really miss him...I really wanna see them again...my host student and the others came to Australia to visit us on their excursion..about a month after we vistited them, he stayed with me for 4 days as well^ ^ But it was really hard to see him go a second time...I think that it will be the last time i see him...unless I save up my money and go back/or if he does..but one thing is for sure..I will NEVER forget him/them^ ^

Opps I'm sorry for blabing on so much, just got cought up in the memories, sorry..XD

RoseButterfly
01-04-2011, 07:30 PM
@Uruha-fan-girl: Aww! I squeeled at this! It was just too sweet! God damn it, why am I the only one who's had only bad experiences with love?! *goes to emo corner with Fai*

uruha-fan-girl
01-04-2011, 07:58 PM
RoseButterfly:
Really you did?!^ ^
Don't worry I have had bad experinace before...>.>
But when I think of this one, it makes me happy^ ^

Reita lover
01-04-2011, 08:02 PM
@rosebutterfly:trust meh...ur not the only one!

Baranegex
01-05-2011, 01:03 AM
I've only truly fallen in love once I believe. I knew it was love when he disappeared from my life. I was so lost without him I cried for days XD lol the story is too long, but it ended well.

After he moved schools, one day I got the courage to call him and ask him to see a movie with me. I confessed that night and yadda yadda he told me he had loved me as well. We were together for 3 years and still talk to this day ._. I'll never stop loving him even though it may not be the same love

Cadmium Polyphony
01-05-2011, 02:35 AM
im really just lonly and i need someone to love and understang me and i feel worthless being 19 and never have had a gf..its just like every "tom,dick and harry" has a gf or at least a girl thats a firend...i just want a slice of the pie we call life

So you want to use another person to find a sense of self worth?

That's very unfair to anyone stupid enough to fall for you, you know.

stardust760
01-05-2011, 05:48 AM
he is just expressing his feelings their is no need to be cruel.

ieixxx
01-05-2011, 06:26 AM
Uh, I havent had any experiences....kinda coz i'm "WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY young."
But once, I liked a guy [alot], but he went to a different school than me, though the same... youth group? Anyway... One time, at my house we had the youth group xmas party, but only he, my bff and my older bro were there (=-=') [there are more than 4 of us, okay?]
anyway, i was showing him an ipod touch and stuff and he was leaning over my shoulder and asking me questions ect...and thats when i started to like him.
Then, a couple of months later, we started up again after the xmas break and when i finally went again, on the way in the car with my bff she said she saw him in the street one say and when he saw her he dropped his laptop [we're all good friends] and then she said.....
He moved to Australia.

I died. But she didn't know i liked hm so i was like, oh.
I was so depressed i kept throwing stuff at windows afterwards.
I have never had a Boyfriend, or kissed a guy, and I only have one guy friend cos I go to an all girls school. [ppl get beat up there an they call us 'the brothel by the river]

I want a Boyfriend.....

RoseButterfly
01-05-2011, 10:22 AM
@Uruha-fan-girl: Yes, it did. I love cute love stories, expecially since it's in real life and not a story! It gives me a bit of hope.

@Reita-love: Probably not, but I FEEL alone. My parents are so in love after so long, almost everyone at my college has a relationshio and I, after 18 years of existance...nothing. It kinda makes me sad. I know I have to just be patient, but I'm not a patient person. Hence why I keep doing hard cosplays! XD

Celia Rose
01-05-2011, 10:32 AM
@Reita-love: Probably not, but I FEEL alone. My parents are so in love after so long, almost everyone at my college has a relationshio and I, after 18 years of existance...nothing. It kinda makes me sad. I know I have to just be patient, but I'm not a patient person. Hence why I keep doing hard cosplays! XD
It'll happen, trust me. :) Besides, "young love" isn't always what it's cracked up to be. I've only met a few couples who have been together since high school-age, so it's not like everyone who has a relationship when they're young lasts. I'm proof of that myself, LOL.

When you don't look for it, love will drop itself in your lap and wait for you to take the chance~

kuroki-neko
01-05-2011, 11:40 AM
he is just expressing his feelings their is no need to be cruel.

thanks -hugs u-

Skeff
01-05-2011, 02:26 PM
Here is my story, sort of a downer, but it’s the only time I've been in love so far in my life.

I never really believed in "love". That’s why I never really used the word when I dated anyone in the past. Love is a strong word that shouldn't be tossed around lightly, it can be take in so many ways. All the people I dated in the past were more of a "hey this girl likes me.. Okay, cool" type of deal.

It was always something that happened to everyone other than me.

Then I met her earlier this year, a friend of a friend whom I had actually known for a while but never talked to. Neither of us were in a spot where we were looking to date anyone. She was on vacation visiting her friends in my area, she and her husband were going through a bitter separation/divorce and he was currently deployed (marines). She also has two young daughters, which I was surprisingly very cool with, I don't normally even want to get involved with kids.

Her and I started really talking and hanging out for about a month. Everything was really awesome, we had the same outlook on a lot of things, thought the same way and were both very down to earth. I had never been able to talk to or open up this much to anyone before. Hell, I spent hours on the phone with her any day I couldn't see her. We both were really surprised that we got along this well, she said she was almost afraid because she had never felt this way before, and I felt basically the same way.

She even went to go visit her brother in Virginia, and she was still really cool with me driving up there a couple of times to visit and hang out for a weekend.

She ended her vacation and went back home (California), and we continued to talk every day. I even booked a flight out there to visit her on her birthday. Everything was great, I was already trying to re-arrange my future plans to maybe involve her and the kids if all went well.

I was on top of the world.

A couple of months later, her soon-to-be ex husband apparently apologized (for the first time) for all the crap he had done, cheating and hitting her, amongst other things. He was due back from deployment right before Christmas. So she decided to give him a second chance because he apologized. Throwing me to the wayside. She kept saying things like "well, you never know what may happen" and crap like that. I ended up cancelling my trip out there because of this, and we pretty much stopped talking over the past month or so.

I'm just now being able to get over this all. I broke down quite badly for a while there, being put second to someone who had hurt her like that was devastating as well. It all happened over the past three months.

Yes, I'm an odd guy, but I'm a good person. All the people that I dated in the past were never able to intrigue me like she did. I couldn’t hold a long conversation with anyone before her.

That’s how I know that I had fallen in love.

It’s a weird thing to just suddenly happen, I always swore that it happens to everyone else, but it does happen.

I would have to say love is being able to completely connect to someone on an intellectual and physical level. Everything is just perfect when it all happens.

onewingedjade
01-05-2011, 05:59 PM
@Skeff: That's so terrible. I gave so many chances when I was in that situation, they don't change. I feel really bad for her, and seems like she'll miss out on something worthwhile with you.

I can say that what you described is very similar to what I went through, minus kids and marriage of course, and I'm so glad I didn't go back to him. And I did end up with something wonderful for the first time.

FunnyValentine
01-05-2011, 10:14 PM
Story time now: Alrighty, most of my past relationships ended out terrible. I realized they were mainly physical but in my head I made it seem like it was more than that. The advice about finding someone when you least expect it is so true. Anyways, I met my boyfriend during high school. I randomly got up and talked to him because if I find someone attractive I dont wait for him to notice me. Im not like a lot of girls I guess. My senior year we really got to know each other more. I had things in common with him that I never had with anyone else. Eventually, we went to the movies and went out to eat, I thought it was awesome how much I liked just talking to him. He makes me really happy and he always believes in me. I knew I was in love because I was never shy around him and completely fine with telling him anything. Its so hard to be with someone you love because relationships are just so hard, but youll know you love who youre with when you just look at them and just smile because of how happy you are.

SecretSoliloquy
01-05-2011, 10:35 PM
Its so hard to be with someone you love because relationships are just so hard, but youll know you love who youre with when youre willing to do anything to stay with them.

I think you'll find that the best relationship is an equal partnership, in which each person is confident enough in themselves to live apart from one another, they will willingly live together in harmony. To 'do anything to stay with them' is to be lacking something in yourself. I believe that you must first be comfortable and happy alone to be truly successful in a relationship.

Kildread
01-05-2011, 10:38 PM
I think you'll find that the best relationship is an equal partnership, in which each person is confident enough in themselves to live apart from one another, they will willingly live together in harmony. To 'do anything to stay with them' is to be lacking something in yourself. I believe that you must first be comfortable and happy alone to be truly successful in a relationship.

Well said. The best relationships are born from people who can first live with themselves on their own.

FunnyValentine
01-05-2011, 11:04 PM
I think you'll find that the best relationship is an equal partnership, in which each person is confident enough in themselves to live apart from one another, they will willingly live together in harmony. To 'do anything to stay with them' is to be lacking something in yourself. I believe that you must first be comfortable and happy alone to be truly successful in a relationship.

I see what youre saying. Im content with myself and if I was empty inside I wouldnt find a guy to just fill the void temporarily. Maybe I didnt word myself correctly. I meant its hard to be in a relationship because of things like arguements.

SecretSoliloquy
01-05-2011, 11:05 PM
I see what youre saying. Im content with myself and if I was empty inside I wouldnt find a guy to just fill the void temporarily. Maybe I didnt word myself correctly. I meant its hard to be in a relationship because of things like arguements.

Can't argue with that :P

Cadmium Polyphony
01-06-2011, 02:12 AM
I see what youre saying. Im content with myself and if I was empty inside I wouldnt find a guy to just fill the void temporarily.

Giggity.

FunnyValentine
01-06-2011, 02:35 AM
I dont really know what to say to that. Can everyone go back to ignoring me? XD

Flora88
01-06-2011, 10:05 AM
It's okay, FunnyValentine. At least it's not a mass iphone text conversation. Just the other day, the iphone corrected something to "sodomite." I was mortified.

rubyspitfire
01-06-2011, 10:15 AM
^^ lol!

by all these definitions of "love" and "relationship", i guess you could call the friendship between my roommate and i a marriage without the paper. i live here for free (unemployed single parent, yay) and all i have to do is keep the house relatively clean and be a listening ear when times get rough

we tried a romantic relationship once and it did not go well, but thankfully we ended it before it got too bad and remained friends. there's still a little mutual stress relief that goes on, but not nearly as often as you'd think... because it would just get awkward again

kuroki-neko
01-06-2011, 12:53 PM
idk im not going to say anything because ic is going to make me look like a moron or whatever it thinks i am.

i was going to say that i never had a love life before im 19 and i find that a bit odd and don't go on saying its normal i know its not. just to let u know i act completely different in real life i just act like this online.

id rather suffer a thousand bad realtionships than being so alone :( and don't u dare say im desprate people just lump other people who act similar in with the easyest thing to label them as, while getting to know the person could be much easyer.

but anyway i have never felt what its like to be loved.. but oh well ill live :/

Axelai
01-06-2011, 01:09 PM
It's okay, FunnyValentine. At least it's not a mass iphone text conversation. Just the other day, the iphone corrected something to "sodomite." I was mortified.

LOL. My phone one turned "Happy Easter" into "Happen Faster". I was like "Wait... wait what?" xD Not to mention every time i type in any sexual word, it auto-corrects it like its trying to be a good boy or something. Unlike my old phone, that'd correct "Penny" to "Penis". Silly phone <3

I think you'll find that the best relationship is an equal partnership, in which each person is confident enough in themselves to live apart from one another, they will willingly live together in harmony. To 'do anything to stay with them' is to be lacking something in yourself. I believe that you must first be comfortable and happy alone to be truly successful in a relationship.

Exactly this. Every relationship i was in before i was comfortable with myself always ended up horrible. I never believed people when they told me i had to be happy with myself in order to be happy. I always thought that was them trying to like, console me or something XD;;

And really... I'm single right now. But i'm pretty much happy with that. I used to be known for never being single, since i'd relationship hop all through high school. Now.. *shrugs* Its been about half a year since my last relationship, and i'm fine with that.

SourCherryTwist
01-06-2011, 01:10 PM
idk im not going to say anything because ic is going to make me look like a moron or whatever it thinks i am.

i was going to say that i never had a love life before im 19 and i find that a bit odd and don't go on saying its normal i know its not. just to let u know i act completely different in real life i just act like this online.

id rather suffer a thousand bad realtionships than being so alone :( and don't u dare say im desprate people just lump other people who act similar in with the easyest thing to label them as, while getting to know the person could be much easyer.

but anyway i have never felt what its like to be loved.. but oh well ill live :/

I had an extremely abusive ex once. It was really really bad. Id rather be alone forever before ever living through that again. be careful what you wish for....

kuroki-neko
01-06-2011, 01:18 PM
I had an extremely abusive ex once. It was really really bad. Id rather be alone forever before ever living through that again. be careful what you wish for....

well i dont want to sound deprate >> but yea its hard for me everywere i go it cupples and stuff like that all happy and getting action i just really hate being alone. all my life i have never had a gf or a date so yea....

Clyde_2.0
01-06-2011, 01:22 PM
well i dont want to sound deprate

Too Late. ;)

SourCherryTwist
01-06-2011, 01:27 PM
well i dont want to sound deprate >> but yea its hard for me everywere i go it cupples and stuff like that all happy and getting action i just really hate being alone. all my life i have never had a gf or a date so yea....

just saying, its not all daisies and sunshine. and if you stop trying so hard, thats USUALLY when it comes. Happiness comes to those who wait.

toughtink
01-06-2011, 01:29 PM
idk im not going to say anything because ic is going to make me look like a moron or whatever it thinks i am.

i was going to say that i never had a love life before im 19 and i find that a bit odd and don't go on saying its normal i know its not. just to let u know i act completely different in real life i just act like this online.

id rather suffer a thousand bad relationships than being so alone :( and don't u dare say im desprate people just lump other people who act similar in with the easyest thing to label them as, while getting to know the person could be much easyer.

but anyway i have never felt what its like to be loved.. but oh well ill live :/

i met my current boyfriend at 19. i'm now 21 and very much in love. before him, i hadn't had anything close enough to count as a relationship, and certainly not anything close to love. many of my friends of the same age have never had any sort of romantic attachment to anyone. would you call them odd? i just know too many people who haven't had boyfriends or girlfriends to think that moving in and out of many relationships is normal.

i guess this might be advice not well received, but don't worry! just hold on and keep living your life. someone special turns up often in places you wouldn't expect. but don't place too much importance on your love life. those who move in and out of relationships quickly and easily may find it harder to connect to one person for a long time. remember that you aren't alone. even without a significant other, you're still loved by a number of people.

sorry if that comes off as preachy or something... honestly though, i think i was the opposite of you. i had decided avoiding relationships was the best route for a long time because it seemed like whenever people got into them things would get very complicated and people would get hurt. but eventually, i gave in because he was just such a great person. ^_^'

kuroki-neko
01-06-2011, 01:32 PM
oh sure -.- im 19 and i have beem waiting for all of my teen years...im nit really trying that hard im just feeling a bit down thats all.. oh yea if i wait my best time will be when im 28 and i see people younger than me getting more action than me. not like i want to get any its just i feel left out and abandoned

kuroki-neko
01-06-2011, 01:41 PM
well everyone younger than me had a love life :/ im not going to ignore this fact. its just like i try so hard to look good but for no avail... love can change a man, can make him do great good or evil. love is the one thing that can tame my savage soul

bbopalunaa
01-06-2011, 02:45 PM
I started college without ever having a boyfriend, never been kissed, etc. I joined the anime club, and started making new friends pretty fast. After a few weeks, I was told that there were quite a few guys in the club/our social group that liked me. That was pretty exciting for me, since few guys have ever shown much interest in me.

I was a little desperate for a boyfriend at the time, so I tried to keep my options open. After a while, though, I started getting attached to this one guy in particular. I flirted with him a little, and he flirted a little back, but we were both painfully shy, so we never really got past that. During this time, another guy asked me out, and I politely declined, as I didn't want to give up on my guy.

Some time went by, and we got to be pretty good friends. It came to the end of the semester, and I seriously thought that he was going to ask me out, so I was patiently waiting for that. Finals week came, and on the last day, I went out for the day with this guy and a few other friends. When my guy was out of earshot, two of the girls I was with asked me if I was interested in anyone, and I spilled to them. The response I got was "oh my God, that's awesome! He really likes you too! We'll make sure he asks you out."

So the day went on, and eventually we ended up at a friend's place watching movies. Him and I were sitting on a couch together, and probably halfway though the second movie, I felt his arm slooooowly making its way around my shoulder. It probably took about twenty minutes for him to make contact, no lie. It was pretty adorable. But we cuddled for the rest of the movie, and when he was taking me home, we made our dating status official, and we've been going strong for over a year now. I later found out that my guy did like me a little in the begining, but never pursued it because two of his pretty close friends were among those that obviously liked me in the begining.

But how did I know I was in love? Sometimes I worry that it's not exactly love, since I have no other relationships to compare it to, but we've had so many amazing moments together, those worries don't hold much. He's always been so patient with me, being my first boyfriend and all. That was always something that I'd worried about before I had a boyfriend, but he gave me the time I needed to adjust to everything, and was super patient while I learned not to kiss horribly :drunk: But we're so insanely comfortable around each other now, it's great. We're pretty much the polar opposites of those shy people we were with each other before we started dating. He embraces my weird side, and matches it, which I love (how many couples can make awkward noises back and forth for half an hour and not get bored? :D ) But just the way he makes me feel tells me enough. And the fact that he can be quite the nerd from time to time doesn't hurt :D

Lithium Flower
01-06-2011, 03:50 PM
oh sure -.- im 19 and i have beem waiting for all of my teen years...im nit really trying that hard im just feeling a bit down thats all.. oh yea if i wait my best time will be when im 28 and i see people younger than me getting more action than me. not like i want to get any its just i feel left out and abandoned

Dude my boyfriend is 26 and I am his first girlfriend. Seriously there's a line between feeling left out and looking for pity.

I said it once and this is the last time I am going to say it; Girls. don't. like. sad. sacks.

kuroki-neko
01-06-2011, 03:57 PM
im not looking for pitty -.- im just saying, i hear people say alot of good things about me. but when i go out to see if they are true ...idk but it seems those things were not exactly right. ( i know that sounds bad but don't comment on it)

i just want there to be somthing memerable in my teen years

kuroki-neko
01-06-2011, 03:59 PM
i act this was only while im online i go on here to vent, in person im way diferent.

Krye
01-06-2011, 04:21 PM
I said it once and this is the last time I am going to say it; Girls. don't. like. sad. sacks.

LOL that line is golden. XD But all in all... true. And vice-versa too. Guys don't want girls who are super clingy. They don't want to date people who wants to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship.

There's a friend of mine at school. I had a small crush on him (dude), but then I moved on and ended up with my current boyfriend. The day I got together with my current bf, Dude became super jealous. His friends tried to set me up with him even though I was in a relationship already. I felt like... he wanted to destroy what I had for the sake of being with him - not considering how I felt. As a year passes by... nothing changes. And he finally backed down. As a new semester started, he hit on my best friend. Got rejected. A few months later, he hits on another one of my friends. Desperate? I think so. And as a whole, I felt like all he wanted to do was to get in a relationship for the experience. Not love.

But... I still respect him as a friend.

I learned my lesson when I prayed for a relationship back in 9th grade and actually got it (I'm 20 now). I wasn't ready for the commitment. And My heart wasn't ready to take care of others. I took this guy for granted. And I realized... I didn't love him... Perhaps I felt the way I felt because this was the first guy to notice me. Infatuated. But nothing more. I broke it off because I couldn't keep pretending to love a guy that I really didn't love. It wouldn't be fair to him because... he really did treat me well and with much respect. But I didn't feel the connection. We are good friends now. And the right lucky girl has him as her bf. =)

So yes, be careful what you wish/pray for.

Flora88
01-06-2011, 09:04 PM
im not looking for pitty -.- im just saying, i hear people say alot of good things about me. but when i go out to see if they are true ...idk but it seems those things were not exactly right. ( i know that sounds bad but don't comment on it)

i just want there to be somthing memerable in my teen years

Then make something memorable happen. Think about your life like a story, and think of yourself as a character. Passive characters (the ones who just sit there until something happens to them) are neither memorable nor fun to read about. Active characters (who, I don't know, MAKE THINGS HAPPEN) drive the plot toward the exciting points we all love about a good story.

Don't be passive. Be active.

Lithium Flower
01-06-2011, 09:41 PM
LOL that line is golden. XD But all in all... true. And vice-versa too. Guys don't want girls who are super clingy. They don't want to date people who wants to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. /tolongsnipsnip/

My boyfriend is,ironically, extremely affectionate xD he was probably the one doing the most pursuing at the start of our relationship and continues to be an openly affectionate fellow. But at the same time we both have our space.

That guy reminds me quite a bit of two fellows I know. One is a guy I knew in High School who didn't necessarily openly pursue me to the point yours did but I'd be out with my boyfriend and 'd be getting text messages from this dude and thinking "Seriously piss off wankerbreath" the other is a fellow much like kuroki-neko and listening to his whimpering about relationships can be somewhere along the lines of listening to a baby cry on the subway.(The guy I know not kuroki-neko)

kuroki-neko
01-06-2011, 10:00 PM
well if people did not brag about their "love lives" id be fine

Flora88
01-06-2011, 10:10 PM
@keroki neko

Dude...it's a thread entitled "How did you know you are/were in love?" I mean, surely you knew coming into this thread that at some point someone would talk about being in love or how great his or her love life was.
As one of the (debatably) worst presidents in U.S. history once said, "if you can't stand the proverbial heat, get out of the proverbial kitchen."

Only without the "proverbials."

Lithium Flower
01-06-2011, 10:12 PM
well if people did not brag about their "love lives" id be fine

Dude.......you willingly came into a forum titled "How did you know you are/were in love?"


And regardless, are people to pretend to have shitty romantic lives to make you feel better?

Because I have a very fruitful romantic life. I am totally 100% over the moon for an artist and am totally 100% loved back without a doubt in my mind. There is not one moment of my day I am not proud of him.

CosplayCinema
01-06-2011, 10:21 PM
I'm going to tell you what my mother always tells me.

Quite your damn crying you and pick yourself up and get the hell out. :/

Just cause your UNHAPPY doesn't mean we can't be happy. If you don't want to be ranted at for being a cry baby and see other people mention that they are happy and actually TRYING to be then stop coming into the damn threads like this. I fell no compassion for you or nothing. I feel pity for the fact that you believe that only YOUR opinion matters, to be quite honest i despise people like you.



Now to post about about how i knew i was in love :3

The way Shaggy looked at me, treated me, respected me, spoiled me with his affection. He made me feel like i was on top of the world, he even helped me when i was stuck watching 4 children, my dog, no real food in the house, little money, no cooking skills and such.

He got us things i could learn how to cook quickly, got me star bucks when i was feeling completely down and when my sister would finally come home to care for her children he took me out to our favorite restaurant and took me to see the newest movies in theaters.

Then there was the anger i felt when his ex girlfriend got her boyfriend to jump Shaggy, it was the boyfriend and 2 of his friends, they beat him so bad that he had stiches on his forehead, fractured part of his lower back and bruised him all over. It felt nice taking care of him, going to the laundry mat with him, the mall, and back to his apartment to rest and watch T.V together (yes we never did anything between the sheets, he was 25 and i was 16). Though it felt even better when i slashed her tires and damaged her key holes to get in her car :,-)

Our first real date was on Easter 3 years ago v.v and he even got me a cute little blue Lamb stuffed animal I named Scrappy since he was Shaggy, i was his best friend (scooby) and so we had little Scrappy TTwTT. I still have the necklace he gave me as well, if i could see him, and be with him once more i'd do it. >w< He liked me the way i was before even though i hated how i looked and now i feel even more beautiful and happy then i was and i wish he could see how much i've grown and matured since then.....though i'll be 18 finally and he will be.....like 29 @.@ he is....so old....

Sorry it's a bit jumpy...i just don't even know where to start when talking about him.

FunnyValentine
01-06-2011, 11:46 PM
Kuroki, you really just remind me so much of one of my old best friends. Every other thread you talk of how attractive you are, but then you complain over relationships. This friend was attractive to a good amount of females but he never really had a real relationship. He would complain to me all the time about not having a girlfriend. He eventually became so annoying I couldnt stand it anymore. One time he was driving and complaining about his lack of love life..we ended up way too far away from home in really crappy rain, it was not fun. Eventually all we did was have him listen to my advice and then he had more things about relationships to complain about the next day. Seriously, dont end up like him. You really should just go out with your guy friends and have fun. Dont worry about a relationship, the both of you will come together when the time is right. And dont say Im so mean because Im really just trying to help you out a bit.

FunnyValentine
01-06-2011, 11:48 PM
Anyways, bbopalunaa, I love your story.

Flora88
01-06-2011, 11:50 PM
^
True dat.
And, for the love of God, don't let "I've never had a girlfriend before!" be the first words out of your mouth when speaking to a woman you find attractive.

Lithium Flower
01-06-2011, 11:57 PM
^
True dat.
And, for the love of God, don't let "I've never had a girlfriend before!" be the first words out of your mouth when speaking to a woman you find attractive.

That comment reminds me of the first time I met my boyfriends notoriously woman-impaired friend.

STORY TIEMZ :D

I had known him for maybe 3 hours and the three of us where eating at a deli where he got a pickle spear with his sandwich. I had pocky in one hand and coke in the other and he offered it to me and without thinking anything weird about this I just leaned over and grabbed it with my mouth. He stops, looks at me blankly and says; "Thats the hottest thing I've seen in 3 years." and later when we where leaving he says sarcastically "I really wish you'd finish that pickle."

/snerk/

FunnyValentine
01-07-2011, 12:02 AM
Yessss. Never say that line.

kuroki-neko
01-07-2011, 12:09 AM
well in real life i don't care i can exacape it there but here its allways here >.< i know i know the thread but isnt it sota ligical to talk about the love u dont have on this forum... and i don't think i attract girls i attract lesbains, and girls that are taken ...

Flora88
01-07-2011, 12:14 AM
well in real life i don't care i can exacape it there but here its allways here >.< i know i know the thread but isnt it sota ligical to talk about the love u dont have on this forum... and i don't think i attract girls i attract lesbains, and girls that are taken ...

No...it's not logical, because this thread is called "When did you know you are/were in love?"
This means that in order to answer the question posed in the title of the thread, you must have been in love with someone at one point or another. I'd think that someone who didn't want to listen to other people talking about their loves lives would steer clear of a thread like this.

Lithium Flower
01-07-2011, 12:15 AM
i don't think i attract girls i attract lesbains, and girls that are taken ...

That's going to be up there in the top 5 things you ought not to tell a woman.

kuroki-neko
01-07-2011, 12:22 AM
well its true u____u and i never say " i never had a gf before" to a girl that i like -runs hand though hair- thats just not cool..

Cadmium Polyphony
01-07-2011, 12:33 AM
That's going to be up there in the top 5 things you ought not to tell a woman.

Everything kuroki-neko says are things one should never tell a woman.

Or anyone else.

In fact, stop talking kuroki-neko.

Celia Rose
01-07-2011, 12:46 AM
I said it once and this is the last time I am going to say it; Girls. don't. like. sad. sacks.
I met the dad of a child I care for at work, and this guy (admittedly, has very poor social skills to the point that it's a huge delay, not just a little social awkwardness) complains to my co-workers and myself whenever he comes to pick up and drop off his son. Every time. Without fail. Because of his inability to read social cues, we have a rule that after three minutes of him following one of us around, the available co-worker has to come rescue the employee being pursued, or suffer the consequences (a.k.a. being left out to dry with this guy's continual sob stories).

Don't be like that guy, Kuroki-Neko. Please, don't.

Kildread
01-07-2011, 01:18 AM
Why do these threads always go back to being self-help topics?

Flora88
01-07-2011, 01:21 AM
*looks at keroki neko*

See...what had happened was...

Cadmium Polyphony
01-07-2011, 01:21 AM
Why do these threads always go back to being self-help topics?

I resent that.

I don't help anybody. ESPECIALLY myself.

Kildread
01-07-2011, 01:23 AM
I resent that.

I don't help anybody. ESPECIALLY myself.

You know, some people need to be cut off from help to actually help themselves.

nannyogg
01-07-2011, 07:57 AM
Why do these threads always go back to being self-help topics?

I dunno, but I thought the thread was how did you know YOU were in love, not how did you know someone loved you. Not always the same thing. Unless you're Eeyore, I suppose.

Kildread
01-07-2011, 10:35 AM
I dunno, but I thought the thread was how did you know YOU were in love, not how did you know someone loved you. Not always the same thing. Unless you're Eeyore, I suppose.

True.

Though it seems the "IT'S ALL ABOUT MMEEEEEE!!!!" drive haunts people sometimes.

(I say this having contributed no stories to this thread, acting as the peanut gallery :walkoff:)

crayonattack
01-07-2011, 10:20 PM
and i don't think i attract girls i attract lesbains, and girls that are taken ...

I'm...I'm pretty sure girls attract lesbians. Due to them being..ya know. Lesbians.

But this thread is nice! So many adorable stories! Q.Q Its really cute, and actually quite helpful. I was dating this great guy for a little over a year, and last month I broke up with him, because for some reason I just felt like something wasn't right I guess. I wasn't as happy as I had been earlier on, and I don't really think he was either. I know I was in love with him (or at least I think I was?Silly thread making me all questioning!) but I guess maybe that was fading and thats why I felt this way? Either way that's how I felt. It sounds really lame and stupid to type it out but I had agonized over it for a long time before deciding this was best. And breaking up sucked. Cause I do love him, he's one of my best friends and it sucked so much to hurt him and to not be with him anymore, but I still somehow feel like it was the right choice. But the REASON that this thread helps with this situation is because lately I've been missing him quite a lot and today is his birthday, and I was considering dropping by his house with a cake for it, since we're still on great terms, but I know that that would be a TERRIBLE idea and would lead to nothing good. But luckily, this thread distracted me, and made me realize that while what we had was great, I got out of the relationship for a reason and I should trust my gut and then one day I'll have some new sappy wonderful I-knew-I-was-in-love-when story of my own! So thank you, Cosplay.com-community-of-folks-who-were/are-in-love, for babysitting me so I don't get back in a relationship due to birthday cake!
(Also, Lithium Flower: I think you and your boyfriend are really really adorable together. Just thought I'd let you know, since everybody cares about the opinions of strangers on the internet!)

The Hag
01-07-2011, 10:33 PM
I'm...I'm pretty sure girls attract lesbians. Due to them being..ya know. Lesbians.

LOL!

Love is a necessary but not sufficient condition for maintaining a stable relationship.

Me, I just knew. If I'd had to ask - I wouldn't have known.

Celia Rose
01-07-2011, 11:32 PM
True.

Though it seems the "IT'S ALL ABOUT MMEEEEEE!!!!" drive haunts people sometimes.

(I say this having contributed no stories to this thread, acting as the peanut gallery :walkoff:)
*hasn't contributed any stories either* My stories aren't very cute, or happy, or evident of "love," IMO. Just full of DRAMU.

kuroki-neko
01-08-2011, 01:20 AM
well this may not be right . but yea lesbians want to talk to me alot..id if thats a sign that i could crossplay...-shakes head- >.< but yea i tend to get more attention form girls when im not around my parents.

Celia Rose
01-08-2011, 02:13 AM
well this may not be right . but yea lesbians want to talk to me alot..id if thats a sign that i could crossplay...-shakes head- >.< but yea i tend to get more attention form girls when im not around my parents.
Well, duh. :p Parents have that "don't come near my child or I'll embarrass you both horribly" vibe.

Or, maybe that's just my parents. :thumbsup:

Krye
01-08-2011, 03:22 AM
Well, duh. :p Parents have that "don't come near my child or I'll embarrass you both horribly" vibe.

Or, maybe that's just my parents. :thumbsup:

no worries~ my parents does that too. Not only embarrass us, but put my guy friends or boyfriend to some random tests. Test like "are you eligible to be with my daughter" type thing. @_@ its quite a nightmare. lol

Cadmium Polyphony
01-08-2011, 03:25 AM
no worries~ my parents does that too. Not only embarrass us, but put my guy friends or boyfriend to some random tests. Test like "are you eligible to be with my daughter" type thing. @_@ its quite a nightmare. lol

While I normally hate the man, my papa was awesome the first time he met my girlfriend.

We were leaving his house, and he got my attention while everyone else was going to our car. He pointed at my girl, then made this incredibly lewd gesture with his hips, and gave me the thumbs up.

My papa is a c*nt, but he sure can be awesome.

xUchihaHikarix
01-08-2011, 05:10 AM
I have a story, not exactly happy though. I'm also young so I don't exactly know what love is.

My story is, I met this guy online, and after a couple months of knowing him, I claimed him as my online brother. I've known him for almost three years, during this time he's gone out with two other people. The first one was actaully a boy but didn't tell my 'brother', and then soon after, she/he cheated on him.

And then after that, he got with someone else, a girl. This girl, Caitlyn, had gone out with a lot of people and she was only 12. She flirted with everyone she met, she even flirted with me (which I ignored), soon my 'brother' was captivated by her and went out with her.

Soon, she came to me and told me how she loved him but couldn't be with him because of her dad. She broke up with him secretly, he didn't know. Once he logged in, they ran off somewhere and I don't know how, but they got back together.

6 months after they got back together, they broke up. She flirted with other guys and complained to me.

2 months after that, my 'brother' had declared he loved someone, so I forced him to tell me, which took a lot of time and he almost cut himself because he was so afraid. I started to cry in real life which made him give in and tell me, he said he was in love with me.

It wasn't that surprising for me though, I told him I liked him back. And eventually, we started talking on the phone. I was so excited so I forced him to talk to my dad, and he did. He got the guts and actually talked to my dad and my mom, we all had respect for him about it too.

However, slowly, as I talked to him more, the more he'd threaten to kill himself if I didn't do something he wanted, and he talked to me... dirty-ishly. I was naive and just semi-ignored, semi went along with it.

He told me that before he met me, he was about to kill himself but I saved him. I just kind of went a long with that too, I had started realizing how controlling this boy was. I talked to my mom and told her about it, and she gave me a bit of direction on what I should do, and I did do something.

As he talked dirty-ish to me again, I laid down the rules and told him I don't like that and I wanted him to stop. He did and he also stopped threatening to kill himself once I told him "Go Ahead."

He insists to everyone I'm his girlfriend, and still does, we still talk over the phone and I don't exactly know how to end the "Relationship" I basically ignore everything he says.

He claims that the next anime con I go to, he's going to follow me there, which kind of creeps me out. He also claims that he's going to marry me one day and such...

I'm not trying to lead him on, nor do I want to. I just don't know how to end the relationship, as soon as I figure it out, I'll do it.

So for me, I don't know what love is. The boy who claimed he loved me was someone he was not and was too perverted for me. I can't feel anything for this person right now and I never will. I don't believe in love at the moment, and I especially don't believe it (At least for me) over the internet.

Everyone else though, your stories are so cute. :3 I'm so happy for all those who have found love!

rubyspitfire
01-08-2011, 09:37 AM
one thing i've always said (especially after having an abusive ex and having been with a bunch of immature self-absorbed users) is that i would rather have a companion than a lover, and if we can't remain friends first then it just won't work. i also have a kid, and if the potential SO can't take back seat to my son, too bad for them. it sounds harsh, but it's true. you would not believe the amount of jealousy people show over a five-year-old

people who say they'd rather have a thousand bad relationships than be alone have never been in a bad relationship of any kind, be it romantic or platonic. being alone can be a blessing.

kuroki, i really hope you're not "venting" on here in hopes of finding a girlfriend. i hate to be mean but you act like you're 19 going on 14. you came into a love story thread complaining about your lack of one and how you're jealous of all your friends. your comment about attracting lesbians honestly sounds like a veiled brag, and no woman is going to find that attractive. you really need to grow up and find a real woman instead of chasing school girls. the relationship will be much better and more fulfilling for both of you if you act like a responsible young adult instead of a kid

teen relationships are not all they are cracked up to be. most have no clue what they want in a mate or how to act in a romantic context, and a lot of times the boy just wants to get his **** wet (at least that's what i've seen and as a bus driver i saw a LOT of kids). in rare cases high school sweethearts turn into mates for life, but that trend is going down every day. it's not nearly as common as it was in the 50's and 60's

nannyogg
01-08-2011, 07:07 PM
So for me, I don't know what love is. The boy who claimed he loved me was someone he was not and was too perverted for me. I can't feel anything for this person right now and I never will. I don't believe in love at the moment, and I especially don't believe it (At least for me) over the internet.
Everyone else though, your stories are so cute. :3 I'm so happy for all those who have found love!

The best definition of love that I've come across is "to want the best for someone." That even means to want the best for someone when it's not you. Clearly, his demeanor toward you didn't fit that definition.

The advice the experts give about stalkers is no contact. Might be the best thing for you to do about that guy. Any time you respond to him in any way, he may take it as interest.

kuroki-neko
01-08-2011, 07:21 PM
While I normally hate the man, my papa was awesome the first time he met my girlfriend.

We were leaving his house, and he got my attention while everyone else was going to our car. He pointed at my girl, then made this incredibly lewd gesture with his hips, and gave me the thumbs up.

My papa is a c*nt, but he sure can be awesome.


yea my dads kinda cool sotra has the personality of iroh from avater the last airbender. but my parents are over protecive. i now thay just care for me but my dad can be cool when my mom is on a rampage and vice versa.

curretly my dads in the hospital, but at least when i vist him i get to walk around the huge hospital and to just relax.

but really my parents are shallow in a way i think thay look down on everyone. like my mom wil think the worst of people. they still treat me like a kid ( don't comment on that)

but in the end my dad is a good guy and my mom is ... idk

Celia Rose
01-08-2011, 08:18 PM
no worries~ my parents does that too. Not only embarrass us, but put my guy friends or boyfriend to some random tests. Test like "are you eligible to be with my daughter" type thing. @_@ its quite a nightmare. lol
My dad does that ALL THE TIME. And he wonders why I never invite my guy friends over. :thumbsup:

Kildread
01-08-2011, 08:27 PM
I have followed a strict 'Do not present my girlfriend to my parents' rule --- it has served me well.

xUchihaHikarix
01-08-2011, 08:27 PM
The best definition of love that I've come across is "to want the best for someone." That even means to want the best for someone when it's not you. Clearly, his demeanor toward you didn't fit that definition.

The advice the experts give about stalkers is no contact. Might be the best thing for you to do about that guy. Any time you respond to him in any way, he may take it as interest.

:3 Okay! Thank you~ Good advice... and that's a good definition too.

SecretSoliloquy
01-08-2011, 08:31 PM
While I normally hate the man, my papa was awesome the first time he met my girlfriend.

We were leaving his house, and he got my attention while everyone else was going to our car. He pointed at my girl, then made this incredibly lewd gesture with his hips, and gave me the thumbs up.

My papa is a c*nt, but he sure can be awesome.

O_O can't unsee it now!

Emiko87
01-09-2011, 01:05 PM
well this may not be right . but yea lesbians want to talk to me alot..id if thats a sign that i could crossplay...-shakes head- >.< but yea i tend to get more attention form girls when im not around my parents.
You know what? I think you should try crossplaying, if you think you can make it look good. MtF crossplayers are WAY rarer than FtM, and they tend to get attention from girls. Especially if you can make yourself look pretty ;p

kuroki-neko
01-09-2011, 01:22 PM
idk how and idk if i can act girly enough >.< i need help with that and i got a buff upper body..idk how it could work

Lithium Flower
01-09-2011, 01:34 PM
I'm...I'm pretty sure girls attract lesbians. Due to them being..ya know. Lesbians.
Lesbians are just straight girls waiting for Kuroki?


But luckily, this thread distracted me, and made me realize that while what we had was great, I got out of the relationship for a reason and I should trust my gut and then one day I'll have some new sappy wonderful I-knew-I-was-in-love-when story of my own! So thank you, Cosplay.com-community-of-folks-who-were/are-in-love, for babysitting me so I don't get back in a relationship due to birthday cake!


I imagine that was difficult to do, wanting something to be the same but knowing it can't be. That's a very mature and hard choice to make. I think that...people can get 'used' to being with someone and perhaps continue to be with them because of it. Not saying that was your case, but something that seems prevalent.


(Also, Lithium Flower: I think you and your boyfriend are really really adorable together. Just thought I'd let you know, since everybody cares about the opinions of strangers on the internet!)

/gigglesnort/ That kind of made my day actually. Thank you xD

Axelai
01-10-2011, 01:12 PM
ALRIGHT FINE. YOU GUYS WERE RIGHT.

At Anime LA, i met a girl. Thats all i'm saying now. >///<

So you were right. It is possible for me to find love :'| I admit defeat.

Flora88
01-10-2011, 01:13 PM
ALRIGHT FINE. YOU GUYS WERE RIGHT.

At Anime LA, i met a girl. Thats all i'm saying now. >///<

So you were right. It is possible for me to find love :'| I admit defeat.

Yaaaaay! :bigtu:

Lithium Flower
01-10-2011, 02:56 PM
ALRIGHT FINE. YOU GUYS WERE RIGHT.

At Anime LA, i met a girl. Thats all i'm saying now. >///<

So you were right. It is possible for me to find love :'| I admit defeat.

ONE OF US ONE OF US! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bBXyB7niEc0)

sam vimes
01-10-2011, 03:16 PM
O_O can't unsee it now!

This made my day.

Flora88
01-10-2011, 03:39 PM
ONE OF US ONE OF US! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bBXyB7niEc0)

PROPS for that one. I love that movie.

MercuryLampe
01-10-2011, 04:47 PM
/edited

...eheheheehehe I'm such a downer, but not anymore xDD

All of your stories are shoooo cute <3

Axelai
01-10-2011, 09:22 PM
Yaaaaay! :bigtu:

ONE OF US ONE OF US! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bBXyB7niEc0)

OH SHUSH YOU TWO.

...But LOL to that video. Old movie is old xDD;;

UC77
01-10-2011, 11:08 PM
Just gonna throw the forum back on track for a bit.

Back in 8th grade I had a major crush/was in love with a girl in my class. She was funny, a good artist, liked anime, and had cute quirks. Eventually I told her how I felt but she said she didn't have the same feelings for me. So then I got pretty depressed for the rest of 8th grade and on through the freshman year of high school. Then over the summer between freshman year and sophomore year I watched Gurren Lagann. For some reason that show kicked off my lasting depression and helped release one and a half years of bottled up courage and adrenaline, which has helped me get my life to this point. I have learned that I can't keep focusing on the past if I want to grasp my own future, so moving forward from what happened years ago is the only path that I will choose to follow. Maybe someday I'll fall in love again, but that's something to worry about another day. The past cannot be forgotten, but it also cannot be fretted, for then it becomes the present and the future. And the future is whatever you make it, so make it a good one!

*flies away in time-travelling train*

Axelai
01-10-2011, 11:24 PM
Just gonna throw the forum back on track for a bit.

Back in 8th grade I had a major crush/was in love with a girl in my class. She was funny, a good artist, liked anime, and had cute quirks. Eventually I told her how I felt but she said she didn't have the same feelings for me. So then I got pretty depressed for the rest of 8th grade and on through the freshman year of high school. Then over the summer between freshman year and sophomore year I watched Gurren Lagann. For some reason that show kicked off my lasting depression and helped release one and a half years of bottled up courage and adrenaline, which has helped me get my life to this point. I have learned that I can't keep focusing on the past if I want to grasp my own future, so moving forward from what happened years ago is the only path that I will choose to follow. Maybe someday I'll fall in love again, but that's something to worry about another day. The past cannot be forgotten, but it also cannot be fretted, for then it becomes the present and the future. And the future is whatever you make it, so make it a good one!

*flies away in time-travelling train*

Gurren Lagann is a cure for depression. True fact.

No joke, i was depressed all through high school. Then i watched Gurren Lagann. And i realized... I MUST DRILL TO THE HEAVENS.

And i've been happy ever since c:

uruha-fan-girl
01-10-2011, 11:48 PM
Well then...i had better be watchin me some Gurren Lagann!!! ha ha^ ^;

Axelai
01-10-2011, 11:48 PM
Well then...i had better be watchin me some Gurren Lagann!!! ha ha^ ^;

You should! It teaches you to punch fate in the face and do the impossible.

uruha-fan-girl
01-10-2011, 11:49 PM
Ha ha Kool;)

Flora88
01-11-2011, 12:00 AM
You should! It teaches you to punch fate in the face and do the impossible.

That's probably the best summation of Gurren Lagann I've ever heard.

Axelai
01-11-2011, 12:09 AM
That's probably the best summation of Gurren Lagann I've ever heard.

*takes a bow*

Lithium Flower
01-11-2011, 01:38 AM
PROPS for that one. I love that movie.

As you right should. If only the good 45 minutes of that film had not been lost forever can you IMAGINE how amazing Freaks would be? Not that it's not amazing as it is, but just imagine it :O

Axelai
01-11-2011, 02:22 AM
Okay, so now i must tell my tale. And knowing her, the girl i'm talking about will TOTALLY read this then proceed to bug me about it later > w >;;

So at Anime LA this weekend... Its funny how one thing can completely change your fate. Loserific was supposed to finish a commission for me, and she ended up crapping out completely. She didn't finish it in time, made a million excuses... well, long story short, i was crying in the lobby of the hotel and made my friend drive me another costume to wear. She brought me my America costume to wear instead.

Well, on Friday in Artist Alley, a cute little Romano cosplayer came up to me. She was all stoked i was another Hetalia cosplayer, and... well, she asked if she could hang out with me for a little bit. Since she had arrived with her own friend but said friend ran off. I was like "Sure, why not."

She and i ended up hanging out the entire convention. By the end of Friday, we had kissed several times.

By the end of Saturday, we had made out several times (not just through the mass Spin the Bottle game).

By the end of Sunday, I never wanted to leave her ; . ;

She was the cutest thing on the face of the earth, and i just... hnnngh, i wished the con went on forever so we could continue to karaoke, dance around, and just... have the time of our lives.

W-Well as of today, we're officially going out... long distance isn't too bad, since i live an hour and a half away from her.

Its just... @ u @ I'm happy now. She's adorkable.

Flora88
01-11-2011, 01:35 PM
Okay, so now i must tell my tale. And knowing her, the girl i'm talking about will TOTALLY read this then proceed to bug me about it later > w >;;

So at Anime LA this weekend... Its funny how one thing can completely change your fate. Loserific was supposed to finish a commission for me, and she ended up crapping out completely. She didn't finish it in time, made a million excuses... well, long story short, i was crying in the lobby of the hotel and made my friend drive me another costume to wear. She brought me my America costume to wear instead.

Well, on Friday in Artist Alley, a cute little Romano cosplayer came up to me. She was all stoked i was another Hetalia cosplayer, and... well, she asked if she could hang out with me for a little bit. Since she had arrived with her own friend but said friend ran off. I was like "Sure, why not."

She and i ended up hanging out the entire convention. By the end of Friday, we had kissed several times.

By the end of Saturday, we had made out several times (not just through the mass Spin the Bottle game).

By the end of Sunday, I never wanted to leave her ; . ;

She was the cutest thing on the face of the earth, and i just... hnnngh, i wished the con went on forever so we could continue to karaoke, dance around, and just... have the time of our lives.

W-Well as of today, we're officially going out... long distance isn't too bad, since i live an hour and a half away from her.

Its just... @ u @ I'm happy now. She's adorkable.

Awwwwwww! That is SO cute! I hope everything works out for you guys. :heart:

UC77
01-11-2011, 06:28 PM
Gurren Lagann is a cure for depression. True fact.

No joke, i was depressed all through high school. Then i watched Gurren Lagann. And i realized... I MUST DRILL TO THE HEAVENS.

And i've been happy ever since c:

Gurren Lagann is like an anti-depressant on anti-depressants. There's something about that series that makes you want to kick the universe in the balls and screw over everything that stands in your way. Depression is no match against galaxy-sized drills and giant robots that shoot Big Bangs at each other.

@Lithium Flower

We accept her, one of us, we accept her, one of us!
Gooble gobble gooble gobble!
(You're not the only ones...:cool:)

sam vimes
01-11-2011, 06:46 PM
Gurren Lagann is like an anti-depressant on anti-depressants. There's something about that series that makes you want to kick the universe in the balls and screw over everything that stands in your way. Depression is no match against galaxy-sized drills and giant robots that shoot Big Bangs at each other.

Watched a few episodes. Didn't care for it. Anime has never taught me anything.

Axelai
01-11-2011, 07:13 PM
Awwwwwww! That is SO cute! I hope everything works out for you guys. :heart:

Thanks >///u///< She's... the cutest thing on the face of the earth...!! <3

Gurren Lagann is like an anti-depressant on anti-depressants. There's something about that series that makes you want to kick the universe in the balls and screw over everything that stands in your way. Depression is no match against galaxy-sized drills and giant robots that shoot Big Bangs at each other.

You know your life will rock after seeing that anime. And the movie. Oh my god GIANT PLASMA KAMINA.

And the fact when Simon and Viral show up in space, a bunch of space ships explode just from their arrival. THEY EXPLODED FROM THE SHEER AWESOME.

Watched a few episodes. Didn't care for it. Anime has never taught me anything.

You make me sad.

And the first 8 episodes are known as the prologue. After episode 16, it gets really badass.

Throwing galaxies like ninja stars.

Kildread
01-11-2011, 07:14 PM
I'm still being a judgemental prick and not checking out TTGL just because GAINAX made it.

>_>

Axelai
01-11-2011, 07:19 PM
I'm still being a judgemental prick and not checking out TTGL just because GAINAX made it.

>_>

D: I love Gainax. After they thoroughly depressed themselves with Evangelion, they made FLCL and Gurren Lagann to cheer themselves up.

Trust me, its good. Its too manly, though... makes me want to grow a pile of chest hair. BUT ALAS, I AM FEMALE.

crayonattack
01-11-2011, 07:20 PM
Okay, so now i must tell my tale. And knowing her, the girl i'm talking about will TOTALLY read this then proceed to bug me about it later > w >;;

So at Anime LA this weekend... Its funny how one thing can completely change your fate. Loserific was supposed to finish a commission for me, and she ended up crapping out completely. She didn't finish it in time, made a million excuses... well, long story short, i was crying in the lobby of the hotel and made my friend drive me another costume to wear. She brought me my America costume to wear instead.

Well, on Friday in Artist Alley, a cute little Romano cosplayer came up to me. She was all stoked i was another Hetalia cosplayer, and... well, she asked if she could hang out with me for a little bit. Since she had arrived with her own friend but said friend ran off. I was like "Sure, why not."

She and i ended up hanging out the entire convention. By the end of Friday, we had kissed several times.

By the end of Saturday, we had made out several times (not just through the mass Spin the Bottle game).

By the end of Sunday, I never wanted to leave her ; . ;

She was the cutest thing on the face of the earth, and i just... hnnngh, i wished the con went on forever so we could continue to karaoke, dance around, and just... have the time of our lives.

W-Well as of today, we're officially going out... long distance isn't too bad, since i live an hour and a half away from her.

Its just... @ u @ I'm happy now. She's adorkable.

Aw man that's so cute! I'm so glad your happy! I love it when con romances happen and turn out well! My friend has been dating the guy she met at her first con for about a year and a half now! Aww..I'm all heart-warmed now. I swear, this thread is gonna make me soft. Oh wait, whats that? I was already soft? I get teary from overly emotional commercials? Oh yeah. Well, damage done I guess!

Also, I share the same love of Gurren Lagann that most people are expressing. I want to believe in the Kamina who believes in ME!

Axelai
01-11-2011, 07:24 PM
Aw man that's so cute! I'm so glad your happy! I love it when con romances happen and turn out well! My friend has been dating the guy she met at her first con for about a year and a half now! Aww..I'm all heart-warmed now. I swear, this thread is gonna make me soft. Oh wait, whats that? I was already soft? I get teary from overly emotional commercials? Oh yeah. Well, damage done I guess!

Also, I share the same love of Gurren Lagann that most people are expressing. I want to believe in the Kamina who believes in ME!

I'm hoping we last >//w//< I didn't think... she'd... ya know. Like me back XD;; I tried to confess to her at the con, but i got all blushy and nervous and like... half confessed. Then right after the con, i texted a confession. I thought she was going to say she didn't like me since it took her two hours to respond (lol, she had fallen asleep after the con XD ). But like... omgomgomg... *dies* We texted back and forth for like, an hour, both being too embarrassed to say our relationship status. Ahaha... She's going to read this online and be like SAHDGAHDGAHA STOP TALKIN BOUT ME. Ahahaha~ oops c:

Don't believe in yourself. Don't believe in the me that believes in you. Believe in the you that believes in you.

/Gurren Lagann fantard

Moonsong
01-11-2011, 07:42 PM
Love is a complicated little thing, and I won't say that I know much about it, because I don't, but I can share what experience I do have.

Back in 2009, I met a guy at a convention that I thought I loved. I fell too hard, too fast, because I was a naive idiot. I was 19, and had never even been asked out on a date...So when this guy approached me, I was floored. Not only was he cute, but we were cosplaying from the same series, and we spent most of Friday night at that convention just talking and sitting close to one another, during which I learned that I had a lot in common with him. That weekend was wonderful, and I thought we'd share many more happy days. After all, he did say that he'd love to be with me despite us living four hours apart. It later became clear that the only reason he said those things was because I believed them, and it got him what he wanted on the few occasions that he visited me.

There's much more to that story, but in the end, we never actually became a couple. His tune changed after a while, telling me that "Serious relationships never work out" and he "doesn't want one." It got to the point where I was walking on eggshells around him, trying to make him happy, as if it were some "honor". I'd also found out that he'd been with several other girls, and, to make a long story short, he eventually ended up in a serious relationship with one of those girls. At the time, my aunt was dying of cancer, and it was just too much. I took to completely ignoring him, and blocking him online. He didn't even ask me how she was, the entire summer, even after she had passed away.

That wasn't love.

However, since November, I've been with a wonderful person. Honestly, we're quite different. If I hadn't met him at Otakon, I would have never guessed that he was into anime, cosplay, or anything like that. He was popular, gorgeous, and quite intimidating. I felt like..."I don't even have a chance with that guy." And yet here I am - I'm happy. He doesn't pick at my faults, we can laugh about anything together, and not only is he my boyfriend,
he's become my closest friend, too. I think this could be love. It's not perfect by any means, but he makes me happy, and that's more than I've ever been in quite a long time.


So...How do you know if you're in love or not? Maybe you'll know right away...Maybe you won't find out until you've been hurt. Maybe it'll suddenly dawn on you one day. The best thing I can say is to pay attention. If you spend more time alone, or crying, or wondering if anything will ever change, something is wrong.


Also...Karma's a bitch. The guy who basically cheated on me and left me...Was cheated on and left by that very same girl. Oh, I had a good laugh that day.

Odile
01-11-2011, 11:06 PM
I knew when he was the first person I thought of every day.

kittylovesprog
01-12-2011, 01:28 AM
I was in love... one time... I'm still in love I guess. The guy somehow made me truly happy. However I'm trying to let that last experience fade away and find somebody new. I'm doing my best not to think of him. It's been over a year and a half and I still dream about him sometimes. Anyways, I see a lot of guys right now and mostly they all seem to be the same to me. I keep hope despite the situation, that I will find somebody who is real and truthful, and loves me just as much as I love them. My parents marriage reminds me that it's possible.

Aearon
01-12-2011, 02:52 AM
Awwww... /comfort Good luck finding love. =) My parents had a great marriage too. In all the years they were married, I can only remember them ever having one fight. :D

As for me... I've been in love a couple of times. Both were a little different... But, neither ended up working out in the end. However... I'm very.. Hmmm... What's the right choice of words without counting chickens before they hatch...? Nope, can't put it into words at the moment. =)

Celia Rose
01-12-2011, 11:00 AM
I'm hoping we last >//w//< I didn't think... she'd... ya know. Like me back XD;; I tried to confess to her at the con, but i got all blushy and nervous and like... half confessed. Then right after the con, i texted a confession. I thought she was going to say she didn't like me since it took her two hours to respond (lol, she had fallen asleep after the con XD ). But like... omgomgomg... *dies* We texted back and forth for like, an hour, both being too embarrassed to say our relationship status. Ahaha... She's going to read this online and be like SAHDGAHDGAHA STOP TALKIN BOUT ME. Ahahaha~ oops c:
Gah, your story sounds so cute!! Good luck to you both~ :D


Don't believe in yourself. Don't believe in the me that believes in you. Believe in the you that believes in you.

/Gurren Lagann fantard
Gurren Lagann makes me happy on so many levels~ :heart: Kamina being the best MANRY MAN ever~~ :thumbsup:

Axelai
01-12-2011, 12:52 PM
Gah, your story sounds so cute!! Good luck to you both~ :D

Thanks!! :D Did i mention how perfect she is? Because she's perfect. And how can you not love someone whose face goes bright red when you say aaaaaaanythiiiiiiing~


Gurren Lagann makes me happy on so many levels~ :heart: Kamina being the best MANRY MAN ever~~ :thumbsup:

Dude. Kamina is the manliest man on the face of the earth. I'd let his drill pierce my heavens.

Aishiri
01-13-2011, 05:13 AM
I was in love once, but not anymore and I prolly will never be in love again. Yay trust issues.

A few years ago during the summer, I met this guy on Gaia through a guild I owned. Somehow we started talking to each other a lot, and we quickly became friends. Months later, he asked me out and I rejected him because at the time, I wanted to believe so badly that I was asexual and that I didn't ever want to experience a relationship. I thought they were stupid, and not worth the time and energy because of the things I saw friends go through. That and I didn't know him that well and it seemed kind of random. We eventually moved onto an online game, where we played a lot together. He asked me out again, and I just went with it and said yes. He was kind and a good friend. I guess I didn't seem the harm in it.

A few months rolled by, and he began flirting with a guildmate of ours who was interested in him, even though she knew fully well that he and I were dating. I started having trust issues at this point and this made my depression worse.

I never forgave him, and I never forgot it but we continued dating anyways. Our relationship became very rocky and we would argue a lot. I was paranoid and angry for what he did in the past.

Over the next year or so, we broke up a couple of times and got back together. Why? Because I loved him and I figured he felt the same way about me. The entire time though, things always seemed very fishy. It felt like I wasn't the only girl in his life. He would go to cons, Otakon was one of them actually. I remember saying that if I got a job and had money, I'd like to go to Otakon with him. He was strongly opposed to this and now I know why.

We finally met about a year ago, at Ohayocon after we broke up. We figured that maybe meeting irl would fix our relationship. Like we could make things work again. He bought my plane ticket, which I was very thankful for and I had a lot of fun experiencing new things like kissing, holding hands and cuddling. He was my first boyfriend, so this was all new to me.

He left Ohio before I did, and I spent the remaining two days there completely miserable. I missed him so much, and the bed smelled like him and it just hurt. It hurt because he wasn't there. It hurt because I didn't know when was the next time I'd see him. Or if I'd ever see him again. It hurt because of how he acted around his friends at the con. He didn't introduce them to me, gave me stupid excuses as to why. He probably didn't want them knowing about me, because he was dating someone else they knew. I found out later that I was right.

On the plane home, I decided that I needed to kill these feelings. I probably wasn't going to see him again for a long time and there was a possibility that I wasn't his only girlfriend. I also thought I was in love with someone else, but I later realized I wasn't. This someone else was just a friend who I had strong feelings for, but in the brotherly-sisterly kind of way because he was one of the few people I had in my life who was always there for me no matter what.

This of course caused lots of drama that lasted for MONTHS. And eight months later, my suspicions were right. I found a picture of him and his girlfriend kissing on cosplay.com. He avoided me for a week, and we finally talked about it. He told me that he didn't know why he did it because apparently he loved me more than her. Even though we weren't dating at this time, it was painful. It took me months to get over it, and I still don't forgive him for it. I never will.

To this day, we're still best friends. While he's an awful boyfriend, he's a really good friend. I know that sounds weird, but our relationship made everything complicated and caused more arguments I think. He makes me happy, and he's almost always there when I need someone to talk to. He's helped me through a lot of things in life and tries his best to make me feel better about myself. He still flirts with me, and sometimes I flirt back buuuut I don't ever see us getting back together. I still have a little bit of feelings for him, but it's super easy to ignore 'cause I know better. Sucks for his girlfriend though, lol.

TL;DR: Had a boyfriend, he cheated, still friends with him, don't think I can ever love/trust someone again, the end.

kittylovesprog
01-14-2011, 07:49 PM
Awwww... /comfort Good luck finding love. =) My parents had a great marriage too. In all the years they were married, I can only remember them ever having one fight. :D

As for me... I've been in love a couple of times. Both were a little different... But, neither ended up working out in the end. However... I'm very.. Hmmm... What's the right choice of words without counting chickens before they hatch...? Nope, can't put it into words at the moment. =)

I know what you mean by counting your chickens before they hatch.

kittylovesprog
01-14-2011, 08:08 PM
I was in love once, but not anymore and I prolly will never be in love again. Yay trust issues.

A few years ago during the summer, I met this guy on Gaia through a guild I owned. Somehow we started talking to each other a lot, and we quickly became friends. Months later, he asked me out and I rejected him because at the time, I wanted to believe so badly that I was asexual and that I didn't ever want to experience a relationship. I thought they were stupid, and not worth the time and energy because of the things I saw friends go through. That and I didn't know him that well and it seemed kind of random. We eventually moved onto an online game, where we played a lot together. He asked me out again, and I just went with it and said yes. He was kind and a good friend. I guess I didn't seem the harm in it.

A few months rolled by, and he began flirting with a guildmate of ours who was interested in him, even though she knew fully well that he and I were dating. I started having trust issues at this point and this made my depression worse.

I never forgave him, and I never forgot it but we continued dating anyways. Our relationship became very rocky and we would argue a lot. I was paranoid and angry for what he did in the past.

Over the next year or so, we broke up a couple of times and got back together. Why? Because I loved him and I figured he felt the same way about me. The entire time though, things always seemed very fishy. It felt like I wasn't the only girl in his life. He would go to cons, Otakon was one of them actually. I remember saying that if I got a job and had money, I'd like to go to Otakon with him. He was strongly opposed to this and now I know why.

We finally met about a year ago, at Ohayocon after we broke up. We figured that maybe meeting irl would fix our relationship. Like we could make things work again. He bought my plane ticket, which I was very thankful for and I had a lot of fun experiencing new things like kissing, holding hands and cuddling. He was my first boyfriend, so this was all new to me.

He left Ohio before I did, and I spent the remaining two days there completely miserable. I missed him so much, and the bed smelled like him and it just hurt. It hurt because he wasn't there. It hurt because I didn't know when was the next time I'd see him. Or if I'd ever see him again. It hurt because of how he acted around his friends at the con. He didn't introduce them to me, gave me stupid excuses as to why. He probably didn't want them knowing about me, because he was dating someone else they knew. I found out later that I was right.

On the plane home, I decided that I needed to kill these feelings. I probably wasn't going to see him again for a long time and there was a possibility that I wasn't his only girlfriend. I also thought I was in love with someone else, but I later realized I wasn't. This someone else was just a friend who I had strong feelings for, but in the brotherly-sisterly kind of way because he was one of the few people I had in my life who was always there for me no matter what.

This of course caused lots of drama that lasted for MONTHS. And eight months later, my suspicions were right. I found a picture of him and his girlfriend kissing on cosplay.com. He avoided me for a week, and we finally talked about it. He told me that he didn't know why he did it because apparently he loved me more than her. Even though we weren't dating at this time, it was painful. It took me months to get over it, and I still don't forgive him for it. I never will.

To this day, we're still best friends. While he's an awful boyfriend, he's a really good friend. I know that sounds weird, but our relationship made everything complicated and caused more arguments I think. He makes me happy, and he's almost always there when I need someone to talk to. He's helped me through a lot of things in life and tries his best to make me feel better about myself. He still flirts with me, and sometimes I flirt back buuuut I don't ever see us getting back together. I still have a little bit of feelings for him, but it's super easy to ignore 'cause I know better. Sucks for his girlfriend though, lol.

TL;DR: Had a boyfriend, he cheated, still friends with him, don't think I can ever love/trust someone again, the end.

Your story sounds awfully a lot like mine. I know what it's like and I've been in that boat. The guy that I loved was special to me because we shared interests on the deepest levels, and I know trying to find another libertarian/prog rock fan/outdoorsy/funny/guitar playing guy will be nearly impossible. However I don't let my idea of the perfect person guide my decisions anymore. I don't give all of my trust to one person. My trust belongs to me. I date people with no expectations whatsoever from them, that way, when they do something nice, they exceed my expectations. Take it slow, but never say never. Experience other people. Live with the idea that anything could happen. I've found that many young men are not ready to settle down yet, and it has nothing to do with the fact that they don't like you. The truth is, it's in their biological code. That's why I date multiple people now, so when one moves on, I have other boyfriends to back me up, and that way it isn't so hard. I know that the one man that is out their for me will be the one that either sticks with me, or comes back after experiencing what it's like to be with others.

Archangelz
01-15-2011, 03:10 AM
What is love?

Love is her understanding that I have to keep buying comics.

Love is not caring about the little bits of her personality that would annoy most others.

Love is being able to fight, disagree, get frustrated, and yet still want to go to sleep in the same bed when it's all done.

Love is her understanding that I would marry Captain Malcolm Reynolds. So would she.

Love is finding a woman who supports me when I'm unsure, questions me when I'm totally sure, and will stand by my side so long as I am worthy of her devotion.

Love is painful, stupid, heartbreaking, beautiful, breathtaking, and stunning.

How do you know when you're in love? Only you can answer that. When you ask yourself that question and realize that your answer is, "I need to go kiss them" instead of a yes or no then you're there. Fight for it.

What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more....

Axelai
01-15-2011, 08:35 PM
(Note: My girlfriend has been reading my posts on here OTL /embarrassed )

Mental_Army
01-15-2011, 08:45 PM
Truthfully I'm too cynical. I would really like to experience love at one point in my life but i think its too good for me and would end horribly bad.

kuroki-neko
01-20-2011, 11:15 AM
idk what to say my im feeeling really down right now and i want to say something but im not alllowed to feel sad on here aparently:/ (sorry for whining)

but as hard or long i think i have never been in love or been loved, i don't know the feeling i guess im like data from star trek, does not have feelings but striving to find them

Lilyela
01-20-2011, 12:15 PM
I met Emil at a camp this spring, and the second day we started talking a lot, and hung out a lot at the camp. He got to join the little group we had formed there, and he never cared that I teased him, or took his cap or any of the silly stuff one does. The last day of camp I almost cried when we were about to say good bye to everyone there. Then a few months later, he confessed that he liked me and we became a couple. Two months later we broke up, and got together again for about a month ago.
Why did I get back to him? I knew he was a keeper when he fell for me when I had messy hair, no makeup and tracksuits :) Oh God, why did you get me started? xD

ashelia89
01-20-2011, 12:57 PM
I know I'm in love when I can't shut up about my baby...he's influenced so much in me for the better ! I used to be a really closed off person...angry at the world and unwilling to change...but he's opened my eyes and been patient and loving...he WOWS me...love to me is when I can't picture myself without a person in my life...if I lose breath over it or get shot over the thought of that...then I know I'm there...

I've been married for 2 1/2 yrs and I couldn't be happier to call myself a spouse...I LOVE the look my husband gives me when hes holding me...its always driven me crazy <3 If I'm away from him like 15 feet and hes talking to someone else I think "yea...that's my baby...my husband <3" and I smile from ear to ear.

We met online through a Rammstein forum and were friends for a long time,life then set us through our different paths...funny enough we both had come out of heart breaking relationships with other people and found ourselves talking about it...before we knew it we decided to give each other a try....friends forever and wanting a relationship ? why not ?

well he got me flight tickets and had sent me his dog tags and uniform top to show me he was definitely serious[at the time distance separated us and he was in UAV school for the Army ]...so I took the flight....got married and there my life took off :) <3 ,we've had our ups and downs but we just cant picture life without each other...we make a great team...we're each other's best friends,lovers and companions for life ^__^

Psycho_Kitty
01-20-2011, 01:51 PM
When we can finish each other sentences and we know exactly what the other is thinking. Also when they are very supportive of every decision you make and is really supportive through tough situations. My hubby is the love of my life and without him i have no idea where i would be today.

Cadmium Polyphony
01-20-2011, 11:07 PM
i guess im like data from star trek, does not have feelings but striving to find them

Bollocks.

Self-pity is a derivative of emotion.

Truthfully I'm too cynical. I would really like to experience love at one point in my life but i think its too good for me and would end horribly bad.

Bollocks #2.

Cynicism is an extremely attractive quality, when used properly. It fuels some of the best senses of humor, which is another attractive quality.

My cynicism and negativity is what attracted most of all my previous mates, including the one I'm with now, to me.

Axelai
02-11-2011, 03:06 AM
UPDATE: My girlfriend TOTALLY read this thread, saw my post, and is now teasing me about it @////@;;

CodeShogun
02-11-2011, 03:15 AM
I once was in love. Was in relationship with this girl for 6 years. I sacrificed a lot of things just so I can be with her.

Then she brutally dumped me on our anniversary.

I was bedridden for 2 weeks.

My family was worrying about me so they sent me to NYC to heal up.

Didn't work so I went to Asian Film Festival once I got back from NYC.

Help a little bit so I hit up PMX '09. That's when I became full fledged cosplayer.

If it wasn't for me getting brutally dumped, I would have never discover cosplaying and that is the truth.

I regret nothing because I gambled a lot and I felt that it paid off in the ending, even if I got my heart crushed hardcore.

Cadmium Polyphony
02-11-2011, 03:59 AM
I once was in love. Was in relationship with this girl for 6 years. I sacrificed a lot of things just so I can be with her.

Then she brutally dumped me on our anniversary.

I was bedridden for 2 weeks.

My family was worrying about me so they sent me to NYC to heal up.

Didn't work so I went to Asian Film Festival once I got back from NYC.

Help a little bit so I hit up PMX '09. That's when I became full fledged cosplayer.

If it wasn't for me getting brutally dumped, I would have never discover cosplaying and that is the truth.

I regret nothing because I gambled a lot and I felt that it paid off in the ending, even if I got my heart crushed hardcore.

I had a similar event, many moons ago. It led to me discovering my career as a writer/journalist.

Cheers to you. Cheers to all who turn lemons into lemonade in such fashion.

RoninEclipse2G
02-11-2011, 08:44 PM
Honestly I knew I was in love with my wife when I wasn't bored to tears after 2 months of dating. Every girl I had dated before her I couldn't have cared less about after the 2 month mark. With my wife I wanted to see her more and more every day. 12 years later I still feel the same way (most of the time, everyone has their off days LOL)

totorolover
02-12-2011, 01:46 AM
ah love. . i knew i was in love with my now husband when i was hanging out with him and some friends, he gave this girl ( one of his friends but not girlfriend) his sweater because she forgot hers and we were outside of a starbucks in feburary late at night. i was so mad and jealous that he even touched her! i wanted to sock her! I pondered over why i was so mad that whole night, i had never been in love before but my emotions were way out of whack that night. the next day he asked me out.

i know im still in love with my husband because no matter how irritated or mad at him i get he just has to make a silly face and i melt like butter

sam vimes
02-12-2011, 01:48 AM
I knew I loved my wife when she called me on my bullshit and looked insanely good doing it.

SirLucius
02-12-2011, 03:37 AM
Hrm... I don't have any experiences to share. xD

kiratsukai
02-12-2011, 08:31 AM
I just got up at 6a.m. to go to Osaka for less than 18 hours in the biggest snowstorm we've had in 25 years. Highways were closed, planes were grounded... but the trains ran. It took 6 hours of lines, packed-to-the-gills chaos and a hundred bucks, but I got there.

When I did, I was met by an awkward geek in a Monster Hunter t-shirt with a red rose in his hand and snow in his hair.

...

Worth it.

Lithium Flower
02-12-2011, 10:33 AM
When I did, I was met by an awkward geek in a Monster Hunter t-shirt with a red rose in his hand and snow in his hair.

...

Worth it.

I need to make a cartoon of that.

Because nothing is quite so cute like nerds in love, next to a bag of puppies.