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Ami
01-13-2004, 07:45 PM
Hey all as many of you who hang around here know im an avid wanna be cross player, and those of you who have also read what my parents would do to me, if they ever found out know how much of a dangerous business im runnning. Well it almost came to a horrific end for me today, my parents found out what i had planned...... scary as it is i survived very much kudos go out to my friends mom for saving me and my skills at groveling, i survived and i still get to do what i want so this is a word of hope for all you crossplayers about your parents it can be done, it might not be pretty but it can be done yeah so there is hope thought id share that.

Asukas~Doll
01-13-2004, 07:52 PM
Oh wow, and you lived to tell the tale. Well I guess you won't need that space in Yunie's closet anymore.

But good, at least you won't have to hide what you do from your parents... right?

Ami
01-13-2004, 08:13 PM
thats still up in the works... she accepted it but i dont know how its gonna wear though time... so leave me a space but if sombody else needs it more then me they can have it...

yukitoLeonheart
01-13-2004, 08:37 PM
I am sorry about that..... I give you a lot of props for having the courage.......well to just do this.

Ookami
01-13-2004, 09:26 PM
I wish I could tell my parents....But my dad would kill me :eeek: :waaaah:

And my mum would be pretty freaked out! :lost:

At least I don't live with my dad...

Menchi
01-13-2004, 11:09 PM
ahh gotta love the 1950's mindset ppl have sometimes. but atleast things kinda worked out?

i think sometimes parents unless really open minded never really understand the concept of cons an crossplay *Shrug*

Ami
01-14-2004, 07:42 AM
you sayin it loud and clear Menchi...... this generation and the last dont mix well in alot of cases.... kinda like trying to work windows with a mac..... possible but really hard... its alright Ookami..... we can get you some sanity somehow we just have to find the key hole... so i guess that leaves another comment comin out of me what do you think of the generation gap between us and parents do some think thats what the cause of our problems are?

Asukas~Doll
01-14-2004, 05:25 PM
Well in answer to your question, my opinion says yes. The generation gap is the problem. I think that the later the parents were born the more accepting they might be to the whole crossplay thing.

I don't know. Also another factor would be how their parents brought them up and how they were brought up. For example, my grandmother is a very different type of grandma then you would expect. Before she was 19, she already had 3 kids. So I have a very young grandma. My whole family is like that (except for my mom who didn't have me til she was 23).

So anywho, if they grew up in a very 50's mindset household, then they would be more unaccepting of crossplaying than those that grew up in a more 60's to whenever.

I hope that made any kind of sense and if it doesn't then just forget what I just posted! ^_^

LunarYoma
01-14-2004, 05:38 PM
Hey all as many of you who hang around here know im an avid wanna be cross player, and those of you who have also read what my parents would do to me, if they ever found out know how much of a dangerous business im runnning. Well it almost came to a horrific end for me today, my parents found out what i had planned...... scary as it is i survived very much kudos go out to my friends mom for saving me and my skills at groveling, i survived and i still get to do what i want so this is a word of hope for all you crossplayers about your parents it can be done, it might not be pretty but it can be done yeah so there is hope thought id share that.


Good for you. As my crossplaying alot of people know. My mom, brother, aunt, cousin(male), cousins GF, 3 'friends', & grandma know about it. only person who doesnt know is my dad.

topleka
01-14-2004, 10:27 PM
Well, I'm glad you survived. My parents are very strict last-generation type peoples, but they're totally cool with it. My mom helps me with my costumes, and both of them always come to cons with me and stuff. But I dressed up as Amiboshi for Twin day at school the other day, and I freaked out half the school by telling them Amiboshi was a guy. O_o

Ami
01-15-2004, 07:58 AM
wow im gone for a couple hours and the thread explodes awsome... well im a thinkin of going up another step and actually asking her for some help *shudder* at this point i have nothing to lose.... heh all i need to do is bring my moms friend over again.... this is going to be hairaising at best.... anyways... so yeah thats the update and thanks everybody for all your comments

Fault
01-19-2004, 11:17 PM
I'm so lucky, I've been weird all my life and anyone I know who hears about me crossplaying just chalks it up as yet another eccentricity.

Congrats to all who runs the gauntlet of the crossplay closet.

Ami
01-22-2004, 10:40 PM
im considered crazy but not that crazy that would be nice.... ah well

DeirdraMaeron
01-23-2004, 02:28 AM
Wow...my parents have apparently always secretly feared and they have openly discouraged my interests in conventions and cosplay (the fact that I might crossplay has most likely never crossed their minds). They frowned at me for trying to learn Klingon and in my house anime is known as "my stupid shows"

Don't get me wrong, I love my parents and they never actually forbid me to do anything anymore (being twenty does have its perks) but I know that they won't aprove of their daughter running around as Ryouga or Alucard (or even Akane or some other girl). That's why I have never yet attended a convention.

I'm actually more afraid of my sister's reaction. She has always been a little embarrassed by my...er...quirkyness (as my father puts it) and she is really vocal in her opinions....*sigh*

Does anybody else have this problem with siblings (or other relatives)?

Still, congratulations on surviving your parental encounter Ami-san and I hope I can be brave enough to tell my parents about my own furtive crossplay plans someday (preferably after I get back from the con when they won't be able to stop me). My sister...well what she doesn't know can't annoy me.

Ami
01-23-2004, 07:43 AM
exactly DeirdraMaeron my favorite anti parental\sibling rule is always have a backup plan and since your of age you can go and do whatever you want.... also always remember they can try and stop you but your always one step ahead.... so yeah thats my inspiritional advice to you.... have a backup plan and always remeber this is your story.....

tekla
01-23-2004, 08:38 AM
As a parent myself, it almost saddens me to hear how some parents can be. My mom has always been a bit kooky and would have never minded and niether would I when my kids get older. But I do understand how some older parents can get stuck in a certain mindset. The best thing to do is have patience with them. Hopefully your mom's friends can be a good mediator between you too. It does help sometimes to have that third person there..:) Kudos to you for finaly telling her, I'm know something like that isn't the easiest thing to do. Having your mother help you with a costume or two might be a good idea. It'll help her realize exactly what your doing and see that it's not bad at all :)

Ami
01-23-2004, 04:34 PM
thanks for the advice Tekla very informative and very true we will see what happens now that shes changed her mind again the future is a bit..... shadowed but i will succedd

chibi_kitsune
01-23-2004, 07:25 PM
Well I gald you survived, My perants don't seem to care want costume I make as long it's decent, they even give me ideas and help me find a way to make my costumes. I just love costumes and it's just for fun I wish everyone could just have fun and not have worry what their perants would think.

Ami
01-24-2004, 12:40 AM
good on ya Chibi Kitsune your one of the luckey elite few who have the ability to do that type of thing and kudos for you and your parents for your ideas and your parents not caring ill let you know as i get more detail on moms latest change of heart....

DeirdraMaeron
01-26-2004, 02:54 AM
Wow! I told my Momma that I want to go to a convention in May and I mentioned dressing up. She gave me the look (the long-suffering-why-is-my-daughter-insane-but-I-love-her-so-I'll-humor-her look) but surprisingly didn't say anything against it. She just told me she didn't want me driving in Raleigh (since I will be a fairly new driver) and she'd rather someone else be in charge of transportation (also because I'm prone to having Ryouga moments, not just my dubious driving). So YAY!

I didn't mention that I want to dress as a guy. We'll work up to that (mostly because I can't lie to my momma to save my neck) but this seems like a good step in the right direction to me. I think my parents are starting to realize that my obsession with anime won't just go away.

So, YAY!! I'm glad I read this thread. It gave me the courage to tell my parents a little about my new hobby. My sister....well, she doesn't need to know yet. I hardly ever talk to her anyway. *smile*

Ami
01-31-2004, 12:59 PM
kudo's to ya DeirdraMaeron it took me a long time to even get the courage to even think about telling my parents.... if i may coin a phrase, you have a 1 in 5 chance of winning but in your case .5 sounds about right... thats what applied to me... well best of luck to you DeirdraMaeron and remember once its over theres nothing else to worry about because they already know good luck

DeirdraMaeron
01-31-2004, 01:48 PM
Thanks! Woo-hoo! I registered and have my tickets paid for!! I even found a friend to go with me!! YAY!! Animazement 2004!!

I'm really excited...(you never would have guessed, right?)

I hope everything is working out with your parents as well, Ami.

chibi_kitsune
01-31-2004, 05:40 PM
Thanks! Woo-hoo! I registered and have my tickets paid for!! I even found a friend to go with me!! YAY!! Animazement 2004!!

I'm really excited...(you never would have guessed, right?)

I hope everything is working out with your parents as well, Ami.



Have fun a the convention, I only been to one but it was alot of fun. I'm planning on going to one this year, i was going to go last year but I didn't have the money.

Starlit Rose
01-31-2004, 06:27 PM
Wow, I wasn't aware that some parents disliked crossplay THAT much. o.O; It's not like it's a day-to-day basis (and even that is harmless. c'mon now XD). My parents know that what I'm doing is just costume and for fun, and they could care less whether I cosplayed a girl or a guy. Yay for un-hiding though! ^^

Ami
02-01-2004, 12:12 AM
lol everything should be ok im back to my old ways of shall i say use although the parent is looking harder for signs i can hide them better anyways so yeah thats the latest up date....