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Sindel
02-13-2004, 11:31 AM
Hey everyone. Sorry if this sounds silly but I cant be the only one who has felt this way and you all seem very nice...I've wanted to cosplay for years now in particular crossplay. I think being either Aeris from FF VII or Sailor Mars would be alot of fun. The only thing stopping me is confidence. I just can't get myself to do it. I feel like Im too big and would look horrible, I have no experience with other cosplay, I worry about what my friends/parents would think, and so on. I'm just to afraid to, even though Ive wanted to for a long time. Any thoughts/comments/suggestions?

Kanna-chan
02-13-2004, 12:15 PM
Don't care about what other peoples think. Ya never know until ya try?
That... was horrible advice. *prepares to have things thrown at her*

dani
02-13-2004, 01:12 PM
Confidence comes from the inside, but it can be "coached" somehow.

The best way to improve your confidence is being pleased with how you look, and the best way to look good is to go slowly and in steps.

Going from never having crossplayed to sailor Mars there is a lot to practise and learn. Depending on your starting point it might take weeks or months. Read the threads here about crossplaying and work your way up. Seing your progress will work wonders for your confidence.

good luck...

Dani

Kokuu
02-13-2004, 08:19 PM
One of the wonderful things about the anime and cosplaying community is that they are very accepting and open minded. While some still regard it as weird, crossplay is becoming more widely accepted. If other people decide to be rude to you, and make fun because you want to cosplay as a girl, that's their problem, not yours. They are just being immature jerks. It's really hard not to take things personally, but you can't let other people's opinions influence yours.

The parents issue is a tough one, and there isn't one catch-all remedy. Both my parents know I crossplay. They think it's weird (they think anime and cosplay in general is weird) but they don't mind. But it's a lot easier for me being a girl to crossplay as a guy. You guys have it tough. (Damn double standards) You can try to explain to your parents that you want to crossplay because you like the character, and it has nothing to do with sexual orientation (number one crossplay misconception) Or, as the saying goes, "what they don't know, don't hurt them."

Nobody has a perfect body. Even models have some sort of flaw. And for the most part, there's nothing we can do about it. I'm overweight, but overall I am pretty happy with how I look. Would I love to be skinnier? Sure! But I embrace who I am, and I don't let my imperfections get in the way of cosplay for the most part. (Although It's not crossplay, I wore a Gunner Yuna outfit from FFX-2, and that thing is skimpy as hell). Cosplayers come in all sizes and shapes, and you should cosplay the character you like, no matter what the body size.

Or gender, for that matter.

LunarYoma
02-14-2004, 04:52 AM
Hey everyone. Sorry if this sounds silly but I cant be the only one who has felt this way and you all seem very nice...I've wanted to cosplay for years now in particular crossplay. I think being either Aeris from FF VII or Sailor Mars would be alot of fun. The only thing stopping me is confidence. I just can't get myself to do it. I feel like Im too big and would look horrible, I have no experience with other cosplay, I worry about what my friends/parents would think, and so on. I'm just to afraid to, even though Ive wanted to for a long time. Any thoughts/comments/suggestions?

Damn..Id love todo a Sailor Star Fighter if my facial features were more feminine(or had better makeup skills). Take a look at my pics in my photo gallery. I did my first crossplay september 2003 & i had a blast. i had zero makeup skills, so what i did was made my own mask(had a cloth like mask i bought) & painted it after a picture of kabuki mask i found on the net.

I was going to be extremely nervious(displaying my face to the public on my first crossplay), but since i did that mask(hideing my face) i wasnt nervious at all. It was extremely fun for me.


My advice for ye is to work your way up to what ye want todo.
If you got a pic you can display here Id can give ye suggestions if ye like.

How old are you?
For ye parents, how do they feel about your interest in anime & your interest in cosplaying?

If they find it weird(or not) & are very accepting of it, then my advice(if ye want ye parents to know) is to tell the parent that is the most accepting(&/or the one you feel you can confide in).

Satin
02-14-2004, 08:44 AM
Damn..Id love todo a Sailor Star Fighter if my facial features were more feminine(or had better makeup skills). Take a look at my pics in my photo gallery. I did my first crossplay september 2003 & i had a blast. i had zero makeup skills, so what i did was made my own mask(had a cloth like mask i bought) & painted it after a picture of kabuki mask i found on the net.

I was going to be extremely nervious(displaying my face to the public on my first crossplay), but since i did that mask(hideing my face) i wasnt nervious at all. It was extremely fun for me.


My advice for ye is to work your way up to what ye want todo.
If you got a pic you can display here Id can give ye suggestions if ye like.

How old are you?
For ye parents, how do they feel about your interest in anime & your interest in cosplaying?

If they find it weird(or not) & are very accepting of it, then my advice(if ye want ye parents to know) is to tell the parent that is the most accepting(&/or the one you feel you can confide in).

Yep you can wear a mask like me also.

Anyway Luna...your haloween gown is gorgeous.where did you get it from?

Takuropop
02-14-2004, 02:42 PM
Kokuu is so right, the cosplaying community are so open and friendly that they will embrace you whatever costume you go in, crossplay or not.

The thing you need to remember is that it's just a bit of fun. If you are enjoying yourself then go for it! You also have to be wary that you may get a few negative comments, but to be honest ALL cosplayers do.

In the UK crossplay seems to be more common than cosplaying your own gender at times. I love crossplaying, but for men it can sometimes be more nerve racking, considering how skimpy some female outfits are. If you feel nervous, maybe go for a character with a more concealing costume first, and work from there. There are so many characters that the possibilities are neverending.

LunarYoma
02-14-2004, 02:54 PM
Yep you can wear a mask like me also.

Anyway Luna...your haloween gown is gorgeous.where did you get it from?
found it on the net. forgot where i got it from.

Sindel
02-15-2004, 09:47 AM
Thank you all.

Going from never having crossplayed to sailor Mars there is a lot to practise and learn.

Any reason in particular? Seems like it would be a popular choice.


I wouldn't want to decieve my parents, but I guess it wouldn't hurt if they never knew...

dani
02-15-2004, 11:52 AM
Quote:Going from never having crossplayed to sailor Mars there is a lot to practise and learn.
Any reason in particular? Seems like it would be a popular choice.
Yes, it is popular.
What i mean is that you will be trying to emulate a "cute petite curvy japanese female idealized teenager". If you are neither of those to start, there is a lot of room to cover.

You should definitely aim for what you want, just be prepared for how much work it will involve.

Feel free to ask if you have specific questions...

Dani

Sindel
02-15-2004, 11:04 PM
Well you have any suggestions? The costume wont be a problem but what about the whole cute petite curvy japanese female idealized teenager thing? I don't really know where to start. Anything in particular you can point me to?


as for a costume that is less revealing...I dont think Aeris is very revealing. Maybe it would be better.

dani
02-15-2004, 11:40 PM
Well you have any suggestions? The costume wont be a problem but what about the whole cute petite curvy japanese female idealized teenager thing? I don't really know where to start. Anything in particular you can point me to?
Difficult to be specific without knowing the starting point (like how you look & measure now) but there are "sticky" crossplay threads about reshaping the body for a female look. Three key points are: making realistic breasts, expanding your hips and tightening your waist to resemble female proportions.
If you are showing legs, you should either shave them or wear enough opaque tights to hide their hair. Shaving should be considered in any part of the body that's shown, except your head. On that point, getting a wig will avoid you many hairstyling problems.
The last point would be your face, and the options are learning to apply makeup, getting someone to do it for you, wear a mask or do nothing.
as for a costume that is less revealing...I dont think Aeris is very revealing. Maybe it would be better.
A sailor skirt can be made as long or short as you want, but the outfit is usually tight around the waist (mine is all lycra), so depending on how confident and comfortable you are showing your curves, you might stick to your sailor or go with a loosen dress as Aeris.

Hope this helps...

Dani

Sindel
02-16-2004, 12:06 AM
I dont know my measurements, but I'm pretty big. like 5'9, 230. I dont know if any amount of makeup or expanded hips could not make me look dumb. Aeris seems like itd be alot easier. But Mars doesnt necessarily mean I have to wear the sailor outfit though. I could be her with something more managable. I dont know what though.

Kokuu
02-16-2004, 12:53 AM
Aeris would probably be a better first crossplay, since her outfit much more modest, and she doesn't have the curves like Sailormars does. And since you are a bigger cosplayer, more coverage, especially when crossplaying is definetly more comfortable until you get used to it (myself speaking from experiance) A short skirt like Sailormars' will typically draw attention to the hips/thighs area.

dani
02-16-2004, 01:36 AM
I think a cosplay doesnt need to have accurate details of every single angle of the character, but it's better appreciated if the cosplayer can reproduce the KEY elements of the character look.

For better or for worst, the sailors are designed purposely in a very specific way to accentuate their femeninity. The length of the legs in proportion to the whole body is outside the limits of reality (at least of the reality of most of us). And the waist/skirted hip ratio is not there by accident, but by design.

A sailor can wear a school uniform and the silhouette will still be recognized from afar.

There is a LOT that can be done with reshaping undergarments and makeup and nobody knows how far you can go. That's why I said that you have a lot to practise and learn. The sooner you get going, the better :)

Have fun,

Dani

topleka
02-16-2004, 08:12 PM
I'm in the strange position of having parents be accepting while friends are weirded out by my crossplay. For them, I just tell them that I like the character and if they want to draw their own conclusions from me dressing as the opposide gender, it's their idea, not mine.

And it's true. Most anime fans are a lot more open, so if you're crossplaying at a con, you probably won't be looked down upon. You may feel nervous at first, and that's natural. The first time I crossplayed, I got so nervous that I ran back to my room and changed costumes after two hours. It was kinda sad, since now I really like that costume. ::points to what Kokuu said:: And yeah, do Aeris first. Much less revealing. Easier to start out with.

Sindel
02-16-2004, 09:48 PM
There is a LOT that can be done with reshaping undergarments and makeup and nobody knows how far you can go.



Any big suggestions for undergarments as far as Aeris goes?


I think I'm going to tell one of my friends next time I see them.

dani
02-16-2004, 10:32 PM
Any big suggestions for undergarments as far as Aeris goes?
The three main points (boost bust, cinch waist, pad hips) are general for any female costume. What changes from one costume to another is the scrutiny of the end results.

After you read the relevant sticky threads on the crossplay board, a Sears catalog can show you pages and pages of shaping underwear choices.

Enjoy..

Dani

msanogi
02-22-2004, 11:07 PM
One thing. I REALLY respect the guys who go out there and crossplay. Cause that takes guts. But the coolest thing is that they're having fun and that's what counts. So go on crossplay who you want, you have my respect!! ^^x (not that my respect really matter to anyone *sniffle sniffle* j/k) sorry if i seem just a touch off topic...

dani
02-23-2004, 12:16 AM
I REALLY respect the guys who go out there and crossplay....
sorry if i seem just a touch off topic...
I don't see it out of topic at all. Knowing you are respected does lots to your confidence, which is precisely the topic of this thread.

Thanks for your words, msanogi

Dani

hobbit_marco
03-29-2004, 12:36 PM
I also have the problem of being shy. But I want to get rid of it so i also figured to do it in steps. My first step is to let my hair grow long, I suppose that will generate alot of comments from people for a while. I think having long hair will be nice. I think girls look nice, and it isn't a crime to look nice yourself right?
Another step I might be taking is to shave my bodyhair and even start wearing short pants again. I've never worn anything but long pants the past years ^^.
I will be in college starting nexy school year, so I want to make some kind of a new start then.
Another question, is sweating alot when talking (or typing) about emberassing things etc. a confidence- mind- related thing. Will it go away if I have more confidence? Maybe someone here that cured from shyness can tell me? :)

Kenjiro
03-29-2004, 08:09 PM
A good thing I've noticed to build confidence is to focus on your sense of apathy. lol

Really though, when it comes to crossplaying confidence, I find that simply respecting your body is the key. I'm a narcissist, so I guess that helps, but I have a high value on the asthetic concept of my body.

Of course, I was simply blessed with the features I have. My eyelashes, darken my eyes to the point of natural eyeliner, my long flowing black hair resembles that of the goddess Athena; my slender frame the Goddess has naturally blessed me with, I couldnt ask for anything more.

*the above statement was a joke making fun of my innate aristicratic/metrosexualistic/vain personality-I'm really not that egotystical....*

Ethereal
04-01-2004, 10:03 AM
I'm trying to build confidence in myself, I'm a transsexual anyway, although most of the time I wear guys clothes because my some of my friends slate me about it and my parents frown upon it.

I'm trying to work more on my figure this year, I'm either planning to Crossplay Princess Zelda from OOT, Aeris from FFVII. I'd love to do either Yuna or Rikku from X-2 but my arms are WAYY too bulky for that and I haven't got the figure at all for it.

C'est la vie.