at the end of the day...

[GreenOysterCult]

So i've been reading the "How to tell parents im crossplaying" type threads here, And i keep finding the same answer.

"when the day is done, you wont be crossdressing anymore... and ... As long as you dont dress 24/7, its okay... just REMIND your parents that your NOT a full-time crossdresser"

-stuff like that.

What if i dont want the Crossover to be done when im home from the con? I know i dont.

i want to be able to crossplay, but lying to them and saying "no no! i dont want to be full time!" would be terrible, and im not sure if i could get it off my consiounce.

I want to use crossplay as a sort of, a getting-out-into-public stepping stone, if that makes any sence.

thoughts? suggestions?

[adriannrod]

Tell them you want to crossplay more often, and it makes you happier in your on skin. If you tell them how you feel, and make it clear that you will be doing this more often with, or without their consent, it may kinda pressure them into accepting it. Of course, take all advice with a grain of salt, and try to rename this thread with capitals. No one wants to come to a thread that looks like it was made by a n00b.

[chris-chan]

im tired of people sayiong that not using capitols make you look like a noob. as you can clearly see, ive been here for quite sometime now and have made myself a little bit known. and, as you can also clearly tell, i dont use capitols unless i am making a thread, then in the first post i do.

as for how to tell them, i would just go about it the same way i guess. tell them it makes you happy and that you are expressing yourself. i was always raised with the idea that its okay to be yourself and its better to express yourself than to repress yourself and just follow what everyone else thinks. and as for using crossplay as a stepping stone, im right there with you. i always thought the feelings i had were just of the grass is always greener on the other side, but not to long ago i found out about transgender issues and how i might just be transgendered. im still trying to find myself though, so im not gonna come out and say i am or am not transgendered, but im hoping to use crossplay to help me find my true self.

[Mangochutney]

Crossplay is one thing. Crossdressing is another. It sounds like that's more what you have in mind, in which case taking advantage of the more specialized resources available on the internet would serve you better.

[GreenOysterCult]

Yeah, i kind of slipped out of the habbit of using propper punctuation/grammar. school is out, dont hate me ^_^

I havent actually crossplayed yet, but i have cosplayed at cons a few times, so i cant really "do it more often." Instead, i need to get them to allow me to go WITHOUT saying that im not full time.

Chris, In other threads, you mention how your father got you into anime/cosplay. The same goes for me and my brother. I'll let you know how it goes.

Mangochutney, Like i said befor, im using crossplay as a stepping stone. Also, I dare not go to a tranny/crossdressing forum because it will show up on my history bar, and im not sure if my parents snoop or not. But seeing "www.cosplay.com" is no big thing for them to see because I do cosplay.

[chris-chan]

yeah, my dad got me into anime and in return i got him into conventions. he doesnt cosplay, but he knows i do, and he knows about my crossplay that im planing, and its no big deal to him.

[PoodleBoy]

When you crossplay...you are in fact crossdressing. I dont care what others say, crossdressing simply means "wearing clothing intended for the opposite gender". It doesnt mean drag queen, or transsexual, or crossplayer for that matter. All these things involve crossdressing. When it comes to wearing costumes meant for the opposite sex for acting or performing on stage or attending a costume party on Halloween or crossplaying for a convention, you are indeed crossdressing. And there is nothing wrong with that. Sure, maybe there are lots of crossplayers who do not crossdress outside of crossplay activities. But I know for a fact that many, including myself, enjoy "crossdressing" for other reasons outside of crossplay. Crossplaying is one very creative and fun outlet for people like me. When it comes down to it, this is about crossplaying and whether you crossdress for other reasons too, it doesnt matter. Have fun at the cons and events!!

As for parents.. Its a roll of the dice. I know some parents who are very supportive, and others who have no idea their kids do this... Its sad that this subject matter continues to be such a taboo subject in this day and age. However I AM seeing more signs that parents are getting to be more accepting of their "artistic" kids. What with punk and glam and goth and emo.. parents are getting more used to kids with make-up and wild clothes. I dont know if this has been any help, but we are with you!

An activity that really has nothing to do with cosplay and crossplaying, I LOVE to attend retro 50s theme events, clubs and concerts, car shows, etc. And even though I am a guy, I ALWAYS dress like a 50s girl, usually with a poodle skirt and saddle shoes and a wig. Things like that offer more chances to "dress-up" if you cant wait for the next con!

So good luck with your parents and dont stop dressing-up, simply because the con is over!

[UncertainKitten]

To be honest, I agree with most of your post except the case of the transgender. I wouldn't consider it crossdressing for an MtF transgender to wear female clothes because they honestly identify as girls. In fact, when they dress male it is in theory crossdressing. The rest of it seems reasonably accurate, though crossplay is in the end a subset of crossdressing, and not an incredibly pervasive one into the lifestyle of the crossplayer.

[limey]

Before this thread gets locked down by the mods. If you feel that you are TV/TS or CD try going to this site. CD Forum (http://crossdressers.com/forums/) they have a sub forum for 18-25 years olds. another place is crossplay.net (http://crossplay.net/) either of these sites should be able to help you.

[UncertainKitten]

Mangochutney, Like i said befor, im using crossplay as a stepping stone. Also, I dare not go to a tranny/crossdressing forum because it will show up on my history bar, and im not sure if my parents snoop or not. But seeing "www.cosplay.com" is no big thing for them to see because I do cosplay.

As another "in before the lock" bit of advice, you can set your browser to not record history at all in preferences. I know how to do it in Firefox, so hopefully you use that. Not as sure about IE though :S.

[chris-chan]

To be honest, I agree with most of your post except the case of the transgender. I wouldn't consider it crossdressing for an MtF transgender to wear female clothes because they honestly identify as girls. In fact, when they dress male it is in theory crossdressing. The rest of it seems reasonably accurate, though crossplay is in the end a subset of crossdressing, and not an incredibly pervasive one into the lifestyle of the crossplayer.

i was actually about to bring up that.

and one thing to add, you can always delete your browsing history. your parents just might become suspicous though, but its very easy to do.

[Trade My Heroes]

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[GreenOysterCult]

Forbidan, can you tell me how to set up fire fox please?

[Trade My Heroes]

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[animeBecky21]

An activity that really has nothing to do with cosplay and crossplaying, I LOVE to attend retro 50s theme events, clubs and concerts, car shows, etc. And even though I am a guy, I ALWAYS dress like a 50s girl, usually with a poodle skirt and saddle shoes and a wig.

Would love to hear how that goes over with the car show crowd. Might be PM-worthy.

Anyhow, for the OP - if you have a myspace page you might check around some of the forums and groups and things there, there are plenty of TG folks on the site who might be able to offer better advice than here. I'm on there, for instance. But if your parents look and see like 50 different "www.myspace.com/whatever..." in the history, you should be fine.

There are a lot of shades of gender and not everyone just knows exactly where they fall in the mix. Just watch out for the trolls -