Well, for my dress form stand I'm using a tall stool: the form rests on top of it. It is a little annoying because the form is easy to knock over, but it does the trick. But if you want to use a pole, any kind of pole should do.
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Currently Working On:
Sansa Stark (Direwolf Dress): Embroidery, Dress, Cloak
Astrid (HTTYD 2)