Originally Posted by Blood_Sword
God knows how many times I've got the "Are you a boy or a girl?" question both in cosplay and out of it..
Now first of I'm transgender male, pre-everything. I must say that whenever I get asked that question I feel very mixed emotions. Firstly it means I did a decent job presenting male because they can't tell my biological gender straight away -but- at the same time I feel very awkward and more often than not, hurt, because that question also means that I didn't completely pass either because they are still questioning. It's very hard to describe exactly what I mean... there's so much going on in my head whenever that question pops up and I almost never know what answer to give when asked either. I just stand there awkwardly and if I happen to have my cosplay friends around me occasionally they might chime in and tell the asker I am in fact a he/him/male/whatever or, although rarer, transgendered. Yes, I am very open about it at at cons, like if someone were to ask me if I'm transgendered I'd answer "yes I am". It's not something I am ashamed of, it's who I am. But for some reason I just have a dang hard time to tell it when asked that "are you a boy or a girl?" question because that question is so.. unforgiving and blunt... it gives me no leeway; just black and white without gray. It makes me confused are they in fact asking for my assigned at birth gender (which I hate to associate myself with) or the gender I identify with? And seriously, why does it even matter so much what I am in the end? I'm human just like you and everyone else, let me do my cosplaying and have fun without infecting my mind with such troublesome and secondary things like gender.
Also, some years ago I used to think cosplaying male characters was crossplay to me because I am not biologically male... but.. because I identify as male I no more view it as crossplay, I am cosplaying my gender at heart. It's just cosplay
. Actually I get a bit offended when told that I crossplay.. because that means they assume I'm female which I'm not
Sorry for the long post and if I make no sense.
I'm going to be a creep and tell you that i think i've stalked your deviant art a little while ago and was like, dying from how amazing your cosplays were. Gender shouldn't matter for anything, because you're a wonderful cosplayer. <3
There was only one time when a person asked me whether or not I was a boy or a girl, and that was at a con when I was cosplaying as Heisuke Toudou from Hakuoki in his western uniform. I was a little disappointed because I'd spent hours on watching cosplay makeup tutorial videos from zWinnieYap (by the way, her videos are amazing, LOL), bounded my chest as much as I could, and tried to make sure that I looked and acted like a boy as much
as possible. But once I opened my mouth to reply to his question, he already figured out that I was a girl. ;;''
I have a feminine face and although it's nice outside of crossplay, it's a little frustrating when you're trying your hardest to portray a male character!