I am so sorry that you have been told that. Whoever said that is a very shallow person. Body shape/size doesn't matter AT ALL. Ero lolita is a sub style, not a category for bustier lolitas. Modesty is the cornerstone for the style, and from what you're saying, you are being modest. If you want to look less busty, go right ahead! If you want to show your natural bust size, more power to ya! Hope that helps.
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