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Unread 02-21-2011, 09:27 PM   #46
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Well, I'm genderqueer, and as I was explaining this to my mother, she and I began pondering what life would have been like had I been born with opposite genitalia.

Here's what we came up with:

I'd be slim and fast, but not a sports player.
I'd be sensitive, but not brooding.
I might play a guitar.
I'd probably have ranked a place or two higher in the top ten percent in high school, simply due to the difference in pressures put on girls and boys in high school. (Girls are conditioned to put more emphasis on relationships, etc.)
I might be a history major and a creative writing minor, rather than the reverse (my current major and minor.)

But, the weirdest thing:
I'd have married the girl who's been my best friend since I was five. And we'd be incredibly happy.

Thinking about this sort of made me realize that I'd been in love with her throughout most of my life. But, of course, I just thought I was a tomboy, I wasn't attracted to most women, and I was attracted to men, so I just thought we had a very intense best-friendship. I never let myself think about how I ACTUALLY felt about her, other than identifying extremely heavily with Idgie and Ruth in Fried Green Tomatoes (the movie...in the book, they're actually lesbians.)
I had no idea one could be genderqueer or pansexual. Now, in my twenties, I've only recently realized that I am both.
It would have only worked if I'd been a guy, though. She's totally straight, married now and all that stuff. And I've got a boyfriend with whom I am currently in love.

I have no intention of ever telling her, but I just wanted to write it, you know?

Sorry if this is too much information, or awkward, or strange. *...sneaks away.*
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Unread 02-21-2011, 09:36 PM   #47
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Sorry if this is too much information, or awkward, or strange. *...sneaks away.*
I thought it was kind of sweet. =)
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Unread 02-21-2011, 09:37 PM   #48
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@flora I've always believed that you love who you love, and that gender doesn't always factor into it.

On another note:

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Unread 02-21-2011, 09:41 PM   #49
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you could probably make a looooooooong list of things you'll get to do while the house is quiet.

and /momvoice cracked me up.
i swear i just now saw this ><

OH yeah, the house is in much need of a deep cleaning which is impossible while either of the boys are home :P cleaning is definitely not my specialty (i HATE it!) but it needs to be done

i'm glad you liked that ^_^

@ hair dye and bleaching: i've not had my natural color since before my son was born, but i'm pretty careful to let my roots grow out and then cut all the old color out before using the next. the exception was bleaching last year, and i just made sure to use conditioner daily since i had to bleach my roots three times over the course of the summer. i went black over the winter, and am going back to blonde next weekend

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(incredibly cute story!)
i know the feeling. one of my closest friends is 5 1/2 years younger than me and i've known her since she was 6. i was always the person she turned to for support since she was the youngest and her older siblings constantly picked on her and sometimes she felt like her parents didn't care. right before i moved, there wasn't anything i wouldn't do for this girl, and sometimes i just wanted to snatch her up and run away. i could never tell her though, we were both raised an pretty strict "christian" houses where homosexual relationships were not accepted. she ended up marrying a kid i went to high school with, and when i was out there 5 years ago i told him if he ever did anything to hurt her no one would ever find his body ^_^

we're not nearly as close as we used to be, but when i moved it was at the point of almost being awkward, and she is happy with her life so i'm happy for her even though my life sometimes seems like it's falling apart
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Unread 02-21-2011, 09:47 PM   #50
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@Flora88: Thanks for sharing your story! It was pretty brave of you to do so.
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Unread 02-21-2011, 10:03 PM   #51
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Not to harp on it, but this clip is pretty much a good explanation as to why the other thread got shut down.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nbgOQf4NaG8

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Unread 02-21-2011, 10:14 PM   #52
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Unread 02-21-2011, 10:22 PM   #53
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@everyone

Thanks for the supportive comments and stuff, y'all. *blush*

I was totally afraid I was going to get either awkward silence or someone telling me that I'm not actually genderqueer or pansexual, like they do occasionally in the Real World. (Don't you just love how people try to slap a label on the issues you've been privately dealing with for your entire life without ever having experienced anything like them themselves?)

So yeah. You guys are ballers.
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Unread 02-21-2011, 11:15 PM   #54
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i miss my husband, he just started his own buisness with a friend as his partner. I dont get weekends off from work, and his shops closed on Sundays so hes home and i have to work. i dont get to see him much. I miss him but im really proud of him
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Unread 02-22-2011, 12:14 AM   #55
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Unread 02-22-2011, 12:30 AM   #56
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Got back from Katsucon. Now planning my next cosplay.
Staying up much too late and I'm hoping school's gonna be closed tomorrow, otherwise I will hate myself in the morning.

Oh, also, @Flora:
Sorta same thing happening. Best friend since 5th grade, my girlfriend now. No one knows except...us. We have a very close group of shared friends, but we're both much too scared to come out to them. My parents know I'm bisexual and they're fine with it, but her parents don't know. Things are...complicated. ^.^; It seems much worse than it actually is when I type it out.
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Unread 02-22-2011, 01:29 AM   #57
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This needs to happen.

It may not be Kevin Bacon, but it's still pretty cool.
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Unread 02-22-2011, 02:08 AM   #58
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Finally got rainboots! I wonder if I get to use them anytime soon, because I went crazy from trying on boots and rainboots from other stores and my feet hurting from trying them on. And a new backpack! I love how Target have military style bags.
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Unread 02-22-2011, 07:23 AM   #59
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Hmmm... We haven't seen Lithium Flower since that 'sleep-over'... Maybe her boyfriend turned out to be a serial-killer cannibal. >.> (I'M KIDDING!!!!!) But, really... Hope all is well. =)
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Unread 02-22-2011, 07:48 AM   #60
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