Are you referring to more of an aristocratic kodona
style (also known as dandy
)? Most lolita brands and many online shops sell the pants that are used for this. A lot of making it look less like visual kei is going to be how you coordinate it and which colors you pick to begin with, more browns or blues rather than blacks maybe. Make sure to invest in a good pair of the pants (you may have to pay some serious money for these). These pants
are cheaper or you could go the more expensive/quality route with something from Innocent World
or another brand or taobao shop. Coordinate the pants with a less frilly lolita blouse, a vest or coat, maybe a jobot or some sort of tie, socks, more masculine shoes, and a top hat. The most important part of this is going to be keeping it classy! Good luck!