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Unread 03-28-2018, 03:38 PM   #10336
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I just really want this (school) year to be over. I'm way past the point of 'it's going to get better', 'taking it with a grain of salt', 'just getting up and doing what you need to do'. It's not enough for me anymore. I don't mean this in a suicidal way, just out of frustration, stress, anxiety, and I don't mean that I need more (because I've learned not to chew more than what you can eat). I'm always surrounded by snobs, jerks et al and I know as a general rule those people don't matter (trust me, I know) and to ignore them but what I mean is I'm surrounded by people who don't stimulate me. They don't challenge me, always take the easy way out, don't give a shit and all that and create this toxic environment even if they don't really see it or think about it, but I do. I can't thrive in that kind of place and anyone's gone through a bad school experience(s) know exactly what I'm talking about.
That's why I was dreading going back this year, and venting this late in the game considering the school year ends in April it's kinda of a moot point, so obviously I might as well finish. But if it weren't one of my friends actually returning to school (as he previously said he wasn't entirely sure if he wanted to) and a new friend I made back in September (and still keep in contact) I honestly wouldn't know what to do.
My sister and I were talking about Graduation, and to be honestly, I really don't care what we do, I just want to get the hell out. I'm fucking done. I don't mean to redirect my bad experience back to my sister, what I'm saying anything goes just a long as I get to finally leave so we can do anything. I know it's supposed to celebratory to be graduating, but really I could have just left last year. A 3rd year in my art program is not mandatory, so going back this year was highly optional but talking to my drawing teacher I had in 3rd year told me I might as well finish. I kept telling myself that obviously what I learn is more important than people who come and go, but the aforementioned toxic environment really did a toll on me.
That's not to say I didn't learn stuff outside of school, or literally everything happening was bad; so I don't want to keep nitpicking the negative stuff and only focus on that but honestly cons outweighed the pros. Just a month more or less to go...
Phew. Been wanting to vent this for sometime now and it feels pretty good.
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Unread 04-05-2018, 12:34 PM   #10337
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Well, I requested off for Tora-con, but I filled out the form wrong and I got scheduled for a shift on Saturday. Now I have to find someone to cover me, or if I can't, beg my manager to take me off the schedule. I've had these plans for months after all...
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Unread 04-05-2018, 07:49 PM   #10338
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Man, Zoeyromanov, that sounds rough. I'm glad it's almost over for you. I understand that dread and just anxiety and need for things to end. Sometimes I feel like my job puts me through bouts like that, and yeah I can just tough it out, but every day is just a grind from hour to hour where you're praying for the end to come, and you don't care how.

Incidentally I once overworked myself with cosplay deadlines and stress and commitments to my closest friend and was literally having visions of how to get out of it even if it ended up being because a car hit me or something. Not a good feeling because I don't even remotely condone or actually feel that way, ever. So I get ya. Hope it comes to an end soon!

KuruttaKanashii, I hope you can get the day off! I really hate that jobs don't actually try to be understanding about that kind of thing, accidents happen!
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Unread 04-09-2018, 09:22 AM   #10339
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I kissed up and got the day off. Now I just have to finish my cosplay before Saturday...
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Unread 04-09-2018, 07:27 PM   #10340
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Man, Zoeyromanov, that sounds rough. I'm glad it's almost over for you. I understand that dread and just anxiety and need for things to end. Sometimes I feel like my job puts me through bouts like that, and yeah I can just tough it out, but every day is just a grind from hour to hour where you're praying for the end to come, and you don't care how.

Incidentally I once overworked myself with cosplay deadlines and stress and commitments to my closest friend and was literally having visions of how to get out of it even if it ended up being because a car hit me or something. Not a good feeling because I don't even remotely condone or actually feel that way, ever. So I get ya. Hope it comes to an end soon!

KuruttaKanashii, I hope you can get the day off! I really hate that jobs don't actually try to be understanding about that kind of thing, accidents happen!
Thanks for the pick-me-up . It is, but it is just my perspective so I wouldn't be able to tell 100%. Still though I can tell by body language (not that every single thing is offensive or anything like that). As I said, friends got me through it (that and coffee or those AMs), Friday and Saturday 'rituals' to help settle down and all that. I'm happy it's almost over too. I hope things settle down on your end too.
Me on cosplay however, I never really stress out because I only do 50% of the work (modify existing materials like shirts, pants etc.) so it's not the same as doing something from scrap (but I'm hoping to get there soon) and I do it five months before, well before my con. That and I still have to juggle school during the time and I do little by little. Again I hope everything works out on your end.
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Unread 04-10-2018, 01:47 PM   #10341
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Thanks for the pick-me-up . It is, but it is just my perspective so I wouldn't be able to tell 100%. Still though I can tell by body language (not that every single thing is offensive or anything like that). As I said, friends got me through it (that and coffee or those AMs), Friday and Saturday 'rituals' to help settle down and all that. I'm happy it's almost over too. I hope things settle down on your end too.
Me on cosplay however, I never really stress out because I only do 50% of the work (modify existing materials like shirts, pants etc.) so it's not the same as doing something from scrap (but I'm hoping to get there soon) and I do it five months before, well before my con. That and I still have to juggle school during the time and I do little by little. Again I hope everything works out on your end.
It's good to have calming things and time set aside, I'm glad your friends helped you with that! I have a friend that taught me to schedule breaks even if I'm on full con crunch, and it made a big difference even when I was going through that stressful time.

Thankfully I'm actually pretty good right now - We cut back on our plans and bought some costumes for our upcoming cons. I'm making new stuff but it's nothing major, and the biggest project I'm working on isn't for a con until August! My work is so-so... but the end of month passed without a crisis so I'm good for now, lol. ^^
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Unread 04-11-2018, 02:05 PM   #10342
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It's good to have calming things and time set aside, I'm glad your friends helped you with that! I have a friend that taught me to schedule breaks even if I'm on full con crunch, and it made a big difference even when I was going through that stressful time.

Thankfully I'm actually pretty good right now - We cut back on our plans and bought some costumes for our upcoming cons. I'm making new stuff but it's nothing major, and the biggest project I'm working on isn't for a con until August! My work is so-so... but the end of month passed without a crisis so I'm good for now, lol. ^^
Me too; you have no idea. Glad hear to hear things on your end are calming down too. Breaks are always important! Current cosplay plans are so-so for me as well. Hope things work out
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Man, new rant. Yesterday my mom and sister planned to go to Walmart and they went. However, before that, my mom asked if I was going. I had homework, and I admit I really didn't do much (did half the work well before hand either way so it was almost done) but regardless of that, I didn't feel the need to go and wasn't really necessary for me to have gone. My mom has the tendency to guilt trip me (or somehow it feels like that to me) for not going and she goes 'Why don't you like being with me? I'm gonna be like that with you that later on, too'. That's not really fair for my mom to do that just because I simply don't want to go some place. She also says stuff like 'Don't be angry/upset all the time, your body will suffer' and this a perfect example as why I feel the way I do (and hence why going to school isn't any better).
And supposedly, today I was 'rude' to my sister because I had wanted to know why the significance of my new mattress (well not new) considering my aunt is coming for visit. I had simply wanted to know why, just to make conversation and in all fairness they were talking about something that's mine, and while it wasn't my intention to sound the way I did my mom doesn't help me when my sister gets on my nerves. In some respect, she doesn't need to because my sister and I are both grown up so it's not like she's dealing with kids. But how does she stand up for my sister and not me when I need help?
I mean, I don't want this to be taken the wrong way but these are just example as I said as to why I feel the way I do.
I know this is my mom we're talking about here, but that can only go so far.
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Unread 04-27-2018, 04:48 AM   #10343
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I never order a costume from China ever again. Of course, I'm that 1% (at least I feel like the 1%, because everyone online always claims it never ever happened to them) who has to deal with customs and with the delivery company for days now. And its the fault of the seller.

They wrote on the package, that the goods inside have a value of 20 Euro...which is obviously bullshit, even for chinese standarts. If they want to cheat their way out of taxes in their own country, okay, do so. But don't get me into trouble that I have to sort out by making your declarations on the package THAT unrealistic. A value of 50 or 70 would have gone smoothly!

Because the value of the package was so low, a custom officer requested to open it and of course found his suspicion confirmed. They declined import until proven by some kind of payment verification, what the value of the package really is. So it stayed in the UPS storage center and they try to contact me.... And of course I'm in the US while that shit happens and don't get the phone call. I just get an email from the seller, telling me to contact UPS...but without telling me whats wrong.

Back at home, I get in contact with UPS. Takes a moment to get to a person in capable of explaining whats going on and what they need, but at least better than any of my other experiances with call centers. I send them the requested proof of payment.

And this morning, I find a note in my mail box to please call a specific employee at UPS because of this package. After the last one told me everything is finde now. And this piece of paper again does not tell me why I should call and what they want from me. And on top of that, they are now also going to charge me for storage costs of the package...additionally to all import taxes and costs. And guess what? That person I should call hasn't answered the phone.

Never again. I swear.
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