I think it also depends on the personality of the child. My youngest daughter is a more softspoken girly girl. She has always loved dresses, dressing up and being pretty.
Liking being center-of-attention is also a plus.
I completely understand about the "calling lolita" statement - If I said Lolita to my mother she would not be very understanding at all. Generation and personality differences.
I have seen a few families in the SNAP section as well. I'll see what I can track down. I'm just bummed that I won't have more time to make something really unique. I have to follow the pattern and that's not as much fun.