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Unread 12-30-2010, 10:45 PM   #1
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Parents can be hurtful sometimes....

My mom...came in the room and laid on my bed watching me draw and was like

"what are you doing?"

And i'm all like

"I'm drawing"

And she was like

"you draw the same pictures over and over again they look exactly the same"

and i got offended and was like

"No they don't mom.....it's the same style but never the same person..."

and she continued to harass me about it till i told her that she wouldn't understand -.- then she told me

"Your being a little emo brat, get over yourself your acting like a 10 years old, i was trying to start a conversation.....so what are you doing?"

"I'm on the internet talking to people I get along with since you never let me go out and been an adult anyway"

which is true when ever i ask to go some where i always get

"Why? your just going to go smoke maryjoana and steal stuff." or "Your not old enough" or "your not mature enough"

and it sucks because i've never smoked in my life and the only time i've ever stolen is when i was 3 and didn't know any better. I'm turning 18 how am i not old enough to go to the mall or movies on my own or with friends? and not mature enough? I'm the first female to make it through high school, already have plans for college, and what to do after college, i clean my room, make my own food and i'm losing weight all on my own....and i'm not mature enough?!

Sheesh.....she is such a jerk sometimes.... -crawls into a corner and pouts while drawing yaoi and sexy maids- D,:
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Unread 12-30-2010, 10:50 PM   #2
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You know what you need? A HUG *hugs*

My mom used to be the same way. Til i moved out. Now she treats me like gold cuz she misses me :'|
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Unread 12-30-2010, 10:51 PM   #3
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Ouch. Sounds like she worries about you, but she doesn't know how to do it in a way that actually connects?
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Unread 12-30-2010, 10:54 PM   #4
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When i move out for college i'll feel better because i wont have to worry so much about her judging me....thats the main reason she is so hurtful.....she nags me about cosplay, anime, the kind of people i talk to, the way i do my work, and how expressive i am about my art....-huggles everyone- I just want her approval most of the time...
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Unread 12-30-2010, 10:57 PM   #5
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My mom used to be the same way. Til i moved out. Now she treats me like gold cuz she misses me :'|
This.

It was strange that she was so controlling and overbearing when I was depending on her so many years ago, but since I moved to college (7 years ago? I forget) and have been living on my own, she does lots of things differently :/

Honestly, as long as you're living with them and they're paying for a roof over your head --- endure.

Not necessarily what you want to hear, but...
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Unread 12-30-2010, 11:08 PM   #6
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My mom hasn't changed a whole lot since I moved out (25 years ago!!), but distance lets us each have our space. I know she's proud of me, but we are just such very different people that she freaks out any time I make a life decision that wouldn't be the one she'd make. My mantra that lets me accept the good parts of her and ignore (as best I can) the parts that drive me nuts is "She means well." And I think most moms really do; some just really can't wrap their brains around the fact that kids aren't little mini-mes.
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Unread 12-31-2010, 05:42 AM   #7
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My mother ignored me for most of my teenage years, now she wants to be involved in everything in my life. It's just one of those things I think. Put up with it until you're old enough to move out. Often people who live together, particularly family, have strained bonds because of being on top of each other and get on better once they're apart.
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Unread 12-31-2010, 05:48 AM   #8
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[quote=CosplayCinema;3739769]My mom...came in the room and laid on my bed watching me draw and was like

"what are you doing?"

And i'm all like

"I'm drawing"

And she was like

"you draw the same pictures over and over again they look exactly the same"

and i got offended and was like

"No they don't mom.....it's the same style but never the same person..."QUOTE]

My mum said something like this to me before..more than once...But I have been changing my style of drawng...but then I go back to my old way of drawing...and then stop drawing then try again...Okay I don't know if that made sence...so I'll just stop^ ^;
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Unread 12-31-2010, 08:12 AM   #9
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Well, I don't know how you draw.
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Unread 12-31-2010, 08:30 AM   #10
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Well, I don't know how you draw.
I was thinking the same thing.
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Unread 12-31-2010, 12:31 PM   #11
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Wow your turning 18 and she behaves like that :/ maybe she's just scared that her little muffin is growing up and soon to be going out into the big bad world and doesn't know how to handle that?

Or maybe she just doesn't consider its really rude to be a jerkface
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Unread 12-31-2010, 12:38 PM   #12
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i grew up in a very strict family and had some ridiculous rules like "you're not allowed to drive with teenagers" ... which pretty much meant i never went out with friends.

take heart, honey. the "mature" thing to do, no matter how hard it is, is to treat your mother with respect and love, even if she is 100% wrong about everything. i don't mean be patronizing and fake, and i certainly don't mean NOT standing up for who you are, what you love, and what is right. but the more gracious you are, the more proud of yourself you'll be. and, when you're no longer living under her guidance, the stronger and better you'll be for it.

things are hard right now, but remember that in reality, nothing stands in your way of being who you want to be. only time. and everything takes time. you'll achieve all your dreams in the end, with or without her. (in my case, entirely without my parents, as i am now estranged from them.) but no matter what happens, be a person you're proud of. take heart. there is so much love and potential in the world. every day is a gift.
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Unread 12-31-2010, 02:32 PM   #13
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my parents didnt understand with me either, but...then I got out, enlisted in the Marines and here I am...
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Unread 12-31-2010, 03:03 PM   #14
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Sometimes you get to hear the same thing from your parents over and over. You get frustrated and end up rebelling against there authority. From the way I see it, your mother cares, the problem is she doesn't know how to express it. Or she may be afraid that she never had the time to actually get to know you, maybe thats why she says those things.

Either way, just be patient with her. My mom is like that but when she calms down, she's all happy and stuff. Parents are weird ^^""
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