Like everybody else has said, any kind of white will work for highlighting! Light, pale pinks also do a very good job of brightening the skin, and anything with shimmer or frost (I prefer a frost, makes the skin have a kind of 'glow' rather than looking like sparkles!) 'll help. My favorite thing to highlight with is the Mehron Celebre HD foundation in E1- it's not a pure white, but I can aaaalmost guarantee it's probably paler than your natural skin tone. You can also use a white cream like Manic Panic Dreamtone foundation in Virgin.
If you don't mind me giving some tips on contouring though, I feel like that's the really tricky part for pale skin, and that's for the reason that most contour colors are brown. What's the base color for brown? Orange. You mix brown with a 'white' (pale) skin tone, it'll blend out to orange.
You need to find an ash, cool toned brown. I have pale skin and had the same problem, for years I couldn't figure out why contouring never worked out right for me!
My favorite powder for countouring is MAC's sculpting powder in Shadowy. It's dark, but if you use it sparingly, it's perfect. Eyebrow powders are much more ideal for contouring pale skin, so check those out if you don't want to spend the money for MAC. Again, just look for something cool toned.
See how Shadowy doesn't have the warmth to it that the color above it does? That's what you want, that almost 'grey' toned brown.
Remember that you don't need a specific 'highlighting' or 'contouring' product! You can use pretty much any kind of powders anywhere... I've contoured with blushes, eyeshadows, and brow powders, and I highlight almost exclusively with eyeshadows!