I had a much better time listening to this guy than the other chick. I think it's because he speaks in a rational way while the girl just rants on and on.
PS: The 'AIR HUMP' achievement cracked me up XD
Decent, but I prefer the non-rant version.
I feel the majority of the message is not to afix labels to yourself. "Be yourself and hope for the best", but at the same time --- everytime I read a "rant" version on the subject. I find myself wanting to disagree with it as much as I can.
Not because I'm a nice guy (or think I'm one), not because I think the people picture deserve a reward they thinks that should come their way. Because I feel the rants always underscore the bad and offer no real applicable advice, there's nice guys, and those are bad. There's jerks, and those are bad too. You need to be in-between, no extremes! But what's in between? Well, it depends on the person actually and their perception and actual desire as well.
There's no actual solution or "perfect behavior" to adapt, and I feel the rants try to say that there is. In my own experience, detached, sparse contact is seen as a lack of interest. Be more attentive --- seen as clingy. It all depends on the woman. (I could start talking about "creepy" and how it's not a static concept, it's also due to the people involved and their perceptions of each other, but that's besides the point).
So, I read those trying to see what I've done that matches those bad behaviors.
Well, I've done the clingy part of asking "why?" and crap like that --- not being able to deal with the situation and wondering what exactly I had done to make everything stop out of nowhere. Wait, that makes me a nice guy that expects their efforts to pan out! But the rant never addresses my situation --- it's always the extreme "Guy makes advances and keeps pushing while the girl says no" or "Guy hovers around without ever asking her out".
So what's the solution? Walk away, even if it's totally unfair, regardless of any pending questions, the answers don't change anything. But if I don't feel, I'm a robot (Not meant as the forum joke I seem to have "owned" for a while on here --- I mean that in the "Uh, I didn't think you felt anything" kinda-way, which is something more than one woman has said to me).
It's probably the hardest thing I have to deal with --- it's either "too much" or "too little" feelings
. And it no longer feels like a natural "be yourself" thing, but more an issue of finding the "right threshold for each person".
Ultimately, it might be because I'm looking for advice in those that I end up frustrated and just want to flip the table on the articles. My outlook would likely be different if I was with someone long-term like, uh, the majority of you guys who commented on this.