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Unread 01-27-2014, 11:12 PM   #1
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Procrastination... Need help

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I have a terrible habit of procrastinating and its really starting to affect me. I keep looking up ways to fix it but the things usually arent possible for me, are things ive already done, or are common sense, or strange apps for devices i dont have. I have anxiety problems and a recent buildup of problems has caused an attack that landed me in the ER.

Please share any experiences youve had with procrastination and how youve fixed it, or what youre trying to do to fix it, or offer advice to those struggling with it.

Me:
-I am mostly struggling with finishing homeworks or projects. I mostly dont have the motivation to do them, because i dont feel like it is worth it, or that it has a purpose at all.

-I dont have a good place to study or work without distractions. My house is practically covered in distractions, like TV, computer, couches/beds (i sleep when im procrastinating or tired after a long day of school so i see any area too cozy as a place to catch some Zzz's)

-I need somewhere i wont feel lonely and scared from every little creak in the house i hear, and somewhere thats well lit.

-I cant/am not willing to download any phone/ipod apps as i do not use those devices very often.

If you know of any computer programs that can help, please tell me about them and how they have helped you. I am open to any tips to help me deal with procrastination. Thank you!
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Unread 01-27-2014, 11:26 PM   #2
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An application might help you to some extent, but it won't fix things. I have anxiety and depression and often struggle with getting tasks done when I am really low on energy.

What works for a lot of people is building up things slowly and giving yourself praise for getting past them.

Hang up a dry erase board or cork-board over your desk, or in a place you'll see it every day, with notes of what you need to get done as a whole and then notes of what you will complete that day.

For example:
-Clean my room
-Study for math test
-Take out trash
-Finish homework
-Complete presentation

Let's assume you have four weeks in which to do all of these things. You're presentation is at the end of the four weeks, but you have homework every night and your test in two weeks.

Take your calender/notes/whatever you write on and decide what needs to get done by these deadlines. Example:

Wednesday night-complete homework for Thursday

Monday, Tuesday, Friday-study for test for 30 minutes

Friday-take out trash

Saturday-clean my room

By breaking up the number of things you have to complete that month into little chunks of responsibility all of a sudden it feels a lot easier to handle. Being able to cross off 'clean my room' and 'finish homework' ends up feeling like you've accomplished something and you can physically see your progress in front of you.

Getting in the habit of doing this over and over again also ingrains it as part of your regular life. It becomes less of something you have to consciously think to do and something that's second nature to look at your day and decide that A B and C can be accomplished without running you dry.
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Unread 01-27-2014, 11:34 PM   #3
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Thanks for the tips, ill get a nice dry-erase board and hang it right above my computer. Theres a few picture frames there right now, but i can move them. I usually keep a checklist of homeworks or other things i need to do in my binder, but i suppose that doesnt really help when its just sitting in a corner away from the computer, my main distraction. Ill also get a board for long-term goals.
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Unread 01-28-2014, 08:26 AM   #4
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If you're procrastinating, and have a lack of motivation, well, this might sound a little personal but are there other things in your life which are causing you to not be able to focus? Getting your personal life in order is a must.

Other than that, hang a calender somewhere visable in hour room, set reminders on your phone. Have somewhere that's your area for study and remove anything which might distract you if you can. If you're like me and have a lot of computer work to do, don't have a wallpaper of your favourite game with a quickstart icon in the taskbar. You could even try motivational posters.

Other than that, stretch every hour or so. It will help keep blood flowing and keep you mentally alert. Diet can be a big one here two. I've noticed a huge drop in concentration if I binge on junk food. Nuts and that sort of thing make great snacks. They have errr... Golly its been nearly 3 years since we had this talk at school, I can't remember exactly what nutrients they have but that helps too. Hope this helps
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Unread 01-28-2014, 09:14 AM   #5
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I can suggest using/installing a time monitor for the computer, similar to how public computers like at the library operate where you only get so many minutes before it locks you out or it automatically shuts down at a certain point. I don't know HOW to obtain it but it shouldn't be difficult. If you're either being too distracted by computer things and it's keeping you up late, or making you put off work, it can be a godsend. During my last exam week I had my boyfriend use remote access to my desktop so my computer would be shut down by my actual, not late, bedtime so I didn't stay up too late (I'm a fashion student, exam week was all hands-on art and sewing projects and my computer was leisure use almost exclusively, then). And likewise, you can set the timer and then only knowing you have, say, an hour to do something that needs to get worked on, well, you don't put things off when you're racing the clock.
And personally, I can get really bored after a shortish period doing things I don't want to do. Splitting between a couple of things tends to help me out (I'll make a list of what has to be done, put on a timer for say, ten minutes a task, and if I'm bored as hell by the end of that ten, I'll switch to something else, etc. til I come back around the list.
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Unread 01-28-2014, 02:28 PM   #6
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Hang up a dry erase board or cork-board over your desk, or in a place you'll see it every day, with notes of what you need to get done as a whole and then notes of what you will complete that day.

For example:
-Clean my room
-Study for math test
-Take out trash
-Finish homework
-Complete presentation
Best idea. It's what I do all the time. Maybe not with a board but with a post it note app and with my calendar in my phone. I have my classes in my phone calendar. And if I am procrastinating so much on something (like a certain assignment or filling out a study guide) I put it straight into my calendar with like 5 alarms. I get super annoyed by alarms so I know if I dismiss the alarm and go do the assignment I won't have to hear it anymore haha.
Making detailed lists for me also helps organize my thoughts on what I have to do... I make lists on when to clean my apartment, like which task to do first or what have you. Sometimes making a specific list like I do can be overwhelming as it seems like a lot. But it's a way that helps me, especially with school.
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Unread 01-28-2014, 02:36 PM   #7
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If you're procrastinating, and have a lack of motivation, well, this might sound a little personal but are there other things in your life which are causing you to not be able to focus? Getting your personal life in order is a must.
Sometimes when im trying to work, (or even when im just sitting there) my mom tries to pick fights with me and well, that distracts me. Also, everyone in my family swears theres something wrong with me mentally after hearing lies fed to them by my mother and sister. It distracts me and makes me really stressed when i have to go to therapy (ive been going ever since 2nd grade since somehow somethings wrong with me that they cant find, yet nothings wrong with my mom who hasnt looked into any help for her problems).

So im usually upset about something in my life thats pissed me off for the day. Rarely, im so angry at whatever happened or something really stupid someone said without any regrets, that i cant even sleep. Like both of the doctors i usually go to that were trying to convert me to being Catholic, and saying how i need religion in my life, blah blah blah. And one of them was extremely homophobic, and saying why people shouldnt be homosexual, etc. And that made me even more angry because i am bisexual.

And again the doctors, my therapist, nearly every adult ive talked to, were saying that since i am not 18 that i dont have my 1st amendment rights of freedom of religion. Gladly, after that anxiety attack that landed me in the ER just a day after my parents prioritized church classes over my physical health, it seemed my parents realized i wasnt joking. I dont have to go to the church again. That really made me feel better.

But my parents/family are really unreasonable and keep circulating lies. Thats why even my sister, who is probably my "best friend" said (she thought it was behind my back because i was trying to sleep) that i am an "a-hole" and i dislike the church because "its going to get rid of the demon inside of her that makes her act like an a-hole". Funny how she couldnt say that to my face, huh? I called her out on that. The reasons i dislike religion is reasonable, and i have facts to back it. If you dont even want to listen to what i have to say, and continue to call me an "a-hole", I think the problems a bit closer to home than you think, honey.

So those are the sort of things i deal with day-to-day, at least recently. Along with the emotional/mental, sometimes physical abuse i get from my mom. And im not going to any specialist for that because my trust in most adults in my real life has been lost, as they all try to throw me in a foster home anyways. Those places are much, much worse than what im dealing with now.
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Unread 01-28-2014, 03:40 PM   #8
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If this can help with studying, this can help you with procrastinating. To get your mind/body more active see: Great Brain Diet.

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Unread 01-30-2014, 12:30 PM   #9
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i'm soooo bad with procrastinating, even now i have a $900 suit that i bought for my Rude cosplay and i've had it sitting there for over a month and still haven't gone and had it tailored yet..
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Unread 02-11-2014, 06:17 PM   #10
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I set up a dry-erase board a few days ago (and its right above my monitor), and its helping me complete more tasks on time! The post that MaiCosplay linked was also very helpful. Thank you all for your suggestions, i am now trying my best to fix my procrastination problem.
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Unread 02-11-2014, 07:39 PM   #11
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I actually did the dry-erase board thing too. :P It really does help. That or even setting alarms on my phone before I go to bed one day so I know what to get done.

But I really like the satisfaction of crossing off/erasing what I've completed.
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