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Unread 08-20-2012, 03:58 PM   #3646
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I can't speak for your situation directly past what you've shared --- unless you were both in a discussion where you planned this out or spoke about dates, it was a "maybe" --- and "meeting up" is not a date. If it was over the internet with a girl you never physically met, chances are that was simply a passing thought of hers --- at bet, she might have considered meeting up with you at an event you were both attending.

In my experience, "maybe" = "no" (Well, it's never turned out as a "yes" much to my dismay), I can't qualify it as anything other than an evasive answer. Although for you it's going to register as a "yes" (I know the feeling intimately), because it's what you want. But then again, my last two recent "attempts" also ended up giving me the roundabout and we were discussing dates, in both cases I ended up having to pressure them several weeks (In one case, a month and a half is what it took, but that was the long distance girl) later where communication had died down or they were suddenly unreachable to finally discover they had went for someone else and didn't actually think I needed to be informed.

It's unbelievably crushing, but it's sadly a fact of life that, as a guy, we will be given the "apparently harmless" roundabout more often than a straight "no". It doesn't mean all girls are like that, even if it feels that way once it happens repeatedly.

So, apart from everyone telling you to avoid sweeping generalizations on a public forum, I don't have any advice for you --- everything that's written on the internet about this is bullshit (My post included), because all situations are different. All you can do is be direct about it and hope the other party has the presence of mind not to be a jackass with your emotions.

EDIT: *Sigh* While I was typing this you went ahead and did another generalization. Waiting's just as bad for women than it is for men --- they're just as badly waiting for a positive answer than you are, will be just as crushed when it doesn't turn out to be.

But it's easy to tell yourself that girls have it easier, there are hundreds of men looking to hit on them usually --- they've certainly got the selection! Doesn't mean they're interested.

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True, but the overwhelming vast majority of the time, we guys have to do the initiating, make all or most of the movies
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Unread 08-20-2012, 03:59 PM   #3647
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Unread 08-20-2012, 04:00 PM   #3648
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True, but the overwhelming vast majority of the time, we guys have to do the initiating, make all or most of the movies
When women aren't interested, yeah.

Otherwise they'll gladly meet you halfway (Which is the confusing part for me since the initiating rarely comes from me).
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Unread 08-20-2012, 04:02 PM   #3649
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True, but the overwhelming vast majority of the time, we guys have to do the initiating, make all or most of the movies
Has it ever crossed your mind that they didn't initiate because they're not interested? Get over those silly double standards of yours, and if you like someone, just tell them and stop griping about you having to be the one to start anything.
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Unread 08-20-2012, 04:04 PM   #3650
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Has it ever crossed your mind that they didn't initiate because they're not interested? Get over those silly double standards of yours, and if you like someone, just tell them and stop griping about you having to be the one to start anything.
yes it has crossed my mind, i guess i'm not attractive enough
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Unread 08-20-2012, 04:06 PM   #3651
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yes it has crossed my mind, i guess i'm not attractive enough
Guess not.

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yes it has crossed my mind, i guess i'm not attractive enough
*shrug* There's superficial people in the world. Besides, who would want to be in a relationship where they're only loved for their looks? Being average-looking can actually be a blessing in disguise......
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*shrug* There's superficial people in the world. Besides, who would want to be in a relationship where they're only loved for their looks? Being average-looking can actually be a blessing in disguise......
i often wonder why i should be considered lucky, blessed, so fortunate to be born male, to be a guy
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Unread 08-20-2012, 04:20 PM   #3654
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Speak for yourself. I love being a man.


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(yes he's older then that. Shut up and don't ruin this)
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yes it has crossed my mind, i guess i'm not attractive enough


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Also, I think fullbleed is mocking you
What! fullbleed mock someone? NEVAH!

Look, ILPC - we understand. Rejection hurts. We've all been there. Sometimes you just need to blow off steam and that's what this thread is for. But as has been pointed out numerous times, complaining about a specific incident or set of circumstances will elicit sympathy. Boo-hooing about "poor pitiful me girls have it so much easier" is both pathetic and insulting and it makes us want to smack you.

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Relax, thanks to Hag, everyone's too busy fantasising about being SLJ to continue.
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Relax, thanks to Hag, everyone's too busy fantasising about being SLJ to continue.
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